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Velvet_Jones
11-21-2009, 11:24 PM
October first we found out he had stomach cancer. The more the doctors look the more cancer they found – lung – kidneys – lymph nodes. We found out he had brain cancer October fifth. 2 large lesions and many many little ones. We initially started radiation treatment but cut that short because he was failing so fast. He stopped eating and drinking only when we made him.

My Dad was my Mom’s first date 56 years ago. They have been together every since until today.

I made sure the hospice nurse updated me every morning and evening. This morning she told me that the end is near. The signs are all there. I got to my parents house early this morning and spent some time talking to him even though he was unable to respond. I was holding his hand and reminiscing about how much we enjoyed ice fishing and fishing in general. How much fun it was to spend time together turkey and deer hunting. At 12:00 this afternoon, Dad started getting restless. I kept talking to him, my brother, holding his other hand was talking about all of the stupid stuff we did as kids on the farm – confessing that it really was his pot plants that dad found on the roof of the machine shed. At 12:15, Dad opened his eyes and looked at me and my brother, we could tell he was leaving. He closed his eyes and left us.

I wish all Dads would spend meaningful time with their kids. Reflecting back, Dad was stern more times than not. He was no nonsense but also had a fun side as well. As I got older, he was more of a friend and a partner.

I just enjoyed my life with him.

Bane
11-21-2009, 11:26 PM
Sorry for your loss.

Frazod
11-21-2009, 11:26 PM
My condolences.

DaFace
11-21-2009, 11:27 PM
Sorry to hear that, man. Hang in there.

2bikemike
11-21-2009, 11:27 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss.

JohninGpt
11-21-2009, 11:27 PM
Sorry to hear that Velvet. My condolences to you and your family, especially your mother.

Stanley Nickels
11-21-2009, 11:29 PM
Prayers coming your way, that it may give you the strength to cope with your loss and spend some quality time with your family.

Hog Farmer
11-21-2009, 11:31 PM
Very sorry. A man gets the luxury of only having one dad. It sounds like you had a great father . RIP and God bless.

alanm
11-21-2009, 11:32 PM
Condolences Velvet. My prayers are with you and your family.

Velvet_Jones
11-21-2009, 11:32 PM
Thanks for your prayers. Dad had a wonderful life. He was a good man.

BillSelfsTrophycase
11-21-2009, 11:33 PM
God be with you and your Dad on his journey

Velvet_Jones
11-21-2009, 11:34 PM
I can't believe my brother finally confessed to the pot plant fiasco. Dad always thought it was me.

big nasty kcnut
11-21-2009, 11:35 PM
Sorry for your loss god bless you.
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talastan
11-21-2009, 11:36 PM
Sorry to hear man, prayers for you and your family through this tough time. God Bless.

BossChief
11-21-2009, 11:38 PM
May my prayers be with you.

You can bet he will always be around you in spirit. o:-)

JohninGpt
11-21-2009, 11:40 PM
I can't believe my brother finally confessed to the pot plant fiasco. Dad always thought it was me.

LMAO Holy crap, the stuff that comes out when it doesn't matter!

You said your dad was a good man, I'm sure he forgave you..even if it wasn't yours.

Cannibal
11-21-2009, 11:41 PM
That is very sad. I am sorry for your loss.

Buehler445
11-21-2009, 11:47 PM
Sorry for your loss.

CHENZ A!
11-21-2009, 11:47 PM
keep your head up and be proud, and honor your dad's legacy by living every day the right way.

my father is my best friend in the world. don't know what i'd do if i lost him.

god bless.

Velvet_Jones
11-21-2009, 11:50 PM
LMAO Holy crap, the stuff that comes out when it doesn't matter!

You said your dad was a good man, I'm sure he forgave you..even if it wasn't yours.

I'm sure he forgave me - but not sure really believed me - he did like to bring it up from time to time. It was something he would throw out there just to make sure I knew he still remembered it.

Mr. Flopnuts
11-21-2009, 11:51 PM
October first we found out he had stomach cancer. The more the doctors look the more cancer they found – lung – kidneys – lymph nodes. We found out he had brain cancer October fifth. 2 large lesions and many many little ones. We initially started radiation treatment but cut that short because he was failing so fast. He stopped eating and drinking only when we made him.

My Dad was my Mom’s first date 56 years ago. They have been together every since until today.

I made sure the hospice nurse updated me every morning and evening. This morning she told me that the end is near. The signs are all there. I got to my parents house early this morning and spent some time talking to him even though he was unable to respond. I was holding his hand and reminiscing about how much we enjoyed ice fishing and fishing in general. How much fun it was to spend time together turkey and deer hunting. At 12:00 this afternoon, Dad started getting restless. I kept talking to him, my brother, holding his other hand was talking about all of the stupid stuff we did as kids on the farm – confessing that it really was his pot plants that dad found on the roof of the machine shed. At 12:15, Dad opened his eyes and looked at me and my brother, we could tell he was leaving. He closed his eyes and left us.

I wish all Dads would spend meaningful time with their kids. Reflecting back, Dad was stern more times than not. He was no nonsense but also had a fun side as well. As I got older, he was more of a friend and a partner.

I just enjoyed my life with him.

It sounds like you had a great Dad. I'm terribly sorry for your loss.

Chiefs=Good
11-21-2009, 11:53 PM
Very sorry for your loss.. My prayers are with you and your family.

Buck
11-21-2009, 11:54 PM
Man VJ I don't even know what to say. Sorry for your loss.
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Munson
11-21-2009, 11:55 PM
I'm sorry about your beloved dad. My condolences.

JohninGpt
11-21-2009, 11:57 PM
I'm sure he forgave me - but not sure really believed me - he did like to bring it up from time to time. It was something he would throw out there just to make sure I knew he still remembered it.

We're both about the same age. My dad brings up some of the dumbass things I did when I was a kid just to razz me a little, especially since I have teenagers now.
Weather a long ago smoked pot plant belonged to you or your brother was probably not all that important in and of itself, hell, I'd hope it was more of a family inside joke at this point. I'm willing to bet that he was proud of the men thst you both became.

Sure-Oz
11-21-2009, 11:58 PM
Sorry to hear, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 12:13 AM
We're both about the same age. My dad brings up some of the dumbass things I did when I was a kid just to razz me a little, especially since I have teenagers now.
Weather a long ago smoked pot plant belonged to you or your brother was probably not all that important in and of itself, hell, I'd hope it was more of a family inside joke at this point. I'm willing to bet that he was proud of the men thst you both became.

I just think it was kinda funny that my brother let me take the fall since 1979. I told him today that payback is a bitch. And yes - it was very much a family joke - Dad just had a way of needling you mainly for the reaction he could get from me. It was funny after I decided that he didn't really care whose pot it was.

I enjoyed my Dad. I enjoyed his company. That says something about him.

JohninGpt
11-22-2009, 12:17 AM
I just think it was kinda funny that my brother let me take the fall since 1979. I told him today that payback is a bitch. And yes - it was very much a family joke - Dad just had a way of needling you mainly for the reaction he could get from me. It was funny after I decided that he didn't really care whose pot it was.

I enjoyed my Dad. I enjoyed his company. That says something about him.

Glad to hear that. I left town for the military shortly after high school, but retired and moved back with my family last year. My dad is now my closest friend, and I would be devestated if I were to lose him now, after all of the time we missed.

TrebMaxx
11-22-2009, 12:19 AM
My condolences to you and your family. Stay strong.

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 12:22 AM
Glad to hear that. I left town for the military shortly after high school, but retired and moved back with my family last year. My dad is now my closest friend, and I would be devestated if I were to lose him now, after all of the time we missed.

Spend time with him. I spent as much time as I was able the last two years. We had a wonderful time together. And I was blessed to be with him when he left. It was much less scarier that I thought it would be. A lot more peaceful than I imagined. I was ready to let him go when he wanted to leave.

ziggysocki
11-22-2009, 12:22 AM
Im sorry. I have been there. It sucks. Im sorry.

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 12:23 AM
My condolences to you and your family. Stay strong.

thanks treb

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 12:29 AM
Im sorry. I have been there. It sucks. Im sorry.

Thanks Ziggy. It does suck but it is also a good time to reflect. Thank you.

KcFanInGA
11-22-2009, 12:30 AM
Sorry for your loss man. I know the pain of losing a parent. It is hard, and the sadness never leaves. But just know that his soul is free now. Science has proven that the soul leaves the body after death. I will pray for God to comfort you in this time. Best wishes.

Direckshun
11-22-2009, 12:38 AM
God bless, may he rest peacefully.

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 12:39 AM
Sorry for your loss man. I know the pain of losing a parent. It is hard, and the sadness never leaves. But just know that his soul is free now. Science has proven that the soul leaves the body after death. I will pray for God to comfort you in this time. Best wishes.

I appreciate this. I think he knew that this was the best time to leave. We had all the family there. I know that he was watching out for us. He did it right. I am very sad in losing him. My Mom even more than me. He left with little pain, but lots of memories.

KCFalcon59
11-22-2009, 12:41 AM
My condolences.

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 12:42 AM
God bless, may he rest peacefully.

Thanks Direckshun. I appreciate this. He left peacefully.

KcMizzou
11-22-2009, 12:57 AM
I'm sorry to hear it man.

Velvet_Jones
11-22-2009, 01:09 AM
I'm sorry to hear it man.

It's heartbreaking. I'm really glad that I was there. I thought I would be more scared for him. But I was OK watching him pass. It's not scary anymore.

Over-Head
11-22-2009, 03:39 AM
Sorry for the loss.
Lost mom back in Aug.

spanky 52
11-22-2009, 06:11 AM
Sorry for your loss. Been there. I promise the sadness, hurt, anger and other emotions your feeling will eventually go away. Bad part is, a part of you is gone forever and no matter how hard you try, you'll never find it. Been 22 years since I lost my dad and it still hurts sometimes. Sounds to me like you and your brother were good sons. Hang in there.

boogblaster
11-22-2009, 07:47 AM
Sorry Bud .... Keep the memories ...............

Bwana
11-22-2009, 07:51 AM
Sorry to hear that bud. All my best to you and your family.

Calcountry
11-22-2009, 08:14 AM
Sorry to hear about that bud. Be strong.

Dartgod
11-22-2009, 08:37 AM
Sorry for your loss. Sounds like a great dad.

Simba
11-22-2009, 08:37 AM
Sorry to hear that. My condolences.

gblowfish
11-22-2009, 09:00 AM
God Bless you and your family.

Pioli Zombie
11-22-2009, 09:08 AM
I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Al Czervik
11-22-2009, 09:48 AM
Losing a parent sucks...

Prayers to your family...

Goldmember
11-22-2009, 09:55 AM
Very sorry to hear about your Dad. I just lost my uncle to cancer...he went very fast too.

Oxford
11-22-2009, 09:56 AM
May my prayers be with you.
You can bet he will always be around you in spirit. o:-)

In everything you do they are always there. Sometimes, it shows it the darnest way.........

RJ
11-22-2009, 10:32 AM
So sorry for your loss. All the best to you and your family, take comfort in one another.

bevischief
11-22-2009, 11:15 AM
Sorry to hear, my thoughts and prayers are with you

Ari Chi3fs
11-22-2009, 11:25 AM
That is a very touching story, Velvet Jones... it is great that you and your brother were able to spend his last few moments on Earth with him.

Blessings to you and your family... celebrate his life! It sounds like it was a good one.

Brock
11-22-2009, 11:33 AM
sorry vj

MahiMike
11-22-2009, 11:36 AM
He was blessed to have his family with him at the end. My condolences.

Dallas Chief
11-22-2009, 11:57 AM
Condolences and prayers to you and your family...

Dayze
11-22-2009, 12:12 PM
sorry to hear man. condolences.

Simply Red
11-22-2009, 12:26 PM
:( Sorry VJ, As always, my PM box is open or whatever, you can contact me if you need an ear, VJ.

SR

dirk digler
11-22-2009, 12:42 PM
Sorry for your loss Velvet. My prayers are with you and your family.

seclark
11-22-2009, 01:11 PM
you're very lucky to have a father who left you with such great memories, vj.
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memyselfI
11-22-2009, 01:21 PM
V,

I know you have never appreciated a thing I've said but I hope you will find my condolences sincere. Prayers to you and all who loved your Father.

Toad
11-22-2009, 02:31 PM
Sorry bud. God bless.

Blitz
11-22-2009, 02:44 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your father. It is exactly 9 months to the day, I lost my father as well.

My condolences go out to you and your family.

GloryDayz
11-22-2009, 03:32 PM
Sorry for your loss. We'll pray for you and your family.. Please remember to always keep family very close. Times like this are hard, but with family you'll come through and be even closer..

HonestChieffan
11-22-2009, 03:41 PM
Sorry to hear that news. Take care of your mom.

angelo
11-22-2009, 03:51 PM
October first we found out he had stomach cancer. The more the doctors look the more cancer they found – lung – kidneys – lymph nodes. We found out he had brain cancer October fifth. 2 large lesions and many many little ones. We initially started radiation treatment but cut that short because he was failing so fast. He stopped eating and drinking only when we made him.

My Dad was my Mom’s first date 56 years ago. They have been together every since until today.

I made sure the hospice nurse updated me every morning and evening. This morning she told me that the end is near. The signs are all there. I got to my parents house early this morning and spent some time talking to him even though he was unable to respond. I was holding his hand and reminiscing about how much we enjoyed ice fishing and fishing in general. How much fun it was to spend time together turkey and deer hunting. At 12:00 this afternoon, Dad started getting restless. I kept talking to him, my brother, holding his other hand was talking about all of the stupid stuff we did as kids on the farm – confessing that it really was his pot plants that dad found on the roof of the machine shed. At 12:15, Dad opened his eyes and looked at me and my brother, we could tell he was leaving. He closed his eyes and left us.

I wish all Dads would spend meaningful time with their kids. Reflecting back, Dad was stern more times than not. He was no nonsense but also had a fun side as well. As I got older, he was more of a friend and a partner.

I just enjoyed my life with him.

W.H. Auden
Funeral Blues
Walt Whitman
When Lilacs Last In the Door Yard Bloomed

Their words are more eloquent than mine. I am sorry for your loss.

Ang

PhillyChiefFan
11-22-2009, 03:53 PM
Wow, I almost choked up reading that. Your memories will be with you always.

I'm very sorry for your family's loss, it's never easy.

Prayers for you and yours VJ.

nose
11-22-2009, 04:02 PM
my condolences as well cherish all your memories and try to be the best father you can be and make your own memories for your kids!

KC Dan
11-22-2009, 04:27 PM
My condolances to you and your family.

mlyonsd
11-22-2009, 04:38 PM
Sorry man. I hope you take solice in his pain is over and he's in a better place.

R&GHomer
11-22-2009, 04:41 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers too you and your family. God bless

dtrain
11-22-2009, 05:03 PM
Sorry for your loss he sounds like a great dad. RIP

Jethopper
11-22-2009, 05:29 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you man.

tommykat
11-22-2009, 05:38 PM
I am so sorry babe! I do understand all to well. Take care of yourself, things can pile on. God Bless

burt
11-22-2009, 06:39 PM
My condolences.

Hydrae
11-22-2009, 07:07 PM
Sounds like you had a good dad. I am sorry to hear of your loss.

ROYC75
11-22-2009, 07:29 PM
You have our prayers and good thoughts during this trial. God Bless !

Mizzou_8541
11-22-2009, 08:00 PM
Very sorry to hear about your loss.

Rukdafaidas
11-22-2009, 08:09 PM
It sucks to lose someone you care so much about. Prayers for you and your family.

Gracie Dean
11-22-2009, 08:54 PM
I am so very sorry for your loss

Mr. Kotter
11-22-2009, 09:44 PM
So sorry for your loss. My condolences.

chasedude
11-22-2009, 10:57 PM
Makes me reflect on my relationship with my dad, and why I should change it. Condolences for your loss.

Rain Man
11-23-2009, 12:05 AM
Sorry to hear this. That has to be a hard situation.

pr_capone
11-23-2009, 12:21 AM
my most sincere condolences.

Sounds like he was a pretty decent fella... more than can be said about a lot of dads.

My prayers will be with you and yours.

J Diddy
11-23-2009, 12:25 AM
my condolences

Earthling
11-23-2009, 07:59 AM
So sorry for your loss.

kepp
11-23-2009, 08:10 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was a good Dad and it's good that you guys were able to be there with him at the end.

patteeu
11-23-2009, 10:19 AM
That brought a tear to my eye, Velvet. It sounds like he was a good dad. Sorry you had to lose him.

38yrsfan
11-23-2009, 11:29 AM
My condolences. It has been almost a year since my father passed and I still think of him everyday.

Bowser
11-23-2009, 12:19 PM
My condolences. Losing a dad is hard.

munkey
11-23-2009, 12:24 PM
He'll be in you're thoughts everyday for the rest of you're life. God Bless

Coach
11-23-2009, 01:05 PM
Prayers and thoughts are with you.

bkkcoh
11-23-2009, 02:16 PM
May God be with you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Chief Henry
11-23-2009, 02:31 PM
Sorry for your loss VJ. I hope you have many wonderful memories.

BIG_DADDY
11-23-2009, 02:49 PM
I am very hard to hear of your loss. May god bless you and your family.

googlegoogle
11-23-2009, 03:30 PM
Terrible disease. Sorry for you're loss.

ZepSinger
11-23-2009, 03:41 PM
Heartbreaking. My prayers are with you, man.

Pants
11-23-2009, 03:42 PM
Man, my eyes teared up. Sounds like you had a great and very rewarding relationship with your dad and in that respect, you guys are lucky. It's good he got to spend his last moment in this world with his sons. Stay strong, man.

SDChiefs
11-23-2009, 03:44 PM
That sux. Im sorry you had to go through it. My condolences go out to you and your family.

kregger
11-23-2009, 04:02 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss. Thanks for sharing your reflections with us. Peace to you and your family.

stevieray
11-23-2009, 05:21 PM
God Bless you and your family.

I'm glad you and your brother were able to be there for him.

My condolences.

JASONSAUTO
11-23-2009, 08:17 PM
prayers coming to you and the family

wildcat09
11-23-2009, 11:11 PM
Very sorry to hear that. I will keep your family in my prayers.

KCwolf
11-23-2009, 11:59 PM
Prayers to you and your family.......thinking of you.

MOhillbilly
11-24-2009, 08:53 AM
my sympathies.

Lzen
11-24-2009, 10:59 AM
Sry for your loss. My dad finally succumbed to COPD in May. It was a long time coming but I was still surprised at how hard it was, especially the day of the funeral.I still think about him every day. Hard to believe he is gone.

Sounds like you had a great relationship with your old man. Be glad for the time you had with him. I truly believe my dad is now in a better place. His suffering is over now.

Cjanz
11-24-2009, 03:54 PM
I sincerely wish for the best for you and your family. I applaud your courage in sharing such a tragic loss with what is, for the most part, a slew of strangers. Be sure to cherish the memories, and let them lift you up in times of need.

Pink Paradise 2010
11-24-2009, 11:55 PM
I am sorry for your loss, thats horrible. atleast when you say grace at dinner on turkey day, then you know that he can enjoy himself watching his children enjoy themselves. i have a father the same way. it hurts to watch him be more serious than fun. i am sorry, i will have your thoughts in mine. :)

Velvet_Jones
11-25-2009, 08:03 PM
Thank you all for you prayers and all the kind word. Dads Funeral was today. Spent lots and lots of time remembering him with friends and family.

I really appreciated reading the words of encouragement from the members of this board.

Thank all of you.

greg63
11-26-2009, 01:14 AM
So sorry friend. Prayers and well wishes for you and your family.

God bless