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bogie
01-11-2005, 03:11 PM
If your significant other thinks you need to drop a few pounds, would you prefer he/she mentioned it to you? Or would you prefer he/she keep his/her mouth shut? Seriously.

Rain Man
01-11-2005, 03:12 PM
You should know it anyway, so I'd prefer not to be told.

However, I'm usually told.

MichaelH
01-11-2005, 03:14 PM
It your spouse/mate is turned off by the extra poundage, they probably should say something.

bogie
01-11-2005, 03:15 PM
You should know it anyway, so I'd prefer not to be told.

However, I'm usually told.

I agree most know when they have a weight problem. However, maybe they don't know it's becoming an issue with their significant other. Then what?

Phobia
01-11-2005, 03:15 PM
There's no right answer to this question. It depends on your relationship. However, I'm not into all that "sensitive" and "considerate" bullshit.

If you can't tell your SO or be told by your SO, who the hell IS going to tell you? Your mother? Not when she's tipping in at borderline obese, too.

Just tell the broad what's on your mind. There's no need to be overly rude or drop hints (like gift memberships to the health club or treadmills). Just have an adult discussion about physical conditioning.

ClearmontChief
01-11-2005, 03:15 PM
Depends on the approach.

Does she/he look at you with daggers in the eyes every time you take a bite of something...watching everything you put on the plate? "Are you going to eat that!?! Hell, you just ate 14 hours ago!!!"

Or, politely mention it and offer help or loving support. "Honey, I love you very much and I'm concerned about the extra weight you've put on, what are we going to do about it?"

kc rush
01-11-2005, 03:21 PM
Do NOT tell a woman she is overweight. You are asking for serious trouble if you do. A guy will blow it off but a woman will remember forever.

An alternative would be to suggest shared activities - "Hey, I'm going for a bike ride, why don't you come with me".

Food suggestions would be - "I've been eating way too much junk lately and I need to lay off, it would be a huge help to me if you ate healthy with me so I can avoid the temptation". If you are out at a restaurant, say "This salad/grilled chicken meal looks really good, what do you think?"

Predarat
01-11-2005, 03:24 PM
If it gets me more sex tell me.

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:25 PM
Do NOT tell a woman she is overweight. You are asking for serious trouble if you do. A guy will blow it off but a woman will remember forever.

An alternative would be to suggest shared activities - "Hey, I'm going for a bike ride, why don't you come with me".

Food suggestions would be - "I've been eating way too much junk lately and I need to lay off, it would be a huge help to me if you ate healthy with me so I can avoid the temptation". If you are out at a restaurant, say "This salad/grilled chicken meal looks really good, what do you think?"
This must be why I'm single. I refuse to play a bunch of stupid games with people.

If you've got something to say, f*cking say it. If someone's not grown up enough to deal with it, they should move the f*ck on. I don't have time for them.

seclark
01-11-2005, 03:26 PM
i know the wife nags me about something constantly...could be my weight.
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MichaelH
01-11-2005, 03:27 PM
Do NOT tell a woman she is overweight. You are asking for serious trouble if you do. A guy will blow it off but a woman will remember forever.

An alternative would be to suggest shared activities - "Hey, I'm going for a bike ride, why don't you come with me".

Food suggestions would be - "I've been eating way too much junk lately and I need to lay off, it would be a huge help to me if you ate healthy with me so I can avoid the temptation". If you are out at a restaurant, say "This salad/grilled chicken meal looks really good, what do you think?"

I agree with the first and third points. I've tried shared activities with my wife and it's hopeless. I like to hike and I've asked her to come along. She'd rather stay home, watch TV and smoke her cigarettes. :(

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 03:29 PM
If your significant other thinks you need to drop a few pounds, would you prefer he/she mentioned it to you? Or would you prefer he/she keep his/her mouth shut? Seriously.

This is easy: if you are a guy, wanting to tell your wife....forget about it. On the other hand, if you are a gal, wanting to tell your hubby....go for it--as long as you provide some incentive sex as encouragement.

I actually told my wife, BEFORE marriage: "Fat is grounds for divorce" and "If I ever get over 200 lbs, shoot me." I swear. :banghead:

Well, she should have divorced me five or six years ago; or had me shot about the same time. :shake:

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:31 PM
"If I ever get over 200 lbs, shoot me."

Hell, I've been there for awhile.

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 03:32 PM
Do NOT tell a woman she is overweight. You are asking for serious trouble if you do. A guy will blow it off but a woman will remember forever.

An alternative would be to suggest shared activities - "Hey, I'm going for a bike ride, why don't you come with me".

Food suggestions would be - "I've been eating way too much junk lately and I need to lay off, it would be a huge help to me if you ate healthy with me so I can avoid the temptation". If you are out at a restaurant, say "This salad/grilled chicken meal looks really good, what do you think?"

You've been watching Oparah, and Dr. Phil....haven't you? :p

kc rush
01-11-2005, 03:32 PM
This must be why I'm single. I refuse to play a bunch of stupid games with people.

If you've got something to say, f*cking say it. If someone's not grown up enough to deal with it, they should move the f*ck on. I don't have time for them.


Whatever works for you man.

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 03:33 PM
This must be why I'm single. I refuse to play a bunch of stupid games with people.

If you've got something to say, f*cking say it. If someone's not grown up enough to deal with it, they should move the f*ck on. I don't have time for them.

You need to watch Dr. Phil and Oparah then. ROFL

kc rush
01-11-2005, 03:33 PM
You've been watching Oparah, and Dr. Phil....haven't you? :p

No, but I am their illegitimate love child.

Actually, I enjoy sex too much and I know that I would be cut off for a while if I ever brought something like that.

Women are wired differently.

bogie
01-11-2005, 03:35 PM
Do NOT tell a woman she is overweight. You are asking for serious trouble if you do. A guy will blow it off but a woman will remember forever.

An alternative would be to suggest shared activities - "Hey, I'm going for a bike ride, why don't you come with me".

Food suggestions would be - "I've been eating way too much junk lately and I need to lay off, it would be a huge help to me if you ate healthy with me so I can avoid the temptation". If you are out at a restaurant, say "This salad/grilled chicken meal looks really good, what do you think?"

All good points, but I'm a lazy assh*le and hate salads! Also due to a high metabolism, I'm thin. I've been married 8 years and she's been up and down weight wise throughout our whole marriage. Never up a lot say 10 - 20 pounds. I never mentioned it and when she does I always encourage her to do what makes her feel best. She'll usually loses part of the weight but has never gotten back down to honeymoon size again, but that's okay. Lately however she's been up and staying up. She's at the 20 lb. mark. I'm not an assh*le, but I grew up with 3 sisters and all of them were heavy! I have issues about heavy women and do not want to be married to a heavy woman. Also, I'm way from perfect, so I'm afraid if I bring it up she's going to say okay I'll lose weight but you need to stop dating those 20 year old hookers or something like that.

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:35 PM
You need to watch Dr. Phil and Oparah then. ROFL
Hell, no. And, they should quit feeding that garbage to people making them think that's an acceptable way to behave.

Christ, we're talking about a grownup.. they should act like one. A person shouldn't have to be tricked into doing something healthy because their SO doesn't want to hurt their feelings.

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:36 PM
I'm afraid if I bring it up she's going to say okay I'll lose weight but you need to stop dating those 20 year old hookers or something like that.

Dang. That's rough.

Life is about compromise...

MOhillbilly
01-11-2005, 03:37 PM
i like fat girls you can be mean as hell and they still give ya head.

Iowanian
01-11-2005, 03:37 PM
If you tell your wife she is overweight, I hope you stocked up for the Poon hybernation.

I think instead of "you're getting fat"....it might be better to say "you know, we really ought to start taking care of ourselves....lets look into a family plan down at the Gym/Ymca"

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 03:39 PM
No, but I am their illegitimate love child.

Actually, I enjoy sex too much and I know that I would be cut off for a while if I ever brought something like that.

Women are wired differently.

Yeah, you are smarter than I; or at least, you learn more quickly.

seclark
01-11-2005, 03:39 PM
If you tell your wife she is overweight, I hope you stocked up for the Poon hybernation.

I think instead of "you're getting fat"....it might be better to say "you know, we really ought to start taking care of ourselves....lets look into a family plan down at the Gym/Ymca"
marriage has made you a kinder, gentler a-hole, hasn't it?
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ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:40 PM
marriage has made you a kinder, gentler a-hole, hasn't it?
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Just say it... he's whupped.

MichaelH
01-11-2005, 03:40 PM
i like fat girls you can be mean as hell and they still give ya head.

ROFL:LOL:

bogie
01-11-2005, 03:43 PM
If you tell your wife she is overweight, I hope you stocked up for the Poon hybernation.

I think instead of "you're getting fat"....it might be better to say "you know, we really ought to start taking care of ourselves....lets look into a family plan down at the Gym/Ymca"


But I don't want to exercise! :grr:

Hoover
01-11-2005, 03:43 PM
I would want her to keep quiet and encourage me in other ways. I don't want to be in a marriage where she says "Fat ass lose some weight" and I say, I would but I'm always cleaning up after your lazy ass"

Iowanian
01-11-2005, 03:44 PM
Far from whooped.

I do know, that any woman who has put on any weight noticed it way before you did, and is aware of it and self consious about it. I'm all for Making them do the dishes, but not for harping on things like that.

Besides........who wants to be the guy that starts this conversation? It'll end up about the hair on your back that wasn't there 10 years ago, and the fact that you don't tell her you love her anymore, or that you still haven't painted the garage.........or something.

I wouldn'/couldn't say anything now anyway.....I'm not the ripped stud of former years. I'd need to drop my 10 before saying jack shat.

Disclaimer:Iowanian is generalizing and not talking about any conversational activity with current mate.

I do however take an occasional walk or bike ride with brideowanian....its good to get out of the house and cruise the streets where the other "regular exercise broads in spandex" coincidently walk too.

MichaelH
01-11-2005, 03:44 PM
But I don't want to exercise! :grr:
The horizontal bop is great exercise.

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:45 PM
Disclaimer:Iowanian is generalizing and not talking about any conversational activity with current mate.

Whatever. Get your ass outside and get to painting that garage.

Saulbadguy
01-11-2005, 03:46 PM
Be a man.




































Pay for her liposuction.

bogie
01-11-2005, 03:47 PM
Far from whooped.

I do know, that any woman who has put on any weight noticed it way before you did, and is aware of it and self consious about it. I'm all for Making them do the dishes, but not for harping on things like that.

Besides........who wants to be the guy that starts this conversation? It'll end up about the hair on your back that wasn't there 10 years ago, and the fact that you don't tell her you love her anymore, or that you still haven't painted the garage.........or something.

I wouldn'/couldn't say anything now anyway.....I'm not the ripped stud of former years. I'd need to drop my 10 before saying jack shat.

Disclaimer:Iowanian is generalizing and not talking about any conversational activity with current mate.

Nail on the head! If I mention weight to her, it'll open up Pandora's box on the shit I need to change about me

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 03:50 PM
i like fat girls you can be mean as hell and they still give ya head.

ROFL

Skip Towne
01-11-2005, 03:54 PM
Give it to her straight "Lose 20 lbs or your fat ass is out of here". If she gives you any shit, cut her off from sex.

seclark
01-11-2005, 03:55 PM
Give it to her straight "Lose 20 lbs or your fat ass is out of here". If she gives you any shit, cut her off from sex.
can't do that...i don't know where she's getting it.
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Hoover
01-11-2005, 03:58 PM
Iowanian is full of $hit. Last summer when we all went to the Big Steer, you should have seen all the whip marks on his arms. plus brideofIowanian kept call asking what he was doing and would only let him go to the Casino for 20 mins.

So here are my questions for Iowanian?

So what Chick Flicks will you be watching this weekend?

Why do you drive a pink VW Bug?


































Just having fun :D

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 03:59 PM
can't do that...i don't know where she's getting it.
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Haha.

stevieray
01-11-2005, 03:59 PM
Never ever say this. I don't care how close you are.

Iowanian
01-11-2005, 04:02 PM
HOOVER,

I'll be watching Full Metal Jacket and Band of Brothers while she's making my dinner and doing my laundry.

When you and schmoopy get done at the Doiley convention at the mall(not the man end(sears,Sheels)..Lane Giant, Crapyoudon'tneedinyourhousefor$50-r-us...........drop on down and I'll show you how to House break yours.


Its no bullshat.........The screensaver on our home PC says endelt's favorite proverb

Spare the Rod and Spoil the Broad.


Hoover did see Iowanian at the Big Steer...........Iowanian had a 13lb ribeye, and hoover had a bowl of cottage cheese the size of a milk lid and a gallon of tap water. Cheap bastard.

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 04:04 PM
Crapyoudon'tneedinyourhousefor$50-r-us

ROFL

Calcountry
01-11-2005, 04:09 PM
This must be why I'm single. I refuse to play a bunch of stupid games with people.

If you've got something to say, f*cking say it. If someone's not grown up enough to deal with it, they should move the f*ck on. I don't have time for them.
A wedding is a victory celebration for a woman.

Calcountry
01-11-2005, 04:10 PM
i like fat girls you can be mean as hell and they still give ya head.
ROFL

Calcountry
01-11-2005, 04:11 PM
If you tell your wife she is overweight, I hope you stocked up for the Poon hybernation.

I think instead of "you're getting fat"....it might be better to say "you know, we really ought to start taking care of ourselves....lets look into a family plan down at the Gym/Ymca"
Rather than tell her she is fat, just go fug a few pounds off of her that night.

Calcountry
01-11-2005, 04:12 PM
marriage has made you a kinder, gentler a-hole, hasn't it?
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ROFL ROFL :clap: Stopit your killing me.

JimNasium
01-11-2005, 04:13 PM
This must be why I'm single. I refuse to play a bunch of stupid games with people.

If you've got something to say, f*cking say it. If someone's not grown up enough to deal with it, they should move the f*ck on. I don't have time for them.
Brian, I think we need to have a talk about your drinking. Oh, and while we're at it we should talk about that pack a day habit. Oh, and your diet is just terrible...... :shake:

bogie
01-11-2005, 04:16 PM
Brian, I think we need to have a talk about your drinking. Oh, and while we're at it we should talk about that pack a day habit. Oh, and your diet is just terrible...... :shake:


:LOL:

PastorMikH
01-11-2005, 04:16 PM
If your significant other thinks you need to drop a few pounds, would you prefer he/she mentioned it to you? Or would you prefer he/she keep his/her mouth shut? Seriously.



I'd just be happy if she weren't always buying Little Debbies and Soda. You know how hard it is to have 2-3 boxes of those in the cabinet and not eat a few packs of them? And at 250 - 500 calories each it doesn't take too many to just kill a diet.

Phobia
01-11-2005, 04:17 PM
Brian, I think we need to have a talk about your drinking. Oh, and while we're at it we should talk about that pack a day habit. Oh, and your diet is just terrible...... :shake:

Great. You two might as well get married right now.

PastorMikH
01-11-2005, 04:18 PM
If your significant other...


Brian, I think we need to have a talk about your drinking. Oh, and while we're at it we should talk about that pack a day habit. Oh, and your diet is just terrible...... :shake:




Uhm, is there something here that we weren't aware of JimN???????

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 04:19 PM
Brian, I think we need to have a talk about your drinking. Oh, and while we're at it we should talk about that pack a day habit. Oh, and your diet is just terrible...... :shake:
That's it! I'm not having sex with you for a month!

kc rush
01-11-2005, 04:37 PM
That's it! I'm not having sex with you for a month!

That quote makes you the woman in the relationship.

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 04:39 PM
That quote makes you the woman in the relationship.


Maybe he and Jim are lesbians?

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 04:40 PM
Maybe he and Jim are lesbians?

Scratch that, before someone starts requesting a 'webcam' or video... :shake:

badgirl
01-11-2005, 04:43 PM
If I had a weight problem, I would know it myself I wouldn't need to be told by anyone, if my b/f had a wieght problem and seem not to care and just kept on getting bigger, I would let him know, I wouldn't love him any less because of it, but I would bring it to his attention.

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 04:45 PM
.... if my b/f had a wieght problem and seem not to care and just kept on getting bigger, I would let him know, I wouldn't love him any less because of it, but I would bring it to his attention.

Stumpy watches Oparah; he's gonna cut you off from sex if you go and do that... :shake:

ENDelt260
01-11-2005, 04:45 PM
On second thought... maybe there is a place for subtlety....

When you're drillin' her, slap her ass and exclaim, "Holy shit! The waves just seem to go on forever!"

bogie
01-11-2005, 04:45 PM
If I had a weight problem, I would know it myself I wouldn't need to be told by anyone, if my b/f had a wieght problem and seem not to care and just kept on getting bigger, I would let him know, I wouldn't love him any less because of it, but I would bring it to his attention.

I was hoping to get a womans opinion.
Thanks.

BIG_DADDY
01-11-2005, 04:46 PM
I can't believe this is a question.

badgirl
01-11-2005, 04:46 PM
Stumpy watches Oparah; he's gonna cut you off from sex if you go and do that... :shake:
well if my b/f was too overweight, as I said, I would still love him, but he would be the one cut off if it was too out of control. I don't do fat guys....never have, never will. :harumph:

kc rush
01-11-2005, 04:47 PM
On second thought... maybe there is a place for subtlety....

When you're drillin' her, slap her ass and exclaim, "Holy shit! The waves just seem to go on forever!"


ROFL I laughed

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 04:48 PM
well if my b/f was too overweight, as I said, I would still love him, but he would be the one cut off if it was too out of control. I don't do fat guys....never have, never will. :harumph:

What about BJs?

badgirl
01-11-2005, 04:50 PM
What about BJs?
I don't do anything with fat guys period. :harumph:

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 04:51 PM
I don't do anything with fat guys period. :harumph:

I know; me either. :harumph:

MOhillbilly
01-11-2005, 04:53 PM
On second thought... maybe there is a place for subtlety....

When you're drillin' her, slap her ass and exclaim, "Holy shit! The waves just seem to go on forever!"

ROFL
or better yet scream out TSUNAMI!!!!!!!!!!!

see what the ditchpig does then,might have to pin the to the mat. ta get yours.

Mr. Kotter
01-11-2005, 04:54 PM
ROFL
or better yet scream out TSUNAMI!!!!!!!!!!!

see what the ditchpig does then,might have to pin the to the mat. ta get yours.

There's a name for that....provokin' her while deliverin' the goods doggie style, and holdin' on for dear life... :hmmm:

Damned if I can't remember.... :banghead:

MOhillbilly
01-11-2005, 04:56 PM
There's a name for that....provokin' her while deliverin' the goods doggie style, and holdin' on for dear life... :hmmm:

Damned if I can't remember.... :banghead:

root hog or die?

morphius
01-11-2005, 05:07 PM
Well if weight is an issue, just have enough sex with her to burn up all those calories, might work better if she isn't faking the orgasim...