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BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:27 PM
I was talking to my fiance in bed last night, and we were discussing broadening our sexlife. She then proceeds to tell me she would be open to inviting another woman into our bed. :eek:

I'm not sure how to approach this. I have never had a threesome. I'm 38. I've only been a one-woman kinda guy. I'm not against this practice, because it does sound intriguing. I just don't think I could touch another woman that way. She says since it is something we are sharing, it would not bother her; not cheating. What say you?

EDIT: UPDATE! This never happened and we split up. refer to post #219

Simply Red
05-19-2009, 05:28 PM
me, why?

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:28 PM
The door is open, my friend, time to stop thinking and step on through.

Just be ready for a month from now when she decides she wants to try it again, this time with a stunt-penis.

Count Alex's Losses
05-19-2009, 05:29 PM
Craigslist.

Simply Red
05-19-2009, 05:30 PM
The door is open, my friend, time to stop thinking and step on through.

Just be ready for a month from now when she decides she wants to try it again, this time with a stunt-penis.


ROFL

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:30 PM
The door is open, my friend, time to stop thinking and step on through.

Just be ready for a month from now when she decides she wants to try it again, this time with a stunt-penis.Only one penis in my bed.

bogey
05-19-2009, 05:31 PM
Don't do it. It can only lead to bad things. Again, DON'T DO IT.

RJ
05-19-2009, 05:32 PM
There have been a few threesome threads on CP, all filled with the collected Planet wisdom on the subject.

My advice is to not read any of them. In fact, my advice is to not even read this thread. Just get it done before the wife backs out.

BTW, does she already have a third party in mind?

Simply Red
05-19-2009, 05:32 PM
Don't do it. It can only lead to bad things. Again, DON'T DO IT.

I think I agree, actually.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:33 PM
Don't do it. It can only lead to bad things. Again, DON'T DO IT.You sound like you speak from expierence. Please, do tell...

Katipan
05-19-2009, 05:33 PM
I've rarely if ever had a man willing to share me yet most of them if not all claimed at some point to have had a 3some.

They are never stories of romantic interludes. Not the people I know. I know those stories exist... I see them on HBO sometimes.

ClevelandBronco
05-19-2009, 05:34 PM
I was talking to my fiance in bed last night, and we were discussing broadening our sexlife. She then proceeds to tell me she would be open to inviting another woman into our bed. :eek:

I'm not sure how to approach this. I have never had a threesome. I'm 38. I've only been a one-woman kinda guy. I'm not against this practice, because it does sound intriguing. I just don't think I could touch another woman that way. She says since it is something we are sharing, it would not bother her; not cheating. What say you?

You might want to talk her down from the ledge, man. I'm guessing that none of this is about you.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:34 PM
Only one penis in my bed.I was hoping you'd say "only one dick in my bed" because I was all ready to follow up "so she'll have to pick a nice guy".

bogey
05-19-2009, 05:34 PM
If you do, don't show her that you're enjoying it too much. It will lead to bad, bad things.

Simply Red
05-19-2009, 05:35 PM
There have been a few threesome threads on CP, all filled with the collected Planet wisdom on the subject.

My advice is to not read any of them. In fact, my advice is to not even read this thread. Just get it done before the wife backs out.

BTW, does she already have a third party in mind?

yes,

http://i39.tinypic.com/vzvixl.jpg

Saccopoo
05-19-2009, 05:35 PM
Just depends on how much you like your finance and how much you are willing to risk in terms of that relationship potentially going awry due to the introduction of a third person into it. Regardless of what anyone says, there is going to be some awkwardness and some potential for negative ramifications in such a scenario.

My last girlfriend offered the same thing, but knowing there was the potential for things to get "weird," I declined the offer. I told her if she wanted to sleep with girls, I didn't have a problem with that, but I didn't want to be in the middle of it when it happened.

On a side note, what's the deal with this "movement" towards bisexualism of late in dealing with women? It seems to be happening more than I remember in the past. Anyone with some psychological or sociological insights?

RJ
05-19-2009, 05:35 PM
Don't do it. It can only lead to bad things. Again, DON'T DO IT.


You mean just because the relationship between him and his wife will never be the same? That's only a problem if their relationship is currently good. :D

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:35 PM
BTW, does she already have a third party in mind?No, she hasn't gotten into any details. I'd imagine if this ever took place, she'd pick the 3rd party.

stumppy
05-19-2009, 05:36 PM
Only one penis in my bed.


Yea, but who's will it be after the experimenting begins?

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:36 PM
I've rarely if ever had a man willing to share me yet most of them if not all claimed at some point to have had a 3some.

They are never stories of romantic interludes. Not the people I know. I know those stories exist... I see them on HBO sometimes.I definitely couldn't do it with somebody I cared about.

Fortunately, it's not something I'm ever going to have to worry about.

MIAdragon
05-19-2009, 05:36 PM
Me, and imo its overrated.

Buck
05-19-2009, 05:36 PM
You know who has 2 thumbs and hasn't had a 3some? This guy

bogey
05-19-2009, 05:37 PM
You sound like you speak from expierence. Please, do tell...

I have no experience with 3somes that involved my wife. You're likely being tested. Tell her that you have no interest in being with any other woman other than her.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 05:37 PM
On a side note, what's the deal with this "movement" towards bisexualism of late in dealing with women? It seems to be happening more than I remember in the past. Anyone with some psychological or sociological insights?

It started when it stopped being taboo which would be a natural course of events, then some famous chick made out with some other famous chick and it became trendy. I think it will all die down and all that will be left are the true believers and those of us who just use it to pay a bar tab.

Donger
05-19-2009, 05:37 PM
Not I. And, I'd be worried if my wife suggested it.

RJ
05-19-2009, 05:37 PM
I've rarely if ever had a man willing to share me yet most of them if not all claimed at some point to have had a 3some.

They are never stories of romantic interludes. Not the people I know. I know those stories exist... I see them on HBO sometimes.


Romantic?

You mean like with flowers and stuff?

No, probably not.

Tiger's Fan
05-19-2009, 05:38 PM
Do you like fishsticks?

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:38 PM
Not I. And, I'd be worried if my wife suggested it.What about if a hooker showed up in the bedroom some night at midnight? "Surprise!"

Otter
05-19-2009, 05:38 PM
Unless your fiancee and yourself are highly unique and free spirited indivuidual you might want to think it through. It's not something I would recommend for a commited relationship in 90% of cases.

Deberg_1990
05-19-2009, 05:39 PM
Why is Jilly not around when we need her for these kinds of threads?? ROFL

Donger
05-19-2009, 05:39 PM
What about if a hooker showed up in the bedroom some night at midnight? "Surprise!"

Same.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 05:40 PM
Romantic?

You mean like with flowers and stuff?

No, probably not.

Or like when one of the involved parties doesn't go psycho.

Saccopoo
05-19-2009, 05:40 PM
It started when it stopped being taboo which would be a natural course of events, then some famous chick made out with some other famous chick and it became trendy. I think it will all die down and all that will be left are the true believers and those of us who just use it to pay a bar tab.

Hot. Seriously. Hot.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:40 PM
Same.What about if the lights were out, you crawled into bed, started getting the best oral you'd ever had, and then the wife turned the lights on? "Surprise!"

Donger
05-19-2009, 05:41 PM
What about if the lights were out, you crawled into bed, started getting the best oral you'd ever had, and then the wife turned the lights on? "Surprise!"

Same.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:41 PM
I have no experience with 3somes that involved my wife. You're likely being tested. Tell her that you have no interest in being with any other woman other than her.I thought about the testing part, but she's done this before. Threesomes, that is. BTW, she is 11 yrs younger than me.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:41 PM
Same.And it was a male hooker.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 05:42 PM
I though about the testing part, but she's done this before. Threesomes, that is. BTW, she is 11 yrs younger than me.Oh, dude.

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 05:43 PM
I'm not sure that anything good can come from it at this point. None of the advice on here will do you much good. Won't stop us from throwing it out there though... Nobody (but you and the fiance) understands every nuance of your relationship.

How long have you known her? How long have you dated/been engaged to her? Is she a lot younger than you?

Is she saying that this would be her first rodeo in that type of arena? I'm going to guess 'no'.

Sounds like you're going to need to be talked into to going through with it, and if that's the case... just don't do it.

I just don't know that it will be good for the long haul... and as mentioned previously, if you open pandora's box in this scenario and then deny her the ability to work with a stunt penis, then I would imagine that's going to be a fun conversation.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:45 PM
Oh, dude.What?

bogey
05-19-2009, 05:46 PM
I though about the testing part, but she's done this before. Threesomes, that is. BTW, she is 11 yrs younger than me.

Obviously, I don't know her. You're asking my opinion. If she's a fuck buddy, go for it. If she's your fiance, DON'T DO IT. Again, if you do it, don't show too much pleasure or I guarentee, jealousy will come in to play.

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 05:46 PM
I though about the testing part, but she's done this before. Threesomes, that is. BTW, she is 11 yrs younger than me.

I either missed this or you were typing while I was posting...

So, she's a veteran of this li'l event and she's 27... I think this is a no-win situation. Have an open conversation about it and share your concerns before doing anything.

And, seeing as how she has done this before ... and you're on the verge of being married, you have to ask yourself... will she continue to have this desire? While many think "Damn, that would be amazing!" I just can't imagine it's a good thing long term.

RJ
05-19-2009, 05:46 PM
Or like when one of the involved parties doesn't go psycho.


I've done it a few times but it was a long time ago and it was only about sex, there weren't really any emotions involved. In all honestly, I don't know that I'd reccommend it to older, married adults.

College age kids? Different story.

CaliforniaChief
05-19-2009, 05:47 PM
I would not go that way. I would guess that a very low percentage of long-term relationships do well when another person is introduced. Further, it becomes weird to go back to "normal sex" with her once you've had it with another person. She starts to wonder if you're thinking about the other girl and you start to wonder if you're adequate for her needs. I would run far, far, away from that and push forward with building the emotional and spiritual connection with her that makes for the best sex.

Otter
05-19-2009, 05:48 PM
The door is open, my friend, time to stop thinking and step on through.

Just be ready for a month from now when she decides she wants to try it again, this time with a stunt-penis.

Yep, and what you gonna say? "No, that's not fair!" then BAMM some guys balls rub up against your leg when he's moving in to plow your fiance like a porn star.

Sorry man, as cool as it sounds this is something you do with 2 girls you can walk away from the next morning with no strings attatched.

Skip Towne
05-19-2009, 05:48 PM
Not I. And, I'd be worried if my wife suggested it.

You'd be a natural what with your hot SIL and all.

rockymtnchief
05-19-2009, 05:48 PM
I have three times and chose not to one other time. None of them was with a girlfriend. The stars lined up and it just sorta happened.
I think if my current girlfriend asked I'd probably pass. I'd be nervous about making a new hump face that she's never seen and she'd bring it up every time we had an argument.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:49 PM
I'm not sure that anything good can come from it at this point. None of the advice on here will do you much good. Won't stop us from throwing it out there though... Nobody (but you and the fiance) understands every nuance of your relationship.

How long have you known her? How long have you dated/been engaged to her? Is she a lot younger than you?

Is she saying that this would be her first rodeo in that type of arena? I'm going to guess 'no'.

Sounds like you're going to need to be talked into to going through with it, and if that's the case... just don't do it.

I just don't know that it will be good for the long haul... and as mentioned previously, if you open pandora's box in this scenario and then deny her the ability to work with a stunt penis, then I would imagine that's going to be a fun conversation.I mentioned it would NEVER happen with another guy. Gay. She has done it before. We've been together over a yr and engaged since Feb.

RJ
05-19-2009, 05:49 PM
I thought about the testing part, but she's done this before. Threesomes, that is. BTW, she is 11 yrs younger than me.


Ohhhhhhhh.

Well, that's a horse of a different color!

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 05:49 PM
... then BAMM some guys balls rub up against your leg when he's moving in to plow your fiance like a porn star.

ROFL

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 05:52 PM
I mentioned it would NEVER happen with another guy. Gay. She has done it before. We've been together over a yr and engaged since Feb.

Well, once she introduces you to 4 boobs at once in a night of wild and funky sex, likely with a rather attractive lady friend... don't be surprised if the stunt penis is requested.

Again, you can't un-ring that bell once you do it... so, be prepared for anything. And, you've been engaged for 3 months... been with her less than 2 years. I'm not sure this is good timing - I think something like this should have happened pre-engagement and after you two figured out there wasn't anything funky going on after the experiment.

I can't imagine this would be a 1 time request.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:52 PM
Again, if you do it, don't show too much pleasure or I guarentee, jealousy will come in to play.This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

MIAdragon
05-19-2009, 05:53 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

LMAO

Saccopoo
05-19-2009, 05:57 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

She might not, but you might, especially if she starts spending more time with the other person than you. Way too many variables that lead to a less than positive outcome in this situation. I wouldn't, but then, it's not my life.

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 05:57 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

You're going to have fun with being married... it's a woman's inalienable right to get pissed, especially if it was her idea. ;)

Mr. Krab
05-19-2009, 05:58 PM
Just be prepared for her to suddenly decide that she likes tuna more than beef.

just sayin'

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 05:59 PM
LMAOI just thought about that after typing that. Of course she would. She a woman. :doh!:

Mr. Krab
05-19-2009, 05:59 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.
Since when does logic have ANYTHING to do with whether a woman can get pissed or not? :spock:

mlyonsd
05-19-2009, 06:00 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

Tell her to try it with another woman first without you just to see how it goes. You can pretend to be standoff'ish and if she pushes the issue you're in the clear.

Brock
05-19-2009, 06:01 PM
If you want to do it, great. Just be prepared for the eventuality that she's suggesting this as a way of easing out of being your fiancee. /amateur psychologist

L.A. Chieffan
05-19-2009, 06:01 PM
When it finally happens BigChiefDave, may I recommend "Sussudio" playing in the background.

RJ
05-19-2009, 06:01 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.


Yeah, that would be irrational. And who ever heard of a woman being irrational?

Donger
05-19-2009, 06:04 PM
So, the superfluous female will be playing with you or your woman, or both?

stevieray
05-19-2009, 06:06 PM
many in my rock days...and I'm nothing short of damn lucky to have not caught anything

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 06:07 PM
So, the superfluous female will be playing with you or your woman, or both?

It's likely 'safer' for him just to watch...

Rain Man
05-19-2009, 06:08 PM
I feel like the peasant in a Russian novel who looks hungrily through the frosty window at a royal feast being prepared.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 06:10 PM
So, the superfluous female will be playing with you or your woman, or both?
Both. Isn't that how it works?

stevieray
05-19-2009, 06:10 PM
I feel like the peasant in a Russian novel who looks hungrily through the frosty window at a royal feast being prepared.I think I saw you at Bangles in the early '90's..

Mile High Mania
05-19-2009, 06:12 PM
Both. Isn't that how it works?

I'd Google it and figure it out... good luck. :D

Donger
05-19-2009, 06:14 PM
Both. Isn't that how it works?

You woman has told you it's both, or are you presuming that?

Rain Man
05-19-2009, 06:14 PM
I think I saw you at Bangles in the early '90's..

I'm not familiar with it. Russian feasting club?

DenverChief
05-19-2009, 06:14 PM
Don't do it. It can only lead to bad things. Again, DON'T DO IT.

been there done that...with a s/o a very very very bad idea

bogey
05-19-2009, 06:16 PM
This was one of the many things going thru my mind. How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

She is a WOMAN

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 06:17 PM
I'd Google it and figure it out... good luck. :DLMAO I know what a 3some is, I've just never participated in one. I was a just little confused by Donger's response.

KCUnited
05-19-2009, 06:17 PM
I have with nearly every girlfriend. It was for some and some not so much, but it was never a deciding factor in ending the relationship, but of course I've never been married so I don't know that dynamic.

stevieray
05-19-2009, 06:19 PM
I'm not familiar with it. Russian feasting club?

you could call it that...rock bar down off colorado blvd...down the street from shotgun willies..

about five of us would invade Hooters at HH...got to SW's.. go to the gold club..and then bangles..

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 06:22 PM
You woman has told you it's both, or are you presuming that?We never got into any details, but if all 3 are not involved, then its not a 3some. If I'm just witnessing a bisexual romp, then this will not happen.

"Bob" Dobbs
05-19-2009, 06:24 PM
I've done it. It's aight.

burt
05-19-2009, 06:24 PM
We never got into any details, but if all 3 are not involved, then its not a 3some. If I'm just witnessing a bisexual romp, then this will not happen.

consider it a baby step...............ROFL

Donger
05-19-2009, 06:24 PM
We never got into any details, but if all 3 are not involved, then its not a 3some. If I'm just witnessing a bisexual romp, then this will not happen.

I would clarify that, if I were you.

KCUnited
05-19-2009, 06:27 PM
I'd recommend your 3rd start eating strickly salads about 3 to 4 day prior. No one like pulling out a Hersey's kiss.

bogey
05-19-2009, 06:28 PM
We never got into any details, but if all 3 are not involved, then its not a 3some. If I'm just witnessing a bisexual romp, then this will not happen.

Watching a bisexual romp may be your safest bet. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. But, if you do do it, start off by watching the romp, then if the fiance invites you to join in, just fuck the fiance.

tiptap
05-19-2009, 06:31 PM
Don't you watch the "Big Love." One women at a time. You have to set dates. Then on the other hand, if your property concerns are all in order and you are confident in your relationships, then have at it.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 06:34 PM
Watching a bisexual romp may be your safest bet. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. But, if you do do it, start off by watching the romp, then if the fiance invites you to join in, just fuck the fiance.Good advice here. I would certainly be completely void of any blame if it were to go awry.

Rain Man
05-19-2009, 06:34 PM
We never got into any details, but if all 3 are not involved, then its not a 3some. If I'm just witnessing a bisexual romp, then this will not happen.


Whoa, whoa, whoa. Think about what you're saying here. That's just not right.

Halfcan
05-19-2009, 06:35 PM
I hope it doesn't end like Ross of Friends 3 some ended.

Rain Man
05-19-2009, 06:36 PM
you could call it that...rock bar down off colorado blvd...down the street from shotgun willies..

about five of us would invade Hooters at HH...got to SW's.. go to the gold club..and then bangles..


It's kind of like climbing all the 14ers, but with a different kind of mountain.

bogey
05-19-2009, 06:37 PM
Good advice here. I would certainly be completely void of any blame if it were to go awry.

exactly

bowener
05-19-2009, 06:38 PM
Read this, I guess....
(http://www.ehow.com/how-does_4674652_having-threesome-affect-relationship.html)
Jealousy

Morality aside, the biggest problem with inviting a third person into the bedroom with you is the jealousy that almost always develops. It doesn't matter how much you have talked about it or how comfortable you feel with the decision to do it, the old cliche, "Two is company, three is a crowd," applies to this situation perfectly. If a couple decides to add another woman, for example, the original woman will most likely become jealous of the attention the new woman receives. She may feel like her partner is not spending enough time on her. She may also struggle with these feelings when she and her partner engage in future sexual acts as a couple.

Cheating

Many couples that were faithful to each other prior to having a threesome end up having trouble with cheating. Once the monogamy has been broken, it is harder to resist the temptation to engage in sexual acts with someone outside of the relationship. Oftentimes, the person who cheats does so with the person who was involved in the threesome.

Feelings of Insecurity

Another feeling that often develops after a threesome is insecurity. If the third person was a man, the original man may wonder if he performs as well as the newcomer. He might feel as though he is not good enough to please his partner on his own, which could lead to poor sexual performance where there never was a problem in the first place.

Seperation/Divorce

In most cases, couples who decide to have a threesome end up separating. The problems and negative feelings that occur as a result of this act are usually too difficult to deal with or overcome.

Considerations

Sex is an intimate act intended to take place between two people. Any disruption of this natural design will almost always result in problems. Most couples who desire to try a threesome are doing so because they are seeking to add spice to their sex life. Instead of adding a third person to their bed, they should take the time to find out and discuss the underlying problem. Oftentimes, the real trouble with the relationship has very little to do with sex. Couples who work at getting to the root of problem and take the steps to fix it are very likely to experience a rejuvenated and strong relationship, both sexually and otherwise.
I think everything I have ever read or heard is that it usually leads to the demise of a relationship. Lets face it, something is already amiss or else you wouldnt be contemplating this move...

Rain Man
05-19-2009, 06:40 PM
Watching a bisexual romp may be your safest bet. If I were you, I wouldn't do it. But, if you do do it, start off by watching the romp, then if the fiance invites you to join in, just **** the fiance.


What if he's not really attached to the fiance? Or maybe the fiance is tied up and blindfolded? Or maybe due to positioning she's not in a position to see the genitalia of the other parties? There are options here.

Iowanian
05-19-2009, 06:45 PM
Somewhere, Bigdaddy is spinning into a velvet smoking jacket in a phone booth, dying to respond.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 06:46 PM
I think everything I have ever read or heard is that it usually leads to the demise of a relationship. Lets face it, something is already amiss or else you wouldnt be contemplating this move...Nothing is 'amiss' it is just an option she put out there to spice things up. This is likely not going to happen.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 06:46 PM
ROFLSomewhere, Bigdaddy is spinning into a velvet smoking jacket in a phone booth, dying to respond.LMAO

Bwana
05-19-2009, 06:46 PM
It looks great on paper, but it could really fuck things up. Just my two cents.

stevieray
05-19-2009, 06:46 PM
It's kind of like climbing all the 14ers, but with a different kind of mountain.

profound...and succintly correct..

Donger
05-19-2009, 06:47 PM
Nothing is 'amiss' it is just an option she put out there to spice things up. This is likely not going to happen.

Why do things need to be "spiced up"?

stevieray
05-19-2009, 06:47 PM
It looks great on paper, but it could really **** things up. Just my two cents.

:clap:

don' think for second that just because it's another girl, it can't cause problems...

bowener
05-19-2009, 06:50 PM
Why do things need to be "spiced up"?

Thats what I was wondering.

Rain Man
05-19-2009, 06:51 PM
Nothing is 'amiss' it is just an option she put out there to spice things up. This is likely not going to happen.


Don't disappoint your woman. You can't disappoint your woman. She wants this. You have an obligation to carry it forward. Do it because you love her. Do it for me and all of those out there who aren't allowed to.


Well, okay, forget that last part. It just slipped out.

burt
05-19-2009, 06:54 PM
It just slipped out.

A sad statement in a sex thread..........

Mr. Krab
05-19-2009, 06:58 PM
If you try it, just make sure you do it BEFORE you get married. Hell, i wouldn't be surprised to hear that it was just a test to see if you would do something like this before she marries you.

The best thing you can probably do is go back to your fiancee and just say "Honey, i just don't need anyone but you" and move on.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 07:00 PM
Why do things need to be "spiced up"?Seriously? Doesn't everyone seek to improve one's sexual expierence? I guess the billion-dollar porn industry supports itself...

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 07:02 PM
Don't disappoint your woman. You can't disappoint your woman. She wants this. You have an obligation to carry it forward. Do it because you love her. Do it for me and all of those out there who aren't allowed to.


Well, okay, forget that last part. It just slipped out.:D

Donger
05-19-2009, 07:03 PM
Seriously? Doesn't everyone seek to improve one's sexual expierence? I guess the billion-dollar porn industry supports itself...

I'd argue that adding another person in order to "spice up" one's sexual life is not the same as adding a sex toys or pornography.

stevieray
05-19-2009, 07:05 PM
Seriously? Doesn't everyone seek to improve one's sexual expierence? .

throw a pillow under her lower back. thrown her legs over your shoulders.

you can thank me later.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 07:10 PM
I'd argue that adding another person in order to "spice up" one's sexual life is not the same as adding a sex toys or pornography.I agree. Its a bit extreme. But, its in the neighborhood.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 07:10 PM
throw a pillow under her lower back. thrown her legs over your shoulders.

you can thank me later.LMAO Done that...

burt
05-19-2009, 07:11 PM
I agree. Its a bit extreme. But, its in the neighborhood.

Yeah, I live in Johnson County(Olathe) and it ain't Mission Hills.... it's in the same neighborhood.

Donger
05-19-2009, 07:13 PM
I agree. Its a bit extreme. But, its in the neighborhood.

No, it really isn't.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 07:15 PM
LMAO Done that...

Do it in the shower standing up and with her foot on the shower rod.

NewChief
05-19-2009, 07:16 PM
Watch that Woody Allen flick with Barcelona in the title first to see how things can go horribly wrong.

Basically, you'll end up getting shot.

Iowanian
05-19-2009, 07:25 PM
Don't worry, your lady just wants to chow box...again like she did in community college but hasn't confessed yet.

If its a girlfriend, I'd say I'd be all over the idea and would challenge her to get it done and call her chicken and say she can't find a lady who would let her stuff her talk hole into her bigmontana.

If its wife material or my wife...probably not.





...maybe in Vegas....

Dicky McElephant
05-19-2009, 07:27 PM
If you're going to go through with it......heed my advice.

Spend 100% of your attention on her. Let the 3rd girl please your fiance....and then you (if your fiance moves her there). DO NOT....I repeat....DO NOT....focus your attention on the other girl at any time (unless your wife makes you).

vailpass
05-19-2009, 07:30 PM
Somewhere, Bigdaddy is spinning into a velvet smoking jacket in a phone booth, dying to respond.

ROFL

Iowanian
05-19-2009, 07:32 PM
Yes for those that need to know, my superhero cape is indeed made from SHAMWOW material.

burt
05-19-2009, 07:34 PM
Yes for those that need to know, my superhero cape is indeed made from SHAMWOW material.

Do you, per chance, work at Turtle Wax, car wash?

Detoxing
05-19-2009, 07:34 PM
I'm one of the cp members that shared my experience here.

Do it. If u feel confident that ur relationship is strong, then do it. When will u have another chance?

That's what I thought.
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Detoxing
05-19-2009, 07:36 PM
If you're going to go through with it......heed my advice.

Spend 100% of your attention on her. Let the 3rd girl please your fiance....and then you (if your fiance moves her there). DO NOT....I repeat....DO NOT....focus your attention on the other girl at any time (unless your wife makes you).

This
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Detoxing
05-19-2009, 07:37 PM
Oh, and don't feel bad, it was her idea. She's probably looking for some final kink b4 she gets much older.
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Iowanian
05-19-2009, 07:40 PM
Do you, per chance, work at Turtle Wax, car wash?

My man, If I had ever played Halo, I am certain I'd have been a FIFTY (50)!!!!!



The spin down my ball sweat to make it non-lethal and sell it as the product in your medicine cabinet....Extenze.



He's right.....don't nail the other chic the first time.

tmax63
05-19-2009, 07:41 PM
Think long and hard about it before you do anything. You said something about being a "1 woman kinda guy" but if you agree to this then you won't be that for as long as you are with her and she may not be a "1 guy kinda woman" for just as long. Good that you're finding out this kinda stuff before the walk to the altar.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 07:42 PM
She's probably looking for some final kink b4 she gets much older.
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LMAO

That's EXACTLY how our minds work.

Iowanian
05-19-2009, 07:45 PM
This Geni can't be put back into the bottle, but she can definitely stuff her face into another muff.


My first multi-chic event was an unplanned accident. It wasn't everything it was cracked up to be.

I've told part of the story here before, but I'm not sure I'm strong enough to share it(and someone might read it and ask questions I don't wish to answer).

burt
05-19-2009, 07:46 PM
This Geni can't be put back into the bottle, but she can definitely stuff her face into another muff.


My first multi-chic event was an unplanned accident. It wasn't everything it was cracked up to be.

I've told part of the story here before, but I'm not sure I'm strong enough to share it(and someone might read it and ask questions I don't wish to answer).

Did you wake up looking like a glazed donut?

Iowanian
05-19-2009, 07:49 PM
No...but I...

I'm not telling.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 07:50 PM
It's an uncomfortable story because it involves two midget girls and four of his drinking buddies.

btlook1
05-19-2009, 08:22 PM
If you're going to go through with it......heed my advice.

Spend 100% of your attention on her. Let the 3rd girl please your fiance....and then you (if your fiance moves her there). DO NOT....I repeat....DO NOT....focus your attention on the other girl at any time (unless your wife makes you).

Very good advice...spend 90% of your time with the fiance....and hope that she pushes you over on to or in to the other party....but let her be the one to decide that.
Maybe you guys need to talk it over first just to make sure?

Lumpy
05-19-2009, 08:25 PM
If u really love this girl, I would suggest passing on the 3some. Ask urself if it's really worth jeopardizing a relationship if things get "odd" between the involved parties? I can't speak for all women, but from my point of view; if a man seems interested in adding another chick, they're no longer interested in their partner.

Skip Towne
05-19-2009, 08:27 PM
If u really love this girl, I would suggest passing on the 3some. Ask urself if it's really worth jeopardizing a relationship if things get "odd" between the involved parties? I can't speak for all women, but from my point of view; if a man seems interested in adding another chick, they're no longer interested in their partner.

Spoken like a woman

the Talking Can
05-19-2009, 08:27 PM
married = don't do it, you can not control what happens

single = go for it, not as cool as you'd think...in my experience

Pioli Zombie
05-19-2009, 08:28 PM
Does it count if your dog or cat sits on your back?
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Buzz
05-19-2009, 08:37 PM
Only bad thing's will come from this... JMHO

the Talking Can
05-19-2009, 08:42 PM
the number of people honestly mature and grounded enough to deal with a 3rd sexual partner in a relationship - and never succumb to some issue as a result, or discover that the desire was the result of pre-existing problems that neither partner could see or admit - could be counted on one hand....i'd wager....a lot of $$$$

Ari Chi3fs
05-19-2009, 08:46 PM
Most people are way prudish about sex... If you have a great soul connection with your partner, don't worry... DO IT.

if you don't have a deep great soul connection with your partner... then DON'T DO IT.

Ive had a couple threesomes, before we got married... but not for over 8 years... and Id love for her to invite her hot friend to join us. lol.

Im not a prude about sex though... don't want my girl humped by others, but she doesn't like other dudes... and thinks chicks are hot.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 08:46 PM
the number of people honestly mature and grounded enough to deal with a 3rd sexual partner in a relationship - and never succumb to some issue as a result, or discover that the desire was the result of pre-existing problems that neither partner could see or admit - could be counted on one hand....i'd wager....a lot of $$$$

Wonder how much of that is because of the AIDS tree. They were certainly all about free love in the 60s.

Ari Chi3fs
05-19-2009, 08:47 PM
Personally, I'd like to have a 4-5 woman harem. But that's just me.

the Talking Can
05-19-2009, 08:47 PM
Wonder how much of that is because of the AIDS tree. They were certainly all about free love in the 60s.

and how many of those were marriages? and how many survived?

most likely none

Katipan
05-19-2009, 08:48 PM
and how many of those were marriages? and how many survived?

most likely none

I don't know how much that matters when our divorce rate without it is still 50%.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 08:49 PM
Personally, I'd like to have a 4-5 woman harem. But that's just me.

I could not keep up with 4-5 guys.
I could certainly die trying tho.

DeezNutz
05-19-2009, 08:50 PM
I don't know how much that matters when our divorce rate without it is still 50%.

Evidence A for the threesome.

We're going to be fucking other people eventually anyway, dear, might as well be sooner than later.

Der Flöprer
05-19-2009, 08:53 PM
Evidence A for the threesome.

We're going to be fucking other people eventually anyway, dear, might as well be sooner than later.

Then, maybe, just maybe, we can fuck each other for a little bit longer. It'll be worth it in the end. Just you wait and see!

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 08:55 PM
I can't speak for all women, but from my point of view; if a man seems interested in adding another chick, they're no longer interested in their partner.I agree with this. This her idea. If she was pushing for adding another dude, I'd be worried. She's not pushing at all. She just said she was open to it.

Ari Chi3fs
05-19-2009, 08:55 PM
I could not keep up with 4-5 guys.
I could certainly die trying tho.


Oh Oh!! Pick me! Pick me!!

Katipan
05-19-2009, 08:55 PM
We're going to be ****ing other people eventually anyway, dear, might as well be sooner than later.

Then, maybe, just maybe, we can **** each other for a little bit longer. It'll be worth it in the end. Just you wait and see!


:popcorn:

Der Flöprer
05-19-2009, 08:55 PM
I JUST LOVE THE BATTER ALL OVER MY FAAACE!!!!!!

Ari Chi3fs
05-19-2009, 08:56 PM
I can't speak for all women, but from my point of view; if a man seems interested in adding another chick, they're no longer interested in their partner.

bullshit. all men want to hump other chicks... but just practice restraint.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 08:58 PM
Oh Oh!! Pick me! Pick me!!

If I pick you your loyalties will be torn when our harems play eachother in softball.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 08:58 PM
bullshit. all men want to hump other chicks... but just practice restraint.

hahahaah :)

such sweethearts

EyePod
05-19-2009, 08:58 PM
I was talking to my fiance in bed last night, and we were discussing broadening our sexlife. She then proceeds to tell me she would be open to inviting another woman into our bed. :eek:

I'm not sure how to approach this. I have never had a threesome. I'm 38. I've only been a one-woman kinda guy. I'm not against this practice, because it does sound intriguing. I just don't think I could touch another woman that way. She says since it is something we are sharing, it would not bother her; not cheating. What say you?

You have a fiance and you're 38? I mean, if you've been married for a while, sure why the hell not. You're not though. So what's she bored with? Buy her a vibrator.

DeezNutz
05-19-2009, 09:00 PM
Then, maybe, just maybe, we can **** each other for a little bit longer. It'll be worth it in the end. Just you wait and see!

Hey, man, you holster that Ron Jeremy rep stick you've been flaunting about. That thing could put an eye out.

BigMeatballDave
05-19-2009, 09:05 PM
You have a fiance and you're 38? I mean, if you've been married for a while, sure why the hell not. You're not though. So what's she bored with? Buy her a vibrator.Huh? We have been together for over a yr, and engaged since Feb. I've never been married. She has sex toys. Who said anything about boredom?

Mecca
05-19-2009, 09:11 PM
It's not a good idea...threesomes are only a good idea if you aren't in a relationship with either woman and afterwards the reaction is of no concern to you.

Relationships that involve a 3rd party coming in always result in jealous and hurt feelings, it's not a good idea if you value your relationship.

Cormac
05-19-2009, 09:26 PM
Sorry man, as cool as it sounds this is something you do with 2 girls you can walk away from the next morning with no strings attatched.

We have a winner.



I mean, uh, THIS!

luv
05-19-2009, 09:29 PM
Yes.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 09:32 PM
It's not a good idea...threesomes are only a good idea if you aren't in a relationship with either woman and afterwards the reaction is of no concern to you.

Relationships that involve a 3rd party coming in always result in jealous and hurt feelings, it's not a good idea if you value your relationship.I vote for just having threesomes and forgetting relationships altogether myself.

Mecca
05-19-2009, 09:34 PM
I vote for just having threesomes and forgetting relationships altogether myself.

LOL that does sound like a good idea.

luv
05-19-2009, 09:37 PM
It's not a good idea...threesomes are only a good idea if you aren't in a relationship with either woman and afterwards the reaction is of no concern to you.

Relationships that involve a 3rd party coming in always result in jealous and hurt feelings, it's not a good idea if you value your relationship.

See. This is why I like you.

luv
05-19-2009, 09:37 PM
I vote for just having threesomes and forgetting relationships altogether myself.

And this is why I like you.

Mecca
05-19-2009, 09:39 PM
See. This is why I like you.

Because I have rational thoughts?

DeezNutz
05-19-2009, 09:40 PM
Because I have rational thoughts?

Cause you're not afraid to put it in the ass.

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 09:41 PM
Cause you're not afraid to put it in the ass.That falls under rational thoughts.

Buzz
05-19-2009, 09:44 PM
If you want to keep this woman don't.

If she still want's to RUN!

luv
05-19-2009, 09:45 PM
Because I have rational thoughts?

Yep.

luv
05-19-2009, 09:45 PM
If you want to keep this woman don't.

If she still want's to RUN!

This.

Sure-Oz
05-19-2009, 09:46 PM
Mark Teahen and Mike Jacobs just double teamed Kerry Wood

DeezNutz
05-19-2009, 09:49 PM
That falls under rational thoughts.

:)

luv
05-19-2009, 09:54 PM
Cause you're not afraid to put it in the ass.

That too.

Ari Chi3fs
05-19-2009, 09:57 PM
Mark Teahen and Mike Jacobs just double teamed Kerry Wood


ROFL

Mecca
05-19-2009, 10:02 PM
That too.

My ego it is growing.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 10:08 PM
I vote for just having threesomes and forgetting relationships altogether myself.

bring a note from your doctor
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keg in kc
05-19-2009, 10:10 PM
bring a note from your doctor
Posted via Mobile DeviceI have a whole folder full, post-dated all the way up to 2013.

I was a Boy Scout!

Katipan
05-19-2009, 10:13 PM
I have a whole folder full, post-dated all the way up to 2013.

I was a Boy Scout!

whew, it's the eagle scouts that scare me
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keg in kc
05-19-2009, 10:14 PM
whew, it's the eagle scouts that scare me
Posted via Mobile DeviceI wasn't that much of a boy scout.

Ari Chi3fs
05-19-2009, 10:15 PM
I wasn't that much of a boy scout.

I think she may be considering adding you to her man harem... you can't play softball very well, can you?

Buzz
05-19-2009, 10:16 PM
I have a whole folder full, post-dated all the way up to 2013.

I was a Boy Scout!

Aids can take awhile to show up....

Does not mean your clean.

Fuck that!

Redrum_69
05-19-2009, 10:18 PM
Claythan....

Using both hands at once to find it does not count as a threesome

keg in kc
05-19-2009, 10:18 PM
I think she may be considering adding you to her man harem... you can't play softball very well, can you?I was going to say "if it involves a bat and balls I'm great" but that could be taken the wrong way.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 10:18 PM
I wasn't that much of a boy scout.

i would have made a great brownie. instead i was a woodcraft ranger. sexy.
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Redrum_69
05-19-2009, 10:20 PM
I have had two threesomes

in a two year span from 1998 up to 2000

Katipan
05-19-2009, 10:20 PM
Aids can take awhile to show up....

Does not mean your clean.

Fuck that!

buzzkill
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keg in kc
05-19-2009, 10:21 PM
i would have made a great brownie. instead i was a woodcraft ranger. sexy.
Posted via Mobile DeviceIf you were a brownie, I might try to eat you. So you lucked out.

Katipan
05-19-2009, 10:24 PM
If you were a brownie, I might try to eat you. So you lucked out.

i refuse to believe youre THAT bad at it
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keg in kc
05-19-2009, 10:26 PM
i refuse to believe youre THAT bad at it
Posted via Mobile DeviceNobody's ever said I was bad at it. Not even me. Which should tell you something.

Mr. Plow
05-19-2009, 10:30 PM
I have had two threesomes

in a two year span from 1998 up to 2000

Required "You're mom doesn't count."

Buzz
05-19-2009, 10:44 PM
buzzkill
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Sorry... my uppty side is showing. I know I'm not perfect so it must bedtime. Good night.

wutamess
05-20-2009, 12:37 AM
Somewhere, Bigdaddy is spinning into a velvet smoking jacket in a phone booth, dying to respond.

ROFL REP!

wutamess
05-20-2009, 12:40 AM
I'd say go for it and stop acting like the woman in this relationship. If she's adventurous you risk looking old and out of times. Besides it's just sex. You don't know how to have a no strings attached all out sex fest?

I'd go for it if you 2 had the ultimate talk and understanding. Otherwise I wouldn't follow through unless you 2 completly understood each other and respected all boundries set forth.

BigMeatballDave
05-20-2009, 01:17 AM
I'd say go for it and stop acting like the woman in this relationship. If she's adventurous you risk looking old and out of times. This is funny, and I agree. :)

Otter
05-20-2009, 03:29 AM
You know I don't mean to be critical but I noticed you used the word "fiance". Isn't this supposed to be a time in life when everything is all puppy dogs, ice cream and looking dreamily into each others eyes?

When you guys hit the seven year itch you're going to need a three ring circus with midgets running around getting in all kinds of shenanigans to help keep your attention in the bedroom.

Katipan
05-20-2009, 05:54 AM
Nobody's ever said I was bad at it. Not even me. Which should tell you something.

thats my baby. leave the self deprecation for the truly pathetic.
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Kerberos
05-20-2009, 06:33 AM
Always take two women to bed with you... That way if there is any conversation you don't have to be involved. ;)

BigRedChief
05-20-2009, 07:26 AM
There have been a few threesome threads on CP, all filled with the collected Planet wisdom on the subject.

My advice is to not read any of them. In fact, my advice is to not even read this thread. Just get it done before the wife backs out.

BTW, does she already have a third party in mind?
Be careful what you wish for in a committed relationship? :shake:

Rain Man
05-20-2009, 07:34 AM
I have had two threesomes

in a two year span from 1998 up to 2000



I must say, I admire your stamina.

beach tribe
05-20-2009, 07:41 AM
I had sex with three girls at once when I was 23. I was making out with one girl, and she went in the kitchen to make another margarita, and i started kissing another girl. They went into the bedroom, and called my name in a stern tone. I thought they were going to bust me for making out with two different girls, but alas, they were all in bra and panties. I popped a couple adderal, took a shot of tequila, and went until the sun came up.

Old Dog
05-20-2009, 07:51 AM
How could she possibly get pissed if this is all her idea.

She is a woman.....nuff said.

BigRedChief
05-20-2009, 07:54 AM
She is a woman.....nuff said.
no kidding. Surely the thought has entered your head that if you do this at some point the issue of adding another penis to the mix will come up?

Katipan
05-20-2009, 08:14 AM
I had sex with three girls at once when I was 23. I was making out with one girl, and she went in the kitchen to make another margarita, and i started kissing another girl. They went into the bedroom, and called my name in a stern tone. I thought they were going to bust me for making out with two different girls, but alas, they were all in bra and panties. I popped a couple adderal, took a shot of tequila, and went until the sun came up.

What the hell happened to the 3rd girl?

kepp
05-20-2009, 08:20 AM
I have three times and chose not to one other time. None of them was with a girlfriend. The stars lined up and it just sorta happened.
I think if my current girlfriend asked I'd probably pass. I'd be nervous about making a new hump face that she's never seen and she'd bring it up every time we had an argument.

Dude...the stars never "line up" four times. You must have a secret method or something.

kepp
05-20-2009, 08:21 AM
Again, you can't un-ring that bell once you do it... so, be prepared for anything. And, you've been engaged for 3 months... been with her less than 2 years. I'm not sure this is good timing - I think something like this should have happened pre-engagement and after you two figured out there wasn't anything funky going on after the experiment.

Then again, probably better now then after they get married.

Mr. Plow
05-20-2009, 08:22 AM
What the hell happened to the 3rd girl?


That's what I was wondering.

Rain Man
05-20-2009, 08:28 AM
What the hell happened to the 3rd girl?

It sounds like she was in the kitchen making it with a Mexican girl named Margarita.

kepp
05-20-2009, 08:29 AM
What the hell happened to the 3rd girl?

http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl0/16/161593/04_2008/crying.jpg

Jilly
05-20-2009, 10:28 AM
I was talking to my fiance in bed last night, and we were discussing broadening our sexlife. She then proceeds to tell me she would be open to inviting another woman into our bed. :eek:

I'm not sure how to approach this. I have never had a threesome. I'm 38. I've only been a one-woman kinda guy. I'm not against this practice, because it does sound intriguing. I just don't think I could touch another woman that way. She says since it is something we are sharing, it would not bother her; not cheating. What say you?

Just as a side note, I haven't read this entire thread, but I really admire you for being so committed that you don't feel you could touch another woman that way. I think, since you feel that way, she should love you for that and feel like she doesn't need a threesome because she has a man of integrity like you. I think, because you do feel this way, then it would just be awkward, you'd feel guilty afterwards, and she might feel even worse. Is it something you really NEED for your relationship?
If you're really interested in broadening your sex life, there's a lot of options out there, maybe explore those first.

raybec 4
05-20-2009, 12:08 PM
Just as a side note, I haven't read this entire thread, but I really admire you for being so committed that you don't feel you could touch another woman that way. I think, since you feel that way, she should love you for that and feel like she doesn't need a threesome because she has a man of integrity like you. I think, because you do feel this way, then it would just be awkward, you'd feel guilty afterwards, and she might feel even worse. Is it something you really NEED for your relationship?
If you're really interested in broadening your sex life, there's a lot of options out there, maybe explore those first.

Party Pooper

Jilly
05-20-2009, 12:10 PM
Party Pooper

I know, I even shocked myself with my answer.

rockymtnchief
05-20-2009, 12:35 PM
Dude...the stars never "line up" four times. You must have a secret method or something.

The fourth time was two good friends ex girlfriends trying to take me home. I'd never do that to a friend and passed. Now that I packed on some weight, I'm sure you're correct, there won't be a fourth time.

Plus, I'm pretty happy with the one-on-one with the current girlfriend.

crazycoffey
05-20-2009, 12:47 PM
I don't know if it's been said or not, but it's not as much fun as you want to imagine. Mainly because you are in a relationship with one of the girls and not with the other. It can play weird mind games with you, your girl, and even possibly the other woman.

Plus, next year your girl may say, "my turn, meet Mike, he's really nice and you two have so much in common."

Try it someday when you are single, on a good bourbon buzz, and have the money to buy two verifiable professionals. Then maybe it will be as good as your fantasy....

Arsonist
05-20-2009, 12:54 PM
Do it man, this is your one shot once you get married it probably wont happen.

Stewie
05-20-2009, 12:57 PM
I've always found the thought of a 3-some kind of awkward. Even in pR0n the third person is a third wheel. Licking stuff and sucking toes while the other two are going at it hot and heavy.

bogey
05-20-2009, 01:02 PM
I don't know if it's been said or not, but it's not as much fun as you want to imagine. Mainly because you are in a relationship with one of the girls and not with the other. It can play weird mind games with you, your girl, and even possibly the other woman.

Plus, next year your girl may say, "my turn, meet Mike, he's really nice and you two have so much in common."

Try it someday when you are single, on a good bourbon buzz, and have the money to buy two verifiable professionals. Then maybe it will be as good as your fantasy....


I never thought I would say "this" but...

This

CoMoChief
05-20-2009, 01:19 PM
Get a huge black mandingo guy and have him come over and teach you how to lay it down. Your wife won't be able to walk for weeks.

Dartgod
05-20-2009, 01:37 PM
If you want to keep this woman don't.

If she still want's to RUN!
If he is going to run away from the relationship anyway, then shouldn't he go ahead and indulge and then run?

bogey
05-20-2009, 02:25 PM
If he is going to run away from the relationship anyway, then shouldn't he go ahead and indulge and then run?

YES!

gblowfish
05-20-2009, 02:26 PM
Do two hands and a foot count???

Kerberos
05-20-2009, 03:06 PM
Do two hands and a foot count???

attached or separated from the owner(s)?

All these things matter.

Nzoner
05-20-2009, 11:48 PM
Been out of town and haven't logged on till tonight so wanted to add my .02

Although I've been in a few threesomes and then some it's never been with someone I've loved.It was all just about the sex and imo not underated whatsoever as some have said,so my .02 may not be worth much.

No one can really say how it will affect your relationship as I personally know a couple who are into swinging and their relationship to this point is very good but then again they share partners equally.That said I think it comes to communication first and foremost,if you've talked this out and explored every possible outcome and still feel like experimenting then go for it.

Like others have expressed and you yourself have said no way to,I can see at some point her wanting to experiment further and bring another man into the scenario,so when I say communication this needs to be discussed to death if you are absolutely opposed to it before even thinking about proceeding with the other woman.

Delano
05-22-2009, 06:09 PM
Dog walkers horrified by trio having sex on field
(http://www.theargus.co.uk/news/4384389.print/)
8:20pm Wednesday 20th May 2009
Two men were caught having sex with a woman on a football field.

Shocked dog walkers alerted police after seeing the threesome cavorting together.

Adrian Parsons started kissing his girlfriend during a drinking session on the beach at Goring Gap (ROFL), near Worthing.

They were both joined by Kevin Gilmartin who asked if he could join in.
The three left the beach and walked through woods to a sports field at Goring Hall Hospital.

Horrified witnesses saw Parsons having sex with his girlfriend who was naked from the waist down before Gilmartin joined in, Worthing Magistrates’ Court was told yesterday.

Parsons, 41, and Gilmartin, 45, both admitted outraging public decency.
The court was told there are two schools nearby although all the children had gone home as it was 5.30pm.

However, the sex session was witnessed by a teacher and an elderly woman who were out walking their dogs.

Jennifer Moss, prosecuting, said: “They came across the group while Parsons was having sex with the woman.

“They said another man joined in and was having sex with her.”

She said Parsons’s girlfriend was not charged with any offence after the incident on March 26.

In a statement, the teacher – who was not named in court – said: “I was disgusted by their behaviour. Young children could quite easily have seen what they were doing.”

Parsons, of no fixed address, was ordered to pay £193 in fines and costs.
Gilmartin, of Woodlands Avenue, Rustington, near Littlehampton, must do 80 hours unpaid community work.

District Judge Roger Ede said: “Sex is a private act not something that you do in front of others. People should be able to walk their dogs without having to watch the three of you having sex together in public.”

keg in kc
05-22-2009, 06:11 PM
I wonder if I'd stop and watch.

Probably depend on the "girlfriend".

And how was SHE not charged with anything???

BigMeatballDave
08-03-2009, 11:59 PM
UPDATE! Well, this never happened, sadly, and we split up. So, yeah. I guess in retrospect, there were issues. We started fighting all the time. Her son and I were close so we have kept in touch. I believe the relationship just ran its course. She and I get along great now, but we agreed we can't make it work. After a week or so of adjusting to life without her in it as a partner, I decided to get back out there. I've been single just over a month. Already been dating 2 women.

Mecca
08-04-2009, 12:02 AM
Does she still want a 3some if so what's her number....

DaneMcCloud
08-04-2009, 12:02 AM
UPDATE! Well, this never happened, sadly, and we split up. So, yeah. I guess in retrospect, there were issues. We started fighting all the time. Her son and I were close so we have kept in touch. I believe the relationship just ran its course. She and I get along great now, but we agreed we can't make it work. After a week or so of adjusting to life without her in it as a partner, I decided to get back out there. I've been single just over a month. Already been dating 2 women.

Good for you.

FWIW, threesomes that include someone you care about (even a little) can only lead to a bad place.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:05 AM
Good for you.

FWIW, threesomes that include someone you care about (even a little) can only lead to a bad place.Thanks.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:06 AM
Does she still want a 3some if so what's her number....330-603-11... lol you gotta figure out the last 2...

Mecca
08-04-2009, 12:07 AM
330-603-11... lol you gotta figure out the last 2...

HaHa I was only kidding but now I picture someone trying to figure that out.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:10 AM
HaHa I was only kidding but now I picture someone trying to figure that out.Well, there are only 2 digits to figure out. Not sure how many combinations.

Mecca
08-04-2009, 12:12 AM
What if you figure it out what the hell are you gonna say?

Hey baby you don't know me but I heard your into 3somes!

Buehler445
08-04-2009, 12:13 AM
Well, there are only 2 digits to figure out. Not sure how many combinations.

99 combinations.
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Count Alex's Losses
08-04-2009, 12:14 AM
My cougar wants to get another girl to join us.

It blows my mind.

And don't think I haven't sent out a few e-mails about it.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:17 AM
What if you figure it out what the hell are you gonna say?

Hey baby you don't know me but I heard your into 3somes!ROFL

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:22 AM
My cougar wants to get another girl to join us.

It blows my mind.

And don't think I haven't sent out a few e-mails about it.If you can swing it, do it. Not sure if I will ever get another opportunity. I am, however doing 2 chicks at different times. One is 31 and I dated her right before my ex. The other is 42. I'm a fat guy and the 42 is pretty thin. She's 5'2" 100-110lbs. She is a lot of fun.

DaneMcCloud
08-04-2009, 12:24 AM
If you can swing it, do it. Not sure if I will ever get another opportunity. I am, however doing 2 chicks at different times. One is 31 and I dated her right before my ex. The other is 42. I'm a fat guy and the 42 is pretty thin. She's 5'2" 100-110lbs. She is a lot of fun.

Spinners FTW!

Mecca
08-04-2009, 12:24 AM
I like how Dave just calls himself a fat guy.

Count Alex's Losses
08-04-2009, 12:25 AM
Dave is living the dream.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:28 AM
I like how Dave just calls himself a fat guy.:D Dude, it is what it is. I've always been big. It hasn't kept me from the women. Well, in my 20s it did. When I became a father about 11 yrs ago, I stopped being so shy and a pushover.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:32 AM
Dave is living the dream.I don't know about that, but I'm in a good place right now.

Spicy McHaggis
08-04-2009, 12:36 AM
I don't know about that, but I'm in a good place right now.

Sounds like you're in two good places.

BigMeatballDave
08-04-2009, 12:39 AM
Sounds like you're in two good places.:D

Pioli Zombie
08-04-2009, 06:11 AM
My cougar wants to get another girl to join us.

It blows my mind.

And don't think I haven't sent out a few e-mails about it.

Your grandmother doesn't count.
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JOhn
08-04-2009, 08:01 AM
Spinners FTW!

:thumb:


Spinners are good :evil:


Have 4 Ukrainian girls working at out place, 2 are spinners, and I hope to find out soon about the other 2

Buddy Rich
08-04-2009, 09:33 AM
99 combinations.
Posted via Mobile Device

it's actually 100 different combinations.

gblowfish
08-04-2009, 09:47 AM
Does my left and my right hand count?

rockymtnchief
08-04-2009, 09:54 AM
:thumb:


Spinners are good :evil:


Have 4 Ukrainian girls working at out place, 2 are spinners, and I hope to find out soon about the other 2

I should probably come down and give you some help with your job!:evil:

Sully
08-04-2009, 10:29 AM
99 combinations.
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... And a bitch ain't one.

Hit me!!!

mcan
08-04-2009, 11:34 AM
If she thinks it'll be fun, then I don't see a problem with it. Just make sure that the rules are established and kept, and make sure the third girl is LESS attractive than your girl.

Micjones
08-04-2009, 12:13 PM
make sure the third girl is LESS attractive than your girl.

What? Why?

That's like knocking over the cash register ONLY for the $5 dollar bills.

philfree
08-04-2009, 12:19 PM
Threesome? Is this a golf thread?

PhilFree:arrow:

JOhn
08-04-2009, 12:23 PM
If she thinks it'll be fun, then I don't see a problem with it. Just make sure that the rules are established and kept, and make sure the third girl is LESS attractive than your girl.

NOT!!

Hell with that, it's the great way to nail an even hotter chick and not get in trouble:evil:

JOhn
08-04-2009, 12:23 PM
Threesome? Is this a golf thread?

PhilFree:arrow:

:doh!:


Isn't it time for your nap? ROFL

alnorth
08-04-2009, 05:23 PM
I think this is sort of like a little dog chasing after cars that speed by. It may be fun to talk about and pursue, but if you actually catch it: total disaster.

kepp
08-04-2009, 05:28 PM
I think this is sort of like a little dog chasing after cars that speed by. It may be fun to talk about and pursue, but if you actually catch it: total disaster.

ROFL That's probably a perfect description.