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Fat Elvis
03-16-2005, 08:19 AM
Just curious.

bkkcoh
03-16-2005, 08:23 AM
25

milkman
03-16-2005, 08:24 AM
You're only too old when you start shooting blanks. :huh:

bkkcoh
03-16-2005, 08:28 AM
You're only too old when you start shooting blanks. :huh:

:)


Tony Randall wasn't shooting blanks into his 70s or 80s, but that isn't fair to the child.

Donger
03-16-2005, 08:30 AM
40

milkman
03-16-2005, 08:30 AM
:)


Tony Randall wasn't shooting blanks into his 70s or 80s.

Are you sure?
:hmmm:

Count Zarth
03-16-2005, 08:31 AM
I agree with Donger. Who wants to be 65 and have a 10-year old in the house?

Braincase
03-16-2005, 08:31 AM
Wife and I are 41, and we're contemplating #4.

morphius
03-16-2005, 08:32 AM
I would say 45...

jspchief
03-16-2005, 08:36 AM
For the woman, after 40 you have a significant increase in risk of Down's syndrome. It's something like 10% chance I believe. If the mother is 40 years old, I'd think long and hard on it, and get some proffessional medical advice.

milkman
03-16-2005, 08:39 AM
All joking aside, I think somewhere in the 40-45 range is approaching that age when you are getting to old to have children.

And jsp makes a good point about women over 40.

Donger
03-16-2005, 08:39 AM
For the woman, after 40 you have a significant increase in risk of Down's syndrome. It's something like 10% chance I believe. If the mother is 40 years old, I'd think long and hard on it, and get some proffessional medical advice.

IIRC, it's broken down like this (very punny):

age 30, a 1-in-1,000 chance
age 35, a 1-in-400 chance
at age 40, a 1-in-100 chance
at 45, a 1-in-30 chance

Vegas_Dave
03-16-2005, 08:41 AM
For the woman, after 40 you have a significant increase in risk of Down's syndrome. It's something like 10% chance I believe. If the mother is 40 years old, I'd think long and hard on it, and get some proffessional medical advice.

Agreed. If over 40 but you are wanting another kid, adopt. My parents did that with my little sister. Worked out well because it was a private adoption and we were able to get her at only 3 days old. Funny thing is that her baby pictures vs. our baby pictures, you would swear she was part of the family...

Heck, for a long time, people at church or what not thought that maybe she was my daughter (I was 15 at the time) and they adopted her to save face. My own now mother-in-law thought that as well.

cdcox
03-16-2005, 08:43 AM
Depends. I'd say at least one parent should be under 45. My responsibilities of getting my child to "adulthood" (i.e. old enough and educated enough to take care of herself) will end in my early 50's. I will really miss having her around, but at the same time, I'm glad I'll have many years to enjoy her as an adult and the freedom that comes with not having children under the roof.

bkkcoh
03-16-2005, 08:43 AM
Are you sure?
:hmmm:

<a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2004/05/18/entertainment/printable618083.shtml" target="_blank">Link</a>


Show Biz Mourns Tony Randall ..
Randall, who had been hospitalized since December when he developed pneumonia after heart bypass surgery, died in his sleep Monday night at NYU Medical Center. His wife, Heather Harlan Randall - who had made him a father for the first time at age 77 - was by his side.

Amnorix
03-16-2005, 08:54 AM
Wife and I are 41, and we're contemplating #4.

41 is definitely not too old to have a kid these days. Hell, most professional couples aren't starting until they're into their 30s.

badgirl
03-16-2005, 09:08 AM
I'd say 32 cause I think at 50 when your child is 18 your gonna be ready for a rest. But 40 is definately pushing it.

I go for having them at a young age like 20 or 21 so you still have a life left for yourself when they are gone, but the down side to that is you raise your kids all your life and when they leave, you don't know who you are anymore, thats the way I feel, when mine left, I felt really empty, I had mine at 19, 20 and 24 and now that I'm 40, I don't know who I am without them. I have been kinda depressed most this year because of it.

I guess I've replaced my kids with the Planeteers. :deevee:

bkkcoh
03-16-2005, 09:17 AM
...
I guess I've replaced my kids with the Planeteers. :deevee:


I hope you aren't going to be looking to move into one of our houses when you are old and can't support yourself!!!!!


:p

milkman
03-16-2005, 09:20 AM
I guess I've replaced my kids with the Planeteers. :deevee:

Mommie!? :eek: :clap:

badgirl
03-16-2005, 09:20 AM
I hope you aren't going to be looking to move into one of our houses when you are old and can't support yourself!!!!!


:p
:spock: I hope no one ever has to move into one of those "houses" when they are old. No I don't plan on it, I am praying I'll be able to keep my health and be able to take care of myself, I should get social security since I've had to always work and will always have to it looks like. :p

badgirl
03-16-2005, 09:27 AM
Mommie!? :eek: :clap:
Thats right, but don't you guys be asking for nothing!!! That part I don't miss, can I have 20 bucks can I have 100 bucks for a airsoft tournament, have, have, have,!!! :banghead:

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 09:28 AM
I think once you start getting into your 50s, you're ensuring that you'll be in your 70s when the kid graduates high school. Your (possibly) declining health will constitute a burden on someone just starting out in life. You won't be around to be grandparents to his/her kids. Heck, even when you're in your 60s you often start slowing down, so it becomes harder to participate in your teen's activities (going to sports events, etc.).

Of course, those are generalizations. There are some vibrant 60-70 year-olds out there who maybe wouldn't miss a beat. And some might live well into their 80s and their child's adulthood. And yes, some 30-40 year-olds are lumps who can't keep up. But I think they're exceptions. I know I sure as heck wouldn't want to be chasing a toddler around the house in my 50s -- I barely survived it in my early 30s.

badgirl
03-16-2005, 09:31 AM
I think once you start getting into your 50s, you're ensuring that you'll be in your 70s when the kid graduates high school. Your (possibly) declining health will constitute a burden on someone just starting out in life. You won't be around to be grandparents to his/her kids. Heck, even when you're in your 60s you often start slowing down, so it becomes harder to participate in your teen's activities (going to sports events, etc.).

Of course, those are generalizations. There are some vibrant 60-70 year-olds out there who maybe wouldn't miss a beat. And some might live well into their 80s and their child's adulthood. And yes, some 30-40 year-olds are lumps who can't keep up. But I think they're exceptions. I know I sure as heck wouldn't want to be chasing a toddler around the house in my 50s -- I barely survived it in my early 30s.
50 is waaaaaaay to old to be having kids, what child would want their mother mistaken as their grandmother all their life? :shake:

Plus you'd probably have a child something was wrong with at that age. Al Davis

milkman
03-16-2005, 09:35 AM
Thats right, but don't you guys be asking for nothing!!! That part I don't miss, can I have 20 bucks can I have 100 bucks for a airsoft tournament, have, have, have,!!! :banghead:

*&^%$#mom never buys me anything##$%^&! :cuss:

badgirl
03-16-2005, 09:39 AM
*&^%$#mom never buys me anything##$%^&! :cuss:
Well, I'll tell you what I told them, money isn't free you have to work for it, so come and clean my house and I'll throw you an allowance of 20 dollars a week.
Thats my final offer.
If you want something more expensive than that, you'll have to save for it.
:D

milkman
03-16-2005, 09:42 AM
Well, I'll tell you what I told them, money isn't free you have to work for it, so come and clean my house and I'll throw you an allowance of 20 dollars a week.
Thats my final offer.
If you want something more expensive than that, you'll have to save for it.
:D

Ok, but you have to pay airfare! ROFL

chiefsfolife
03-16-2005, 09:42 AM
Just curious.

depends on how hot your wife is...if not go find another one and finish your quest for more children with her...thats what i would do

badgirl
03-16-2005, 09:43 AM
Ok, but you have to pay airfare! ROFL
Nope, anyone who really want to see their "mommie" will find a way to get here. :p

milkman
03-16-2005, 09:46 AM
Nope, anyone who really want to see their "mommie" will find a way to get here. :p
ROFL

Thig Lyfe
03-16-2005, 10:10 AM
Skip Towne.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:25 AM
Wife and I are 41, and we're contemplating #4.

We had our fourth at age 39, two years ago....if you are gonna do it--now is the time.

If nothing else, get your wife in the mind-set....you need to "practice" a lot. Heh.

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 10:26 AM
I say to each his/her own...it's your choice to have more children, whether you are 40 or 50.
I have 3 sons, 18 years, 14 years and 3 years old...and I am 42...they keep me young.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:28 AM
For the woman, after 40 you have a significant increase in risk of Down's syndrome. It's something like 10% chance I believe. If the mother is 40 years old, I'd think long and hard on it, and get some proffessional medical advice.



The risk IS increased, but 1:10's not true--it's more like a 1:300 chance, but even with that there are ways of counter-acting the contributing factors....and decreasing your chances....ask your doctore.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:30 AM
IIRC, it's broken down like this (very punny):

age 30, a 1-in-1,000 chance
age 35, a 1-in-400 chance
at age 40, a 1-in-100 chance
at 45, a 1-in-30 chance

And our Doctor says THOSE are "high" estimates.

pink
03-16-2005, 10:31 AM
I guess I've replaced my kids with the Planeteers. :deevee:

you poor dear.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:35 AM
you poor dear.

Hey, you married the "head" planeteer (double meaning intended)....heh.

bogie
03-16-2005, 10:37 AM
Depends. I'd say at least one parent should be under 45. My responsibilities of getting my child to "adulthood" (i.e. old enough and educated enough to take care of herself) will end in my early 50's. I will really miss having her around, but at the same time, I'm glad I'll have many years to enjoy her as an adult and the freedom that comes with not having children under the roof.

I was 40 when we had our 1 and only child. My wife was 36. The way I plan it, I'll be 57 or 58 when she moves out. Just in time for me to retire and spend our money on my wife and I...oh, and my kids college.

stumppy
03-16-2005, 10:46 AM
you poor dear.


Don't worry about it. I try to act immature enough so she doesn't notice them gone.



FOOD FIGHT!!!

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:48 AM
I try to act immature...

FOOD FIGHT!!!

Act?

You ACT immature? What a loser....THAT is a bannable offense. You have to BE immature to be a member here. :cuss:

stumppy
03-16-2005, 10:52 AM
Act?

You ACT immature? What a loser....THAT is a bannable offense. You have to BE immature to be a member here. :cuss:



Maby I do and maby I don't.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:57 AM
Maby I do and maby I don't.

Although mispelling maby works for your arm ornament, it won't cut it for you. See you disappoint me: the answer should have been...

"Oh, yeah? I'm rubber. You're glue. Everything bounces off me and sticks to you, geek."

You got some work to do.... ;)

stumppy
03-16-2005, 11:27 AM
Although mispelling maby works for your arm ornament, it won't cut it for you. See you disappoint me: the answer should have been...

"Oh, yeah? I'm rubber. You're glue. Everything bounces off me and sticks to you, geek."

You got some work to do.... ;)


My dad can beat your dad up.:p

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 11:46 AM
My dad can beat your dad up.:p

Oh, yeah....your mom wears combat boots. :harumph:

ENDelt260
03-16-2005, 11:49 AM
I have a buddy who was born when his parents were in their 50s. One of his hands didn't finish forming... he just has a nub. Might be related to Mom's age... who knows. On the plus side, he's got a cool way to f*ck with people at bars.

badgirl
03-16-2005, 12:12 PM
Act?

You ACT immature? What a loser....THAT is a bannable offense. You have to BE immature to be a member here. :cuss:
Well I don't think the immature part is an act :shake:

I know he's messier than all my kids put together. :cuss:

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 12:13 PM
You should "spank" him....often.

BigMeatballDave
03-16-2005, 12:15 PM
I have a sister thats 20 and a brother thats 21. My dad is 64 and my mom is 61...

CASHMAN
03-16-2005, 12:17 PM
For the women to have them or a man to make one????



CASHMAN.

Spott
03-16-2005, 12:17 PM
Personally, I think 30 is about the limit, but to each his own. I only wanted 1 child so I got "neutered" when I was 24 shortly after my son was born.

badgirl
03-16-2005, 12:18 PM
You should "spank" him....often.
I do, I try to crack the whip every chance I get ;)

CASHMAN
03-16-2005, 12:19 PM
I am 40 and my wife is 25 and we will be having kids soon:):)



CASHMAN.

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 12:22 PM
I am 40 and my wife is 25

You bastard. :deevee:

milkman
03-16-2005, 12:23 PM
I do, I try to crack the whip every chance I get ;)

OK, I think this thread has now become worthless without pics! :thumb:

CASHMAN
03-16-2005, 12:24 PM
You bastard. :deevee:

:):):):)



CASHMAN.

siberian khatru
03-16-2005, 12:24 PM
:):):):)



CASHMAN.

Yeah, yeah, rub it in. I'll just have to rub one out. :p

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 07:24 PM
I have a buddy who was born when his parents were in their 50s. One of his hands didn't finish forming... he just has a nub. Might be related to Mom's age... who knows. On the plus side, he's got a cool way to f*ck with people at bars.





I have a nephew the same way. His small hand when born was the size of our thumbnails. He doesn't have the full arm either, he has the elbow and then about 2 inches. There is nothing that boy can't do, of course he has been a shriner's baby since birth.:thumb: Anyway it is just one of those freak things that happen the doctors said....

Deberg_1990
03-16-2005, 07:29 PM
id say 80-85

chiefs4me
03-16-2005, 07:34 PM
id say 80-85



:eek:

Bowser
03-16-2005, 07:38 PM
My dad was 48 when I was born, my mom 36. When I was a child, I had red, RED hair, and my dad would tell everybody it was because the pipes were rusty when I was conceived.

The health factor is one to consider. Dad came down with cancer when I was 10. I new all about chemo treatments at a way too young age. But, every case is different.

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 08:08 PM
For me? 31. ROFL

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 09:08 PM
Adopted my son at age 36, wife was 35.....

3 years later my wife got pregnant at 38 and i had just turned 40.....

We were told we couldn't have kids...so practicing birth control wasn't something we ever thought about...after that I had to get the old V-snip....

Age only matters when you don't take care of yourself.....her doctor told my wife, at age 39, she handled pregnancy better than gals 10 years her junior.

mmaddog
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Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:14 PM
About a day younger than I am now, ALWAYS. :grr:

Frazod most definitely DOESN'T want children.

TheNextStep
03-16-2005, 09:25 PM
I've got a story about this...

My dad had a vasectomy after his third boy. Two years after that, my parents got divorced. Two years after that, my dad remarried a wonderful lady and they decided that they wanted kids. Dad had the vasectomy reversal surgery... twice. They tried for about twelve years to have kids - going to the fertility clinic, etc - and it never happened for them. After 12 years, they both came to grips with the sad fact that they would not be able to have children together.

About 4 years after they had given up, my step-mom wasn't feeling right. She thought she was going through early menopause but she got a home pregnancy thing, just to rule it out.

It was blue.

They got in the car and high-tailed it to the base hospital (my dad's a military retiree by this point) and went straight to the lab. My dad says, "We need to get a blood test for my wife to test for pregnancy!" The guy behind the counter says, "Sir, we're on a base-wide 'down day' today, so we're only here to cover emergencies." My dad doesn't miss a beat and say, "Son, I turn 50 years old in a week and a half."

"Bring her on back, sir!" :)

I'm 33... my little sister just turned 5. She's 6 months older than my son.

You're too old to have kids when you can't take care of them or give them the love, attention, discipline, etc that they need. My dad and my step-mom are positively doting parents. Nobody could look at them and how they parent my sister and say, "You guys shouldn't have..."

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 09:27 PM
Frazod most definitely DOESN'T want children.And, with that simple exclamation, Kyle's insomnia problems came to a final, blessed end.

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:30 PM
And, with that simple exclamation, Kyle's insomnia problems came to a final, blessed end.

Mine, too.

If I had a kid, I'd probably be driving a minivan instead of a Mustang. I'll stick with the car - it won't try to put me in a home 30 years from now.

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 09:42 PM
If I had a kid-

Shit, I don't even want to think about it.

Although if my ex had have had a kid, it would've taken about a billion dollars worth of paternity tests to convince me it was mine.

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:44 PM
If I had a kid-

Shit, I don't even want to think about it.

Although if my ex had have had a kid, it would've taken about a billion dollars worth of paternity tests to convince me it was mine.

Unless it was readily apparent, of course. :D

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 09:46 PM
Unless it was readily apparent, of course.Well, she wasn't discriminating. She slept with white guys, black guys, mexican guys. Probably some women. I consider myself fortunate that our sex life deteriorated, because I don't want to think about the 'melting pot' I'd have been poking around in.

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:48 PM
Well, she wasn't discriminating. She slept with white guys, black guys, mexican guys. Probably some women. I consider myself fortunate that our sex life deteriorated, because I don't want to think about the 'melting pot' I'd have been poking around in.

You really should just kill the bitch and get it over with. Hire Robert Blake's lawyer. :evil:

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 09:48 PM
Mine, too.

If I had a kid, I'd probably be driving a minivan instead of a Mustang. I'll stick with the car - it won't try to put me in a home 30 years from now.

Hey...there's nothing wrong with having a minivan, as long as your other car is a manly vehicle.....

mmaddog
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Proud Tacoma owner

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:49 PM
Hey...there's nothing wrong with having a minivan, as long as your other car is a manly vehicle.....

mmaddog
*******
Proud Tacoma owner

You truly believe that, don't you? :shake:




:p

TheNextStep
03-16-2005, 09:51 PM
I can go one worse: When my son was about two years old I actually had a sober, coherent thought... and it said, "You know, mini-vans are actually pretty cool..."

In my defense, we had just driven from Las Vegas to Houston with a two year old in the back...

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 09:51 PM
You really should just kill the bitch and get it over with. The funniest thing is, I'm not the least bit angry about it. Total dry humor. I think it's funny how f*cked up she was.

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:52 PM
In my defense, we had just driven from Las Vegas to Houston with a two year old in the back...

Reason #3,507 that I don't want kids.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 09:52 PM
Hey...there's nothing wrong with having a minivan, as long as your other car is a manly vehicle.....

mmaddog
*******
Proud Tacoma owner

What if both your cars are minivans?

How else do you haul four kids around.... :(

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:53 PM
The funniest thing is, I'm not the least bit angry about it. Total dry humor. I think it's funny how f*cked up she was.

You? Angry? Why would anyone ever think that?

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 09:56 PM
You truly believe that, don't you? :shake:




:p

Of course I do.....

:hmmm:...checks his Machism-o-meter

mmaddog
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keg in kc
03-16-2005, 09:57 PM
You? Angry? Why would anyone ever think that?I'm not sure. It's a misperception.

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 09:58 PM
What if both your cars are minivans?

How else do you haul four kids around.... :(

Easy man...it's called a Quad Cab!

mmaddog
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Inspector
03-16-2005, 09:58 PM
We do day care for 4 grandkids. 3 of them are under 2 years old.

I can't imagine actually having them full time - even though we have them a lot. It's very physically taxing.

You don't realize how much you depend upon your youthful energy to aid you in child rearing.

It's out of the question for us - my wife is no longer fertile - so to speak.

The good news is grandkids are your reward for putting up with raising kids. It's that way for us anyway.

I had an uncle who was in his early 70's when his youngest graduated HS. Impressive.....

Frazod
03-16-2005, 09:59 PM
I'm not sure. It's a misperception.

I get the same thing. What the f#ck is wrong with these people?

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 10:00 PM
I get the same thing. What the f#ck is wrong with these people?I think with me it's because I don't use smileys to take the sting out of my posts. I think it confuses them. F*cking shits for brains.

Inspector
03-16-2005, 10:01 PM
I'd say 32 cause I think at 50 when your child is 18 your gonna be ready for a rest. But 40 is definately pushing it.

I go for having them at a young age like 20 or 21 so you still have a life left for yourself when they are gone, but the down side to that is you raise your kids all your life and when they leave, you don't know who you are anymore, thats the way I feel, when mine left, I felt really empty, I had mine at 19, 20 and 24 and now that I'm 40, I don't know who I am without them. I have been kinda depressed most this year because of it.

I guess I've replaced my kids with the Planeteers. :deevee:

When you have your kids young, you have the energy to do it all. When you have them a little older your energy may be less but you probably make better decisions. It's a trade off.

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 10:02 PM
I'm not sure how either of your are mistaken for angry men......:hmmm:

mmaddog
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Frazod
03-16-2005, 10:03 PM
I think with me it's because I don't use smileys to take the sting out of my posts. I think it confuses them. F*cking shits for brains.

That must be it.

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 10:04 PM
Although it might be because I hate people. But, really, what's so angry about that?

Frazod
03-16-2005, 10:06 PM
Although it might be because I hate people. But, really, what's so angry about that?

Seriously. Just because I have utter contempt for 99% of the human race, it doesn't make me a bad person.

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 10:07 PM
Seriously. Just because I have utter contempt for 99% of the human race, it doesn't make me a bad person.Honestly is the best policy, after all. Why bottle up all that loathing?

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 10:08 PM
Fraz.....

All it would take to bring out your "better" side would be to ask you to be the the Goodwill Ambassador to either Denver or France.....

mmaddog
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Frazod
03-16-2005, 10:08 PM
Honestly is the best policy, after all. Why bottle up all that loathing?

Exactly.


We're probably scaring the shit out of the n00bs and lurkers.... :evil:

Frazod
03-16-2005, 10:09 PM
Fraz.....

All it would take to bring out your "better" side would be to ask you to be the the Goodwill Ambassador to either Denver or France.....

mmaddog
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As long as I'm heavily armed, I don't see a problem with it.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:09 PM
Seriously. Just because I have utter contempt for 99% of the human race....

No shit? :hmmm:


Well....I certainly feel better now. :)

keg in kc
03-16-2005, 10:12 PM
I didn't realize that a full 1% of the human race is both balder and shorter than you, 'zod. Wow, the things you learn on the internet.

Frazod
03-16-2005, 10:12 PM
Well, I'm out for the night, and the weekend. Inaugural road trip commences tomorrow after work. :thumb:

Back late Sunday.

Mr. Kotter
03-16-2005, 10:14 PM
Well, I'm out for the night, and the weekend. Inaugural road trip commences tomorrow after work. :thumb:

Back late Sunday.

Enjoy the weekend, Tim.

Mosbonian
03-16-2005, 10:16 PM
As long as I'm heavily armed, I don't see a problem with it.

Armed with a moustache or an Orange "Mr. Roger's" sweater?

mmaddog
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