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Taco John
02-27-2007, 04:51 PM
Family challenges lesbian adoption

By JERRY HARKAVY
Associated Press Writer

PORTLAND, Maine (AP) -- In their 14-year relationship, Patricia Spado and Olive Watson spent only five nights apart. They lived in New York, spent summers in Maine, and shared the more practical pieces of a life together - a home, a joint bank account.

But in a time long before civil unions or gay marriage, Watson wanted to ensure that her partner would be taken care of when she was no longer there. So, at a small courthouse in coastal Maine, she adopted Spado.

Fifteen years later, the adoption is being challenged in courts in Connecticut and Maine as Olive Watson's family parcels out the family fortune - and contests their newfound heir.

The case, according to gay activists, is rare and offers an example of how far same-sex couples have gone to attain financial and inheritance protections that married couples take for granted.

"It shows what people are driven to when they don't have access to marriage and the conventional way of forming a family," said Mary Bonauto, an attorney with Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, the Boston-based group that won the legal battle that introduced gay marriage to Massachusetts.

At stake is a share in multimillion-dollar trust funds that Olive Watson's father, Thomas Watson, who built International Business Machines into today's IBM computer colossus, set up for his grandchildren. He died in 1993, unaware of the adoption. His wife, who died in 2004, apparently learned of it from her daughter.

With the deaths of both parents, the trusts' beneficiaries - grandchildren, at least 18 of them - became eligible for cash payouts at age 35. But when Spado's lawyer notified the trusts that she was a potential beneficiary as a legal granddaughter, the family challenged the claim in probate court in Greenwich, Conn., where Thomas Watson lived at the time of his death.

Spado and Olive Watson aren't together anymore. They separated in 1992, and while Spado received about $500,000 from Watson, there is nothing in court records to show any arrangement beyond that.

A judge ruled that Thomas Watson did not recognize Spado as his granddaughter and did not intend for her to benefit from the trusts. "It is reasonable to conclude that Watson intended to benefit only those grandchildren who had a typical parent/child relationship with his children," Judge David Hopper wrote.

The size of the estate has not been estimated in court documents, and principals in the case did not respond to requests for comment. Lawyers for Spado and Watson also did not respond to questions about the case.

Spado has appealed. In the meantime, the family trusts are trying to have her adoption annulled in Maine, where they would have to prove deception or fraud.

Briefs filed with the Maine Supreme Judicial Court, which heard an appeal on a technicality, indicate that the judge who approved the adoption never knew that Olive Watson and Spado had a sexual relationship.

New York, where the couple had been living at the time, barred the adoption of a homosexual partner, but Maine had no such restriction. Nor did it have a provision like Connecticut's that prohibits a person from adopting someone older - Spado, 44 at the time, was a year older than her adoptive mother.

However, the Maine adoption law required that the adoptee had to be living in the state, and the two sides are at odds on whether spending part of each summer vacation on Maine's North Haven island met that requirement.

The couple met in 1978 while Spado was working in Los Angeles. Watson rented a residence in California in order to be with her lover, who later abandoned her career and moved with Watson to New York.

They held joint bank accounts, owned real estate together and exchanged durable powers of attorney and health care proxies. Watson amended her will to name Spado as sole beneficiary.

After their breakup, Watson paid Spado the $500,000 settlement in exchange for relinquishing her claim to certain real estate. But the settlement was apparently not intended to terminate Spade's right to her inheritance as a granddaughter.

According to a court brief filed by Spado in Maine, a letter signed by Watson shortly after the breakup confirms "our agreement that I have not and that I shall at no time initiate any action to revoke or annul my adoption of you."

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Donger
02-27-2007, 04:55 PM
After their breakup, Watson paid Spado the $500,000 settlement in exchange for relinquishing her claim to certain real estate. But the settlement was apparently not intended to terminate Spade's right to her inheritance as a granddaughter.


Okay, that's just stupid. Granddaughter?

noa
02-27-2007, 05:00 PM
People should be able to pass on their money to their loved ones, whomever that may be. Anna Nicole Smith, your favorite team's mascot, or your lesbian lover. Its none of our goddamn business to determine who can and who can't inherit money that the person wants to give away.

Now this story is weird since the couple broke up, and in a heterosexual relationship, there would be different consequences, but since they went the adoption route, she still has a claim to the inheritance. These problems would be avoided if we allowed civil unions.

BIG_DADDY
02-27-2007, 05:14 PM
People should be able to pass on their money to their loved ones, whomever that may be. Anna Nicole Smith, your favorite team's mascot, or your lesbian lover. Its none of our goddamn business to determine who can and who can't inherit money that the person wants to give away.

Now this story is weird since the couple broke up, and in a heterosexual relationship, there would be different consequences, but since they went the adoption route, she still has a claim to the inheritance. These problems would be avoided if we allowed civil unions.


HOw could attorneys steal people's money then? :shrug:

Taco John
02-27-2007, 06:34 PM
Okay, that's just stupid. Granddaughter?



I agree that it's stupid, though I have a feeling that we have a difference of opinion on just how many levels it is so.

patteeu
02-27-2007, 06:51 PM
This is stupid on an unspecified number of levels. What a mess.

Sully
02-27-2007, 07:22 PM
It's stupid that our prejudices have forced this family to take such silly measures.

patteeu
02-27-2007, 07:25 PM
It's stupid that our prejudices have forced this family to take such silly measures.

Our prejudices?

Mr. Kotter
02-27-2007, 07:28 PM
It's stupid that our prejudices have forced this family to take such silly measures.

:rolleyes:

Forced?

Uh-huh..... :shake:


Anywho....anyone think this might raise issues of "incest" too? :hmmm:




:p

Dr. Johnny Fever
02-27-2007, 07:43 PM
I wish a hot lesbian would adopt me.

StcChief
02-27-2007, 08:27 PM
I think I'm a like another planeteer.....

A lesbian trapped in a Man's body....

We have one thing in common carpet munchin.

Logical
02-27-2007, 10:06 PM
Our laws are so backward that this was even ever needed. To think it is being challenged in court is disgusting.

patteeu
02-28-2007, 06:20 AM
Our laws are so backward that this was even ever needed. To think it is being challenged in court is disgusting.

1. It wasn't needed. The same things could have been done with other, more straightforward legal maneuvers (e.g. contracts).

2. It's hard to believe that when the couple split, the "mother" wanted the "daughter" to continue to be heir to her family's fortune. If my assumption that this was not intended is correct, I don't find it at all disgusting that the "adoption" is being challenged.

jiveturkey
02-28-2007, 08:21 AM
I'm going to need photo and video evidence prior to passing judgment.

And please keep Tommy Lasorda away from my chambers.

pikesome
02-28-2007, 11:46 AM
2. It's hard to believe that when the couple split, the "mother" wanted the "daughter" to continue to be heir to her family's fortune. If my assumption that this was not intended is correct, I don't find it at all disgusting that the "adoption" is being challenged.

The financial connection between married folks ends at divorce (unless the divorce decree says otherwise). This is more about Money, Money, Money than homosexuals.

patteeu
02-28-2007, 12:05 PM
The financial connection between married folks ends at divorce (unless the divorce decree says otherwise). This is more about Money, Money, Money than homosexuals.

I agree.

noa
02-28-2007, 12:08 PM
The financial connection between married folks ends at divorce (unless the divorce decree says otherwise). This is more about Money, Money, Money than homosexuals.


I also agree. The only thing that has to do with homosexuality in this story is that these women felt adoption was their best option since they couldn't get married. Its a very odd approach, and obviously has become problematic, but to me this is an illustration of why we should have civil unions for everyone.

pikesome
02-28-2007, 12:17 PM
I also agree. The only thing that has to do with homosexuality in this story is that these women felt adoption was their best option since they couldn't get married. Its a very odd approach, and obviously has become problematic, but to me this is an illustration of why we should have civil unions for everyone.

I wonder what the logic behind letting some one over 18 be adopted.

noa
02-28-2007, 12:25 PM
I wonder what the logic behind letting some one over 18 be adopted.


Good point. I can't believe that's even possible. It reminds me of that movie where Peter Sellers is a billionaire and he adopts a homeless guy played by Ringo Starr.

go bowe
03-01-2007, 03:11 PM
HOw could attorneys steal people's money then? :shrug:eh, they have their ways... :fire:

BIG_DADDY
03-01-2007, 03:14 PM
eh, they have their ways... :fire:

I know they do. :) On the other hand I am sure nobody is pushing for gay marriage any harder than the attorneys who will benefit from it.

banyon
03-01-2007, 03:15 PM
:rolleyes:

Forced?

Uh-huh..... :shake:


Anywho....anyone think this might raise issues of "incest" too? :hmmm:



:p


This is not trivial. Legally, that is what these people likely did although I do not know how Maine's incest statute reads.

go bowe
03-01-2007, 03:16 PM
:rolleyes:

Forced?

Uh-huh..... :shake:


Anywho....anyone think this might raise issues of "incest" too? :hmmm:




:pvice is nice
but incest is best...

BIG_DADDY
03-01-2007, 03:25 PM
vice is nice
but incest is best...

That's what they say. :)

gblowfish
03-01-2007, 05:21 PM
I thought this was that story about the lesbo Koala bears. Whoops, my bad.