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The Rick
08-20-2008, 09:36 AM
:eek: Impressive!
When most people train for a marathon, sex toys, pornography and Brazilian waxes are not part of the preparation.


However, Doug and Annie Brown’s marathon was a little different. The Boulder, Colo., couple – who had already been married for 11 years – were about to embark upon a marathon of 101 consecutive days of sex.
In the hilarious, romantic book, “Just Do It – How One Couple Turned Off The TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives For 101 Days (No Excuses!),” Doug Brown highlights how he and his wife set out to accomplish what seemed at times an impossible goal.


Recently optioned by 20th Century FOX, there is the possibility the book could make it to the big screen.


The story starts in September 2005. At the time, Doug and Annie were living in Denver, Colo., and Doug, a features writer for the Denver Post, told his wife about an unofficial club of people who had gone 100 days without sex.


That’s when Annie suggested they try the opposite.


<!-- QUIGO --> <!-- QUIGO --> “At first, I sort of thought, ‘That’s funny, ha ha,’” said Doug, 43, in a phone interview. “But, I know Annie pretty well and she loves a challenge. We talked about it more that night and the next morning, and I knew she was serious.”


It wasn’t like Doug and Annie weren’t having any sex at all.


On the average, they were having sex about once a week, “usually on Saturday nights,” said Doug, who still works at the Post.


Considering they both had jobs, and were raising their daughters Joni and Ginger, who are now 9 and 5, those numbers weren’t too bad, said FOXSexpert Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright.


A 1994 study indicates that 30- to 39-year-olds are having sex an average of 86 times per year, and 40- to 49-year-olds are having sex an average of 69 times per year, Fulbright said.


“When Saturday night sex becomes routine, that is when couples need to make sure they are still wooing each other by incorporating spontaneity and novelty,” Fulbright added.

When I was around Annie in the evening, especially if I thought sex loomed (and during the marathon, it would loom over everything), arousal arrived like an intern on his first day at the firm: eager, earnest, attentive and bouncy with vigor ... Annie, on the other hand didn’t have an intern. She depended on a motley crew of part-timers who had to be called, with schedules that demanded massaging. To put it directly, I found it easier to crave sex on most nights than did Annie. Getting me in the mood, often took no more than a glance at her cleavage. Coaxing a thirst for sex out of Annie required more toil. Once the appetite arrived, though, it clamored for quenching.

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby



“The next morning, I woke up and thought, ‘We really need to do this,” said Annie, 41, who works as a media analyst for Dow Jones. “Our marriage really needs to do this. That’s how it started.”


The marathon began January 1, 2006. They would need ways to keep it interesting, sexy. They started planning.

Annie’s ideas: Doug needed to replace his old sweatpants, the one with five pockets that he always wore to bed, with something more appealing. She would wear more lingerie and lipstick, and try a Brazilian wax.

Doug’s ideas: Annie should wear ‘sexy, thigh-high’ stockings. He would start working out. Together, they would visit the Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas, which Doug was covering for the Post.

The sex project, I understood (ingeniously, I might add), offered the perfect rationale for convincing Annie that viewing porno together would be worth a shot. In the context of our sex experiment, we’d do it in the name of chemistry: Just add porno, and see what happens.

“You’ve got your porno. But, now it’s my turn. Sex toys.”

“Dildos?” I said, my heart pounding.

“I’ve got to research it. But I’m always hearing about how women are using sex toys. There are sex-toys parties. It’s on Oprah. It’s supposed to be healthy. I’m nearly forty, and I’ve never even touched one.”

I nodded slowly, but my mind was racing. What sort of Pandora’s Box have we opened?

The doctor’s ideas: Keep the bedroom door locked. Lubrication – and lots of it. Doug should eat fruits, since semen is “basic,” and the vagina is “acidic.” Annie, of course, would go on a birth control (http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,406582,00.html#) pill. Male ‘vitality’ herbs couldn’t hurt. Oh, and free samples of Viagra!

The rules: Oral sex was OK for foreplay, but in order for the encounter to count, it had to be intercourse. It had to be every single day, in sickness and health (including a bout of vertigo for Doug), through good times and bad (two big fights) and for richer or poorer (the marathon would require shelling out some extra money).

The bonus: After a spectacular finish on the 100th night, “we did it again,” Doug wrote in "Just Do It." (http://www.justdoit101days.com/)



Doug’s co-worker at the Post approached him during the marathon (yes, they included their friends and family in on their sexcapade!) and suggested the Browns might do the deed one extra night – for good luck.

Getting It On . . . And On

Annie and I stayed up late poking around on the Internet. At 11 p.m., we still hadn’t even touched each other. When we finally did, Annie looked exhausted, and while my brain was zinging from the pill, my body was shutting down.

“What do you want to do?” asked Annie, stifling a yawn.

“I don’t know,” I answered. “What do YOU want to do?”

Said Annie: “Are we in seventh grade?”



“The hardest part, no question, was the tiredness,” Doug said. “You work, you commute, you have kids, you have to clean up, make sure they brush their teeth (http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,406582,00.html#) – by the time that part of the day is over, you are just tired and ready to zone out. That was the biggest impediment, getting past the fatigue. My body wasn’t used to ‘it’s Wednesday night at 9:30 p.m. and I’m going to have sex.’”


On top of the fatigue, Doug and Annie had to treat sex with respect. They couldn’t always just flop into bed and do the deed. They usually showered beforehand to wake themselves up, and lit candles in the bedroom, which they had dubbed the ‘sex den.’


“We weren’t doing it for the sake of doing it,” Doug said. “The point was to see what would happen. We treated it like we were dating again. We started looking forward to it.”

‘Just Do It’



The marathon’s benefits were overwhelming. Although their marriage was never really suffering, the marathon had renewed a spark and reminded them of the key ingredient that some couples tend to forget about – communication.


“I really think we communicate so much clearer and with so much more honesty (now),” Annie said. “There were so many times before that we hadn’t even hugged for like three days in a row. We gravitate toward rubbing each others’ backs more. We realize how important it is to put the kids to bed and spend time together.”

We’d done it in a basement, a Las Vegas casino, a classy hotel, a Victorian bed-and-breakfast, and a yurt. We’d had early-morning sex, late-afternoon sex, and lots of evening sex. Nor will we forget the sex we had on the side of a cliff during our “training” period just prior to the kickoff of the marathon ... We’d traveled far. We knew we’d come back to our lives removed from the adventure’s rigors soon, but it seemed likely that things would be different, had to be different. We’d seen and felt and tasted so much. Adequacy no longer was acceptable: We demanded panting flesh, ravishment. We’d grown spoiled.



Even if Annie and Doug’s love story never makes it to the big screen, they are happy with the book’s success and hope its message reaches other couples.


“I would love to see this conversation in every home in America,” Annie said. “Gay, straight, with kids or without – this is a conversation that people shrink from and yet it’s so important. Once you stop making love to your partner, you become roommates. Whether it’s five times a month, or three times a month, just being comfortable with that number is most important.”


And for those of you wanting to try your own ‘marathons,’ Doug and Annie suggested starting out on a smaller scale – say, five or 10 consecutive days.


“Make sex a priority,” Annie said. “Stop watching TV and bringing the laptop to bed. Stop multi-tasking. Just listen to one another. And hire that housekeeper – even if it’s only once a year or once a month.”
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,406582,00.html

gblowfish
08-20-2008, 10:04 AM
Finally, a Fox News story I actually read end to end.

bkkcoh
08-20-2008, 10:25 AM
I am sure their children are freakin' out now knowing that their parents did this that often.

DaKCMan AP
08-20-2008, 10:26 AM
doesn't really seem that difficult...

Nzoner
08-20-2008, 10:28 AM
Finally, a Fox News story I actually read end to end.

:thumb:

Phobia
08-20-2008, 10:35 AM
Jeez - why didn't I write a book? These people are posers.

dtebbe
08-20-2008, 10:36 AM
LOL.. there was actually a club for those who went 100 days without? Show me someone who's been married for 10 years with kids and I'll show you a member of that club....

Guess he must have earned his red badge of courage... three times!

DT

Phobia
08-20-2008, 10:37 AM
Where is the accompanying youtube video?

RockChalk
08-20-2008, 10:40 AM
I've never been married nor have kids, but I don't know how you could go 100 days w/out sex and why you would be so proud of it, that you would join a club.

The Rick
08-20-2008, 10:44 AM
I've never been married nor have kids, but I don't know how you could go 100 days w/out sex and why you would be so proud of it, that you would join a club.
Never married? No kids? Check back with us when you are married with children. It's a whole new ballgame.

RockChalk
08-20-2008, 10:46 AM
Never married? No kids? Check back with us when you are married with children. It's a whole new ballgame.

Well I can certainly understand it to a degree, but 100 days seems a bit excessive.

Demonpenz
08-20-2008, 10:47 AM
10 days without it. I start looking around for someone else.

Lzen
08-20-2008, 10:49 AM
LOL.. there was actually a club for those who went 100 days without? Show me someone who's been married for 10 years with kids and I'll show you a member of that club....

Guess he must have earned his red badge of courage... three times!

DT

Ummmmm......I have been married for nearly 16 years, have 3 kids, and I'm not a member of that club.

TinyEvel
08-20-2008, 10:49 AM
I have a feeling this will be the "most-forwarded-to wives" post ever on Chiefs Planet

The Pedestrian
08-20-2008, 10:50 AM
First: Children ages 9 and 5? WOW! I remember wanting to read everything I could around those ages, but I sure as hell wouldn't want to stumble upon a book about the parents' sex marathon...especially after figuring out what it was about.

Second: "40 - 49 year olds are having sex an average of 69 times a year"...okay, it's immature to laugh at that, but the number 69 coming up in the real statistics made me laugh.

Third: On the side of a cliff? I'm adding that one to my list!

Lzen
08-20-2008, 10:51 AM
My only question is what about her "time of the month"?

Lzen
08-20-2008, 10:51 AM
I have a feeling this will be the "most-forwarded-to wives" post ever on Chiefs Planet

Right on!! :thumb:

Demonpenz
08-20-2008, 10:52 AM
Seriously.... if it has been awhile can't you just give your wife the midnight stealth

The Pedestrian
08-20-2008, 10:52 AM
I have a feeling this will be the "most-forwarded-to wives" post ever on Chiefs Planet with the added message: "We could go for 365, honey!"

fyp

The Pedestrian
08-20-2008, 10:57 AM
My only question is what about her "time of the month"?

From what quite a few women have told me, they like it a lot more than regular sex after they try for the first time...it feels more "sensual".

The Rick
08-20-2008, 11:00 AM
My first thought was: 101 days in a row? Talking her in to 3 days in a row would probably be pushing it. :)

Jilly
08-20-2008, 11:05 AM
I love it! I think it's a great idea...and I think some women would feel excited to do it, if they are competitive and like a challenge! I would do it, if I weren't 9 months pregnant and freakin 200 lbs!

Lzen
08-20-2008, 11:06 AM
Seriously.... if it has been awhile can't you just give your wife the midnight stealth

ROFL ROFL

RJ
08-20-2008, 11:11 AM
Uh-huh, ok, 101 days of consecutive sex. We'll just add that to the weeknight list of things to do in that big 4 hour window we have between the time we get home from work and the time we go to sleep. We'll also add in 30minutes of exercise, a night school course, reading more classic literature and volunteering at the old folk's home.

Nzoner
08-20-2008, 11:14 AM
I have a feeling this will be the "most-forwarded-to wives" post ever on Chiefs Planet

Dear honey,

Since I know you love a good challenge,I thought this would be an interesting article for the two of us to explore.Of course if you're uncomfortable with the porn,waxing or toys I'd be more than in agreement that we choose only 2 of the 3 for starters.

Love

XOXO

Silock
08-20-2008, 11:19 AM
My wife and I have sex everyday, and we don't have to have a plan to go about it.

Of course, we don't have kids, and we aren't planning on it. We'd rather have sex and save money than procreate.

Reerun_KC
08-20-2008, 11:19 AM
I would say on average after 16 1/2 years of marriage, we still make love at least 2 times a week, sometimes 3 a week.

So I would say we surpass the 101 times in a year, just not 101 days straight.

Reerun_KC
08-20-2008, 11:20 AM
My wife and I have sex everyday, and we don't have to have a plan to go about it.

Of course, we don't have kids, and we aren't planning on it. We'd rather have sex and save money than procreate.
:hail:

Hog Farmer
08-20-2008, 11:20 AM
Hell, I've been having sex every day for nearly 12 years. Animals count , right ?

Silock
08-20-2008, 11:22 AM
:hail:

Heh, I can definitely see how adding kids throws things out of whack. Forget that noise.

Saulbadguy
08-20-2008, 11:23 AM
Let me know when they do the 101 days of anal sex + donkey punching marathon.

Nzoner
08-20-2008, 11:24 AM
I would say on average after 16 1/2 years of marriage, we still make love at least 2 times a week, sometimes 3 a week.




The article said SEX not making love :)

Reerun_KC
08-20-2008, 11:29 AM
The article said SEX not making love :)
:clap:

Hot stinky dirty Monkey Sex!

KingPriest2
08-20-2008, 11:38 AM
JOhhnyt Dare had them on about a month ago. The guy was a complete dork and all serious the wife was more into it.

Nzoner
08-20-2008, 11:47 AM
JOhhnyt Dare had them on about a month ago. The guy was a complete dork

He's prolly a Bronco fan

RJ
08-20-2008, 11:52 AM
The article said SEX not making love :)



ROFL

Yes, it's an important distinction.

el borracho
08-20-2008, 11:55 AM
My only question is what about her "time of the month"?

Seaman Lzen please report to the poop deck for duty.

el borracho
08-20-2008, 11:57 AM
Uh-huh, ok, 101 days of consecutive sex. We'll just add that to the weeknight list of things to do in that big 4 hour window we have between the time we get home from work and the time we go to sleep. We'll also add in 30minutes of exercise, a night school course, reading more classic literature and volunteering at the old folk's home.

Wow that does sound like a lot. You'll probably have to put curing cancer on the back-burner until the next daylight savings.

KC Kings
08-20-2008, 12:38 PM
Ummmmm......I have been married for nearly 16 years, have 3 kids, and I'm not a member of that club.
I have 3 kids and 10 year of marriage, not a member of that club either.

I can't say that it has ever been 101 days in a row, but if I knew you could write a book about it we would have done it a long time ago.

When I read the part about viagra and lots of lubrication I thought maybe they meant 101 days without a break. If they are talking about once a day for 101 days, what is the big deal about that?

KC Kings
08-20-2008, 12:40 PM
I have a feeling this will be the "most-forwarded-to wives" post ever on Chiefs Planet

If it is fowarded, you better make sure to edit the part about the 100 day of abstinance club, or your plan might backfire on you!

Demonpenz
08-20-2008, 01:22 PM
can the 101 days include other people. Sometimes frosted flakes gets old and you want fruit loops

blueballs
08-20-2008, 01:34 PM
Come on honey
you can be putting on your make up
you've got time

alpha_omega
08-20-2008, 01:44 PM
Liars!