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Count Zarth
03-16-2005, 07:49 AM
Or neither? Poll forthcoming.

Please share any interesting stories.

CosmicPal
03-16-2005, 07:58 AM
Neither.

I didn't have a low self-esteem issue where I felt like I had to beat everyone up. I was also too nice of a kid to do any harm upon any of the other kids.

I certainly wasn't picked on either. I was well-respected by the other classmates for my grades and extra-curricular activities including excelling in football, golf, and baseball. Playing on team sports built a foundation of understanding for me, and knowing how to work with others whether you liked them or not.

seclark
03-16-2005, 08:04 AM
never a bully.

since i went to so many different schools, i did have a few occasions when i was bullied. it's part of life...you deal w/it, do your time, then move on.
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morphius
03-16-2005, 08:05 AM
Can't say that I was really picked on, there were 3 guys that tried for a bit in 7th grade, but after we fought things were cool between us.

Never really felt the urge to pick on anyone and tried to treat other people pretty well. In fact I can only think of one person in HS that I wanted to really kick his ass, but I knew I would just destroy him, so it wasn't worth it.

MOhillbilly
03-16-2005, 08:08 AM
both

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 08:14 AM
I was a fat kid in grade school, and I got picked on a lot.

I still remember who my tormentors were, and one day I will track them down and slit their throats.

milkman
03-16-2005, 08:21 AM
I was neither.
I had some personal issues so I pretty much kept to myself.

Later learned that people thought I was arrogant.

bkkcoh
03-16-2005, 08:22 AM
I was a fat kid in grade school, and I got picked on a lot.

I still remember who my tormentors were, and one day I will track them down and slit their throats.


Do you want some additional names? :hmmm:

MOhillbilly
03-16-2005, 08:50 AM
when i was in 7th grade i caught the bus down the street with some other kids some in HS some in JR high and the older HS kids used to pick on me.

But they didnt ride the bus home in the afternoon but there little brothers did.
So there was this means ass dog right across from the bus stop,this old man kept him fenced in so i thought it would be funny to take the bookbags of the little brothers of the guys who picked on me and throw them over the fence.

HAha tuff shit right?

so one day i go to grab this one kids book bag and WAALA little ****er pulls a knife on me tells me hes gonna stab me.

so i go to kick it outta his hand and it stabs him in the face.OOOOPPPPSSS.

so hes screaming and cant pull the knife outta his chin and i freak and run home(my grandpa was standing at the end of his drive and wanted me to carry rock salt from the carport to the basement:()

the best part was when his mom came down to tell my parents she wanted them to pay for the Dr. bill my dad said "your son had the knife"

and when she started crying he said "if all your gonna do is stand there and blubber you gotta leave"ROFL

BigRedChief
03-16-2005, 08:51 AM
I was 6'0" tall in the sixth grade about 200lbs. I use to pick on the kids until about the 4th grade and then I changed and wouldn't allow any bullying to take place in the locker room or recess anymore. If I saw someone being bullied I would kick the crap out of the bully.

MOhillbilly
03-16-2005, 08:53 AM
I was 6'0" tall in the sixth grade about 200lbs. I use to pick on the kids until about the 4th grade and then I changed and wouldn't allow any bullying to take place in the locker room or recess anymore. If I saw someone being bullied I would kick the crap out of the bully.

so you were your own hero?
You woulda got beat trying to stop a fight at my schools.
no matter how big.

redhed
03-16-2005, 09:02 AM
When I was in 5th grade, there was a guy that sat right behind me. He used to make fun of my hairy neck and arms (I'm a hairy guy now, I was a hairy kid then). This went on for the whole school year. On the last day of school, this guy was picking on another kid. When I saw this, I blew up. I ran over to where they were on the playground and proceeded to take out a whole year's worth of frustration on the bully. I pushed him down, and then kicked the living shiat outa him. I guess I didn't like him picking on a kid that had the same b-day as me. The weird thing is, I never got into trouble for it. Nobody ever picked on me again, even in middle or high school. I guess I had a rep, which is funny, because I'm not a violent person.

BigRedChief
03-16-2005, 09:12 AM
so you were your own hero?
You woulda got beat trying to stop a fight at my schools.
no matter how big.It was a small school(Pleasant View Junior high for the springfield planeteers) and I had a reputation as being capable of anything. Scared most people off from challenging me.

Reason I quit is I use to pitch baseball. I threw the ball really fast. kids were scared to get in the batters box against me because I didn't have very good control. I soon figured out that if I hit one of the batters that it would scare the rest of their team and all I had to do was throw strikes. One day I broke a kids arm. I never bullied another kid after that day.

On a positive note. I use to drive a clunker and it was always in the shop. The guy always treated me well. Gave me breaks on stuff and went out of his way for me. One day he asked me if I knew why he did theses things. I had no idea. I thought this was just the way he was. Turns out he was one of the kids that I stopped the other kids from bullying and he was grateful. Said it made a big difference in his life to not live in fear from the bullies.

Bwana
03-16-2005, 09:22 AM
I was a fat kid in grade school, and I got picked on a lot.

I still remember who my tormentors were, and one day I will track them down and slit their throats.

I never messed with anyone unless they messed with me. Even then, I would walk away if I could.

There was one exception with a bully that was three grades ahead of me who always gave me a hard time. He was huge and I knew he would kick my butt if I took him on and he took full advantge of it. I built up a lot of resentment during that time period and never forgot it. Several years later, I ran into the guy at a bar one night. Much to my surprise, he started in like we were in grade school again wit his degrading putdowns.

Ooops, the only thing bigger than me about him now was his mouth and as a bonus, I was three years into martial arts by that point in time. He was sitting on a bar stool running his mouth and I gave him one shot to close it, but he kept it up. He said "go ahead and take your best shot pussy." I took one step back and gave him a roundhouse kick to the head, and laid him out cold next to his bar stool. When he came to he called me outside (short bus) and I beat the living chit out of him. The dude looked like he got him by a train and never laid a hand on me. I never had any trouble with him again.

PastorMikH
03-16-2005, 10:00 AM
I was the kid everyone picked on in elementary thanks to my mom and her stupid rules. She said a man never fights, he walks away and that is what she expected me to do, if I got into a fight at school for any reason I could expect a beating when I got home (odd, violence was fine for her but not for me). Anyhow, I went to live with my dad when I was in the 6th grade. The one provision my mom made was she wanted me to attend the same school and not switch schools during the school year. Dad had different rules. He found out that a kid had been pushing around on me and he told me that I better not be starting any fights but I better not be walking away from any either. I cleaned house the rest of that year.

Around the time when I was a freshmen/sophmore I had a bit of trouble as well. Several of the Seniors would pack up and try to pick on me - 'course I was pretty small at the time - didn't really grow until my Sr year. Fast forward to the year I graduated. Was working for the owner of some apartments. He was having carports built. We were doing the gravel work while a contracting crew was putting the roof on the carports. One of the guys up on the roof was the ringleader back when I was in HS. I noticed shingles kept flying down around me throughout the day. Well, that afternoon they were sitting around their truck talking when I came out of an apartment and put my tools in the truck next to them. I walked up to the guy and shared a few choice words (at this time I am 6'1", 210 lbs and no fat, he's still 5'9" 170ish lbs, oh, and I wasn't a Christian yet either). As he looked up to me the look on his face was priceless and he just about wet himself. He worked for the rest of the week and was quite respectful.

PastorMikH
03-16-2005, 10:02 AM
When he came to he called me outside (short bus)



Obviously.:)

MOhillbilly
03-16-2005, 10:03 AM
Are you a bully if you didnt care who you beat up?

Mr. Laz
03-16-2005, 10:05 AM
neither ...


i defended a few FROM bullies but i was rarely bothered myself. Although in high school i had a few guys that looked for a way to get me beat up.


none worked though

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 10:22 AM
I never messed with anyone unless they messed with me. Even then, I would walk away if I could.

There was one exception with a bully that was three grades ahead of me who always gave me a hard time. He was huge and I knew he would kick my butt if I took him on and he took full advantge of it. I built up a lot of resentment during that time period and never forgot it. Several years later, I ran into the guy at a bar one night. Much to my surprise, he started in like we were in grade school again wit his degrading putdowns.

Ooops, the only thing bigger than me about him now was his mouth and as a bonus, I was three years into martial arts by that point in time. He was sitting on a bar stool running his mouth and I gave him one shot to close it, but he kept it up. He said "go ahead and take your best shot pussy." I took one step back and gave him a roundhouse kick to the head, and laid him out cold next to his bar stool. When he came to he called me outside (short bus) and I beat the living chit out of him. The dude looked like he got him by a train and never laid a hand on me. I never had any trouble with him again.

My hero. What a dream scenario.
:thumb:

Count Zarth
03-16-2005, 10:26 AM
Good stuff guys.

Pants
03-16-2005, 10:56 AM
Never was picked on or picked on anybody, I was pretty much a small kid. Being friends with everybody helps, of course. As does having only 30 kids in your class for the whole school career - makes everything much more personal (grew up in Europe, different system). I did fight on the streets, though, the last fight being in the 5th grade (obviously nothing beyond a bloody nose). I'm a very peaceful person.

Rain Man
03-16-2005, 11:27 AM
There are only about three people in the world that I actively hate, and Mac Cowan is one of them. I moved right before I started 7th grade, and didn't know anyone at my new school, and he chose me as one of his bullying projects. He had a little group of mouth-breathing camp followers, and he never picked on me unless he had them for backup. Biggest coward in the world. Of course, he stopped bothering me once I finally found a peer group of friends and wasn't alone any more.

I found out a few years ago that he still lives in town and works for his dad for minimum wage. That's about what I expected of him.

Other than him and his lemmings, I never had trouble with bullies other than just the random beatings that typically happen to teenage boys. In fact, I was kind of pals with several kids who were typically labeled as bullies. I just wish I had met them a couple of years earlier, because a couple of them were a heck of a lot tougher than Mac.

Nzoner
03-16-2005, 11:29 AM
I was the kid everyone picked on in elementary thanks to my mom and her stupid rules. She said a man never fights, he walks away and that is what she expected me to do, if I got into a fight at school for any reason I could expect a beating when I got home (odd, violence was fine for her but not for me). Anyhow, I went to live with my dad when I was in the 6th grade. The one provision my mom made was she wanted me to attend the same school and not switch schools during the school year. Dad had different rules. He found out that a kid had been pushing around on me and he told me that I better not be starting any fights but I better not be walking away from any either. I cleaned house the rest of that year.

My best friend in high school had a dad who reminded me of The Great Santini(20 year Marine and a real nasty streak),he had 1 rule for him,if you ever come home beat up I'll beat ya worse.

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 11:31 AM
neither...a few catfights in the locker room, but I pretty much got/get along with everybody:thumb:

Rain Man
03-16-2005, 11:37 AM
neither...a few catfights in the locker room, but I pretty much got/get along with everybody:thumb:


Mmmmmm....locker room catfights.....

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 11:39 AM
I found out a few years ago that he still lives in town and works for his dad for minimum wage. That's about what I expected of him.


Reminds me of that scene in "Broadcast News" when the young Albert Brooks character tells the bullies beating him up, "You'll never make more than $19,000 a year!"

And as the bullies walk away satisified, they say, "$19,000? Not bad."

Nzoner
03-16-2005, 11:40 AM
Other than a couple of riffs my Freshman year(from some seniors)I always got along with everyone,then again there were very few days at that time that I wasn't literally in HIGH School.

CosmicPal
03-16-2005, 11:44 AM
I was the kid everyone picked on in elementary thanks to my mom and her stupid rules. She said a man never fights, he walks away and that is what she expected me to do, if I got into a fight at school for any reason I could expect a beating when I got home (odd, violence was fine for her but not for me). Anyhow, I went to live with my dad when I was in the 6th grade. The one provision my mom made was she wanted me to attend the same school and not switch schools during the school year. Dad had different rules. He found out that a kid had been pushing around on me and he told me that I better not be starting any fights but I better not be walking away from any either. I cleaned house the rest of that year.

Around the time when I was a freshmen/sophmore I had a bit of trouble as well. Several of the Seniors would pack up and try to pick on me - 'course I was pretty small at the time - didn't really grow until my Sr year. Fast forward to the year I graduated. Was working for the owner of some apartments. He was having carports built. We were doing the gravel work while a contracting crew was putting the roof on the carports. One of the guys up on the roof was the ringleader back when I was in HS. I noticed shingles kept flying down around me throughout the day. Well, that afternoon they were sitting around their truck talking when I came out of an apartment and put my tools in the truck next to them. I walked up to the guy and shared a few choice words (at this time I am 6'1", 210 lbs and no fat, he's still 5'9" 170ish lbs, oh, and I wasn't a Christian yet either). As he looked up to me the look on his face was priceless and he just about wet himself. He worked for the rest of the week and was quite respectful.

That's terrible. I'm sorry you had to live through that. But, I liked how it all ended up for you....Good story

Frazod
03-16-2005, 11:51 AM
I moved around alot when I was a kid, and was frequently the new kid in school or the neighborhood. I got f#cked with a lot. Finally I moved to a new town between my sophomore and junior years and decided I'd had enough. After that, people who tried to pick on me got their asses kicked.

Bullies should be beat down early and often. The longer you wait, the worse it gets.

jcroft
03-16-2005, 11:58 AM
I'd be curious to hear from some of the folks that admit to being bullies. Why did you do it? Do you still do it? How do you feel about it now? Are you still living in your hometown working some pathetic hourly job while those of us that were picked on go on to do great things (because that's how it is in my head, anyway. :))?

Just curious. Seriously.

BigMeatballDave
03-16-2005, 11:58 AM
I was picked on because I was a fat kid. Its stopped in the 8th grade. A popular kid in PE was making fun of me one day and I finally got sick of it and grabbed him by his throat, slammed him into the lockers, and reared my fist back like I was gonna hit him. The look of fear on his face was priceless. The PE instructor stood right there and watched, never said a word to me. This kid ****ed with me on a daily basis for a year and a half. Needless to say, he was never a problem again...

BigRedChief
03-16-2005, 12:30 PM
I'd be curious to hear from some of the folks that admit to being bullies. Why did you do it? Do you still do it? How do you feel about it now? Are you still living in your hometown working some pathetic hourly job while those of us that were picked on go on to do great things (because that's how it is in my head, anyway. :))?

Just curious. Seriously.

I guess I am a reformed bully so I guess that explaind why I was able to become a full fledged contributor to the betterment of our society. :p

kc rush
03-16-2005, 01:01 PM
I was picked on quite a bit by older kids for a while, and I picked on a few kids myself (nothing too horrible). Mostly I just hung out with my group of friends and ignored everyone else.

Pitt Gorilla
03-16-2005, 01:01 PM
Neither; I was actually the guy that stuck up for the kids that got picked on. I was always fairly happy and thought that everyone was a "friend" of sorts. I never understood why people felt the need to bully someone else.

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 01:04 PM
Neither; I was actually the guy that stuck up for the kids that got picked on.

Where were you when I needed you? :deevee:

Phobia
03-16-2005, 01:07 PM
I was a little of both. I haven't changed much. But, most of my "bullying" was of the friendly, non-malicious sort. I like messing with people and I like it when they play along. I don't mind being picked on and I'll likely play along myself.

Rain Man
03-16-2005, 01:13 PM
I had a cousin growing up who was exactly the same age I was, and he was a nasty, nasty kid. For example, his favorite trick was to be hanging out peacefully with you, and then for no reason grabbing one of your fingers and bending it backward until you were screaming. Nasty, nasty kid, and my parents and aunt never did much to control him.

Long story short, all of the cousins were riding in the back of my dad's pickup (there's a safe move) with my mom, dad, aunt, and uncle up front, and he messed with me for the last time. I nailed him in the face hard, and there was blood everywhere, and the parents pulled over and I thought I was dead. Interestingly, no one said a word to me. Not a single word. He never bothered me again.

(Of course, sadly, I'll admit that all of us teamed up to pick on his little brother several years later, and I feel terribly guilty about that now. The little brother was 6 or 7 when we were all teenagers and really wanted to hang out with us, and that was a really bad combination. It wasn't bullying, but we just never cut the poor kid a break.)

cadmonkey
03-16-2005, 01:51 PM
I never messed with anyone in High School. I was pretty much liked by everyone.

Freshman year I got the crap beat out of me by the seniors on the football team. A freshman on the varsity squad doesn't have its benefits like I thought it would.

Phobia
03-16-2005, 01:52 PM
(Of course, sadly, I'll admit that all of us teamed up to pick on his little brother several years later, and I feel terribly guilty about that now. The little brother was 6 or 7 when we were all teenagers and really wanted to hang out with us, and that was a really bad combination. It wasn't bullying, but we just never cut the poor kid a break.)

His name didn't happen to be Slayer, did it?

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 07:12 PM
We have a bunch of sissy's on this board don't we?ROFL

Freekofnature
03-16-2005, 07:23 PM
I was neither..........

I was neutral and a mediator.

I just have a hard time putting someone down or trying to derive pleasure from other's misfortunes........
I hated seeing someone in discomfort period..... hated mob mentalities, hysteria.........

I did have a little issue on my own those days and I was usually quiet and reserved. Plus I dished it to people who can take it.

But when interacting with others, I kinda became shady and easy going and such.........

Pants
03-16-2005, 07:27 PM
We have a bunch of sissy's on this board don't we?ROFL

Yeah, and a retard on this thread.

big nasty kcnut
03-16-2005, 07:32 PM
I was more like a ghost not really paid attention to but if a friend was being bothered i'd step in and take out the trash.

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 07:35 PM
Neither, although I walked away from a few fights.

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 07:44 PM
Yeah, and a retard on this thread.





What did zach do to piss you off?;)

|Zach|
03-16-2005, 07:47 PM
I had a little problem being picked on in grade school. Nothing to crazy or harsh. Run of the mill type stuff. I have always been on the large side so that welcomed comments here and there. I was an only child so it took me a long time to adjust being in elementry school. I was used to spending time with adults so I was very laid back. It took a while to get used to kids acting like kids. I don't think I was really comfortable in that aspect until middle school.

In highschool I had no problems whatsoever. I had a blast in high school...

BigRedChief
03-16-2005, 08:24 PM
WTF is your problem noob? Drop this schtick now or I'll turn bully again. :harumph:

TheNextStep
03-16-2005, 08:30 PM
I moved an awful lot as a military brat, so going from "picked on" to "popular" was easy, compared to somebody who grew up in one town all their life - every time you moved, it was a "do-over."

In grade school, I don't even recall any of us being aware of bullies. We were all just a bunch of kids.

In middle school, I was picked on.

In high school, I was popular but didn't go for that bullying crap because I'd been on the receiving end in middle school. At that point, I became the guy that would say, "Hey, asshole, why don't you leave that kid alone?"

J Diddy
03-16-2005, 08:33 PM
Nope, my best friends in high school were huge. I had no problem in high school.

LiL stumppy
03-16-2005, 08:42 PM
Im not the bully,I have alot of friends but I dont pick on people.Sure I say a few things to the mouthy "nerds" but nothing to bad.And I never ever or never ever wll be picked on.

Inspector
03-16-2005, 08:59 PM
I was friends with everyone.

Never got picked on until that evil monkey moved into my closet.

Damn monkey.....

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 09:14 PM
WTF is your problem noob? Drop this schtick now or I'll turn bully again. :harumph:


ROFL....I don't think he is a nOOb, just one of the regulars off his/her meds.

Phobia
03-16-2005, 09:26 PM
ROFL....I don't think he is a nOOb, just one of the regulars off his/her meds.

No. He's a frequent troll. Damned dolphin fans are bored.

Chiefs Pantalones
03-16-2005, 09:45 PM
Ask this guy...

http://collegehumor.com/img/w/whoa19512.jpg

big nasty kcnut
03-16-2005, 09:51 PM
his greatness you are gay.

chappy
03-16-2005, 09:55 PM
i was a bully

Mastashake
03-16-2005, 09:58 PM
I was a long-haired hippie in a country school full of cowboys...

But once I cut my hair and started wearing tennis shoes everyone was a lot nicer to me!

The moral of this story, conform or be an outcast...

Mastashake

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 10:11 PM
The moral of this story, conform or be an outcast...


Thanks, Geddy! :thumb:

Iowanian
03-16-2005, 10:28 PM
I was the oldest of alot of cousins......a rowdy group of youngsters with some "fight in the bloodlines".

Until 3rd grade I never noticed much...but around then, I was a smaller kid, got glasses...the thick poor farmboy glasses. At the same time, both of my mother's parents got cancer, so the folks were gone, and Busy. It was also the time that the farm and realestate economy really turned to shit. Small kid, neglected haircut.....broken, taped goggles, duct taped shoe...............You do the math.

I had a really good friend who was big and tough.....but he'd moved that year. One day I snapped. I found out that between wrestling, and some inner Rage thing......I was pretty good at that fighting thing. I made a pact with myself, after my dad had given me the "don't start a fight, but if someone is bullying you, throw the first punch and fight to win".

I did alot of fighting over the next couple of years. Rarely was it really tough kids...Just kids who were a little bigger.

I developed a really protective streak for my siblings and cousins(though we fought)...by HS, Family asked me to Take care of problems with others bullying family.

I never picked on the kids that everyone else did, and usually tried to be nice.......but sometimes, they'd end up stealing or something.

In Jr High-HS there were some guys in the class above mine that were just Raging Pricks when they were together(4-5) and they were actually pretty big and tough. I had some trouble with them that I couldn't do a whole lot about.

I did some fighting even through college and it almost always, without fail, had to do with some asshole, who was "just enough bigger" to want to clown me.

By then, my younger brother was old enough, and truthfully, a better fighter on his feet with a worse temper. Now, its outgrown its usefullness for the most part. I quickly learned that I could count on my brothers if things got ugly. You can't always count on your buddies I found.

My youngest brother, who is now airborne, in 7th grade had a Really big Sr punching him and his friends around........my brother and I ran into him one night, and with a little mild pursuasion....He appologized to all of those boys the next day.
I punched a crazy fugger who stopped me on the hwy in the boonies in the night 3-4 years ago, and about did last year before the superbowl, with some 23 year old, spiked hair "i'm bigger than you" punk.

Maturity started telling me to walk away around 25, because I knew I didn't have to prove anything......For a long time, I didn't think I had a choice......I suppose it was that "little man complex" or whatever. I have no desire for that crap anymore.

In short..........I was bullied some, but I figured out how to stop it, though I never really considered myself a "bad man". Its the willingness to risk a beating, to end bullshit. When you're getting Bullied........It doesn't really hurt that much more to just have the fight, throw the first one hard.

Interstingly enough, the last time my youngest Bro was back........He mentioned that if he ever runs into his tormentor, he's going to smack his ass up...and he will.

Ultra Peanut
03-16-2005, 10:31 PM
Neither - please explain
Neither, really.

SNR
03-17-2005, 08:44 PM
Elementary school I was the "brilliant" kid in class. I sucked at dodgeball, but I was good on the flag football team in 5th and 6th grade. Anyway, yeah, the jocks thought I was cool even though I sucked at sports early on.

Middle School I had one kid pick on me because I wanted to do well in school. I actually cared about the work I put into it, and he thought I was a loser. Wasn't anything serious.

Freshman year in high school I still cared about school. Combine that with nearly all the kids in my gym class from the other middle school, and I was labeled a nerd and a loser from the start. Didn't get much better with those guys.

It stopped when I stopped caring about school and hung around the music department all day. Then when I went anywhere else without my music friends, I was an outcast, but wasn't picked on.

Wasn't picked on that much at all to summarize, but I do know what it feels like to say the least. I made fun of some kids, but I didn't focus on them at all... for long periods of time at least.