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El Jefe
06-07-2010, 01:36 PM
As a choice few of you already know, I got engaged satuday night. Looking at a wedding next May. Pretty crazy how much life can change in a year. I figured I may as well ask, anyone have any good tips on sustaining a good marriage? This should be good for about 2 good answers and a 100 or so funny/sarcastic/worst mistake of your life posts. Anyways, I am very excited and looking forward to being married!

DaKCMan AP
06-07-2010, 01:37 PM
Congrats bro!

:toast:

luv
06-07-2010, 01:37 PM
Congrats.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 01:37 PM
As a choice few of you already know, I got engaged satuday night. Looking at a wedding next May. Pretty crazy how much life can change in a year. I figured I may as well ask, anyone have any good tips on sustaining a good marriage? This should be good for about 2 good answers and a 100 or so funny/sarcastic/worst mistake of your life posts. Anyways, I am very excited and looking forward to being married!

#fail















Congrats....i say remember she is your best friend and always have fun. You're a team, that said ive never been married lol

Mr. Flopnuts
06-07-2010, 01:38 PM
Congratulations dude! Patience. Learn how to pick your battles and only fight for what's most important to you. That's the best advice I can give you. I wish you all the best.

Slainte
06-07-2010, 01:38 PM
I have no idea who you are. Hire a vicious lawyer.

Delano
06-07-2010, 01:39 PM
Congratulations (right?)!

How did you propose?

My dad always tells me you can't undo anything. You can't take back calling her a bitch. You can't take back kissing that slut in the bar. She'll always remember, and even if she forgives you, the action is still there.

luv
06-07-2010, 01:40 PM
Oh yeah. Advice. I've never been married, so I'm talking out my ass here.

Remember that love is a choice. Sometimes, it's a difficult one.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 01:40 PM
Also, fuck alot

DaKCMan AP
06-07-2010, 01:41 PM
Also, **** alot

LMAO

DeezNutz
06-07-2010, 01:41 PM
Sorry, dude. Hope things improve.

Mods, can we sticky this as a prayer thread?

Saccopoo
06-07-2010, 01:41 PM
http://routingbyrumor.files.wordpress.com/2008/04/prestone-jug.jpg

Mr. Flopnuts
06-07-2010, 01:42 PM
Also, fuck alot

That's actually incredibly critical. :)

Pablo
06-07-2010, 01:43 PM
Take the engagement ring back and go buy a hooker or two.

luv
06-07-2010, 01:43 PM
Also, **** alot

What if she's got a headache, it's that time of the month, or she's not in the mood?


Damn, why do women make so many excuses?

Pablo
06-07-2010, 01:43 PM
If you go through with it, make her go ATM at least once before you get hitched.

Mr. Flopnuts
06-07-2010, 01:44 PM
Take the engagement ring back and go buy a hooker or two.

That's if it was CZ. If they were diamonds, get a plane ticket to Vegas and a room at The Bellagio to go along with those high class hos.

Mr. Flopnuts
06-07-2010, 01:45 PM
What if she's got a headache, it's that time of the month, or she's not in the mood?


Damn, why do women make so many excuses?

That's when you establish who wears the pants in the family.



It's usually a lack of attraction in the relationship. She either isn't attracted to him, or she's not attracted to herself.

Slainte
06-07-2010, 01:46 PM
What if she's got a headache, it's that time of the month, or she's not in the mood?

Pornography alot.

Short Leash Hootie
06-07-2010, 01:47 PM
this guy is one of those guys that I bet popped the question within 6 months of the first date...

which is...

a GIGANTIC mistake

what's the freaking rush?

I'll date whoever it is I marry for at least two years before I even THINK of THINKING about getting married...

Pablo
06-07-2010, 01:49 PM
this guy is one of those guys that I bet popped the question within 6 months of the first date...

which is...

a GIGANTIC mistake

what's the freaking rush?

I'll date whoever it is I marry for at least two years before I even THINK of THINKING about getting married...The first 6 months are the honeymoon phase of a relationship.

You get to find out what sort of person you're really dating after about a year into it.

DonTellMeShowMe
06-07-2010, 01:49 PM
congrats.....



"holla we want pre-nup, we want pre-nup....yah, somethin that you need to have, cause when she leaves yo azz, she gonna leave with half"
-from the scriptures of Kanye

Hog Farmer
06-07-2010, 01:51 PM
I'd make sure to get seperate checking accounts as well as credit cards and make sure she knows what bills she has to pay with her check. Also learn to keep an eye on the odometer in the car. You should always write down the mileage whenever she comes home, then you'll know if she's lying when she says she just went to work and that is all.

Also , if she's not fat now she will be soon, in fact I'd like to get you a pig for a wedding gift but you'll have one anyway. I'd start right now watching her diet and make sure she gets plenty of exercise.

Oh, and one last piece of advice. Fuck her as much as possible right now cause after she says "I do", The legs slam shut!

Frazod
06-07-2010, 01:52 PM
Congratulations. You're doomed! :D

DonTellMeShowMe
06-07-2010, 01:58 PM
Also learn to keep an eye on the odometer in the car. You should always write down the mileage whenever she comes home, then you'll know if she's lying when she says she just went to work and that is all.

that sounds crazy...but potentially legit lol

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:01 PM
That's actually incredibly critical. :)

Exactly, please the fuck out of her too, the marriage will be healthy.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:02 PM
What if she's got a headache, it's that time of the month, or she's not in the mood?


Damn, why do women make so many excuses?

She's full of shit and the marriage is on verge of failure

NewChief
06-07-2010, 02:02 PM
Keep your pimp hand strong.

Pablo
06-07-2010, 02:04 PM
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El Jefe
06-07-2010, 02:05 PM
this guy is one of those guys that I bet popped the question within 6 months of the first date...

which is...

a GIGANTIC mistake

what's the freaking rush?

I'll date whoever it is I marry for at least two years before I even THINK of THINKING about getting married...

The first 6 months are the honeymoon phase of a relationship.

You get to find out what sort of person you're really dating after about a year into it.

Close, I have known her for over 10 years due to proximity. We had been dating for almost 11 months.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:06 PM
this guy is one of those guys that I bet popped the question within 6 months of the first date...

which is...

a GIGANTIC mistake

what's the freaking rush?

I'll date whoever it is I marry for at least two years before I even THINK of THINKING about getting married...
I'd say that is solid advice. My friends married their wives between 4-6 years of being with them.

Sofa King
06-07-2010, 02:06 PM
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NSFW

luv
06-07-2010, 02:07 PM
I'd say that is solid advice. My friends married their wives between 4-6 years of being with them.

My parents dated for four months before getting married (not engaged...married). They divorced 20 years later (but about 10 years after they should have).

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:09 PM
I'm coming up on the 1 year anniversary in July.

1. Listen to what Flopnuts said.....pick your battles.
2. Definitely keep separate bank accounts and split up the bills.
3. Take whatever relationship advice that Hootie gives you.....and do the opposite.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:10 PM
My parents dated for four months before getting married (not engaged...married). They divorced 20 years later (but about 10 years after they should have).

I know stupid fucks that get married after a year...the honey moon period generally is over by 6-12 mo's

El Jefe
06-07-2010, 02:13 PM
I'm coming up on the 1 year anniversary in July.

1. Listen to what Flopnuts said.....pick your battles.
2. Definitely keep separate bank accounts and split up the bills.
3. Take whatever relationship advice that Hootie gives you.....and do the opposite.

Seriously? I just don't see this realistically working.

EWOK
06-07-2010, 02:13 PM
Get marriage counseling before hand, sit down and have a real conversation about money, goals, spouses obligations to each other, kids, etc. Always go out on a date with your wife at least once a week. Flowers are cheap. Sometimes it is better to be married than right.

Remember "Marriage isn't a word but a sentence"

Just Passin' By
06-07-2010, 02:14 PM
Good luck

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:15 PM
Seriously? I just don't see this realistically working.

It works perfect for my wife and I. We may end up getting a joint checking account but that would be for either mutual bills or money for like eating out...etc.

I pay 95% of the bills and two times a month she gives me checks for her half. It works out perfectly because I know whats coming out of my account and she knows whats coming out of hers.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:16 PM
Get marriage counseling before hand, sit down and have a real conversation about money, goals, spouses obligations to each other, kids, etc. Always go out on a date with your wife at least once a week. Flowers are cheap. Sometimes it is better to be married than right.

Remember "Marriage isn't a word but a sentence"
Being 'thoughtful' goes a LONG way

El Jefe
06-07-2010, 02:17 PM
Get marriage counseling before hand, sit down and have a real conversation about money, goals, spouses obligations to each other, kids, etc. Always go out on a date with your wife at least once a week. Flowers are cheap. Sometimes it is better to be married than right.

Remember "Marriage isn't a word but a sentence"

Good stuff, our church requires pre-marriage counseling (not catholic), and am my age I have really talked with her about as many things as I can to make sure she is on the same page with me. Obviously I will continue to do so in the next year also. Really good post though, thanks :clap:

Short Leash Hootie
06-07-2010, 02:17 PM
so he treats his wife like a roommate!!!

LMAO

Sorry Pestilence...but that's not the type of life I'm looking for!!!

El Jefe
06-07-2010, 02:18 PM
It works perfect for my wife and I. We may end up getting a joint checking account but that would be for either mutual bills or money for like eating out...etc.

I pay 95% of the bills and two times a month she gives me checks for her half. It works out perfectly because I know whats coming out of my account and she knows whats coming out of hers.

Obviously you make more money than she does? What you're saying does make good "Cents".

BigRedChief
06-07-2010, 02:21 PM
20 years and counting.

Communication and respect for each other is essential. You have to put yourself out there with being honest all the time. Don't BS. Just be yourself. You can't hide who you really are anyway.

Women don't want solutions, they want empathy. The faster you learn the difference, the better.

BigRedChief
06-07-2010, 02:23 PM
I'm coming up on the 1 year anniversary in July.
2. Definitely keep separate bank accounts and split up the bills.
Not a chance. Bad advice. To each his own and that may work for you.... but the point is to be together, to live your lifes as one. Your finaces being intertwined is just part of the deal.

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:23 PM
so he treats his wife like a roommate!!!

LMAO

Sorry Pestilence...but that's not the type of life I'm looking for!!!

I don't treat my wife like a roommate. We both agreed that it was better that way in the beginning. She has her personal bills and I have mine. I wouldn't want her money being pooled into pay my bills.

Ugly Duck
06-07-2010, 02:24 PM
I figured I may as well ask, anyone have any good tips on sustaining a good marriage?

Now you will meet the women that see your wedding ring & assume that they can one-night you without fear of commitment and that you are practiced enough to make it worthwhile. Don't do it - no matter how hot she looks. That one night of ecstasy is not worth the pain, trouble & aftermath of dishonesty. Don't do it.

Hog Farmer
06-07-2010, 02:24 PM
I'd definitely go ahead and buy one of those dolls and let her know you're not afraid to use it.

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:24 PM
Obviously you make more money than she does? What you're saying does make good "Cents".

She actually makes more money than me.....not by much....but she still makes more.

Iowanian
06-07-2010, 02:25 PM
Congratulations.

Step aside gentlemen, I've got the answers covered.
http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=110519

http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=107258

The honeymoon expectations are here
http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=96048

http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=147867

Short Leash Hootie
06-07-2010, 02:25 PM
sorry I'd rather have a wife than a girl roommate

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:25 PM
sorry I'd rather have a wife than a girl roommate

You'd rather pee on your roommates and get drunk.

BigRedChief
06-07-2010, 02:26 PM
She actually makes more money than me.....not by much....but she still makes more.My wife use to make more money than me. Now I make a lot more than her. Money is irrelevant if you are working together. You are trying to reach the same goals, build towards the same future. There is no "my" and "her" money piles. There is only ours.

Short Leash Hootie
06-07-2010, 02:26 PM
You'd rather pee on your roommates and get drunk.

than have a girl roommate?

Sure.

sedated
06-07-2010, 02:28 PM
Not a chance. Bad advice. To each his own and that may work for you.... but the point is to be together, to live your lifes as one. Your finaces being intertwined is just part of the deal.

finances also seem to be the #1 thing that drives people apart/causes fights/etc. Eliminating that as a sore spot should do great things for a marriage (unless the wife went into it thinking she could live off the hubby)

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:28 PM
My wife use to make more money than me. Now I make a lot more than her. Money is irrelevant if you are working together. You are trying to reach the same goals, build towards the same future. There is no "my" and "her" money piles. There is only ours.

Like you said....to each their own.

Our thoughts might change in a year. I'm not against having their own account.....that's just how we do things right now.

BigRedChief
06-07-2010, 02:29 PM
finances also seem to be the #1 thing that drives people apart/causes fights/etc. Eliminating that as a sore spot should do great things for a marriage (unless the wife went into it thinking she could live off the hubby)True but the underlying issue is not the money but the goals being different. Fights over the different paths to take. One side of the team not doing their part.

luv
06-07-2010, 02:30 PM
Seriously? I just don't see this realistically working.

Definitely find something that works for both of you financially and stick to it. My dad managed the money in our house. My mom got to where she wanted to spend some, but dad wanted to save. Mom said it was her money that she worked for, so she should be able to spend it on what she wanted. Not to say either was wrong (never anything wrong with saving either), but that's not something they thought out beforehand and became something else to argue about.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:30 PM
sorry I'd rather have a wife than a girl roommate

Translation:I'd rather have a steak and a blowjob

BigRedChief
06-07-2010, 02:31 PM
Translation:I'd rather have a steak and a blowjobNothing wrong with Steaks and BJ's.:)

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:33 PM
Nothing wrong with Steaks and BJ's.:)

How many of those do you get married though? Steak and a BJ should be put into the vows

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:33 PM
True but the underlying issue is not the money but the goals being different. Fights over the different paths to take. One side of the team not doing their part.

We're both working towards common goals. At this time though....we both want to pay off our own personal bills.

Sure-Oz
06-07-2010, 02:33 PM
We're both working towards common goals. At this time though....we both want to pay off our own personal bills.

Smart

BigRedChief
06-07-2010, 02:39 PM
We're both working towards common goals. At this time though....we both want to pay off our own personal bills.Nothing wrong with that. Your not weird or stupid for that choice. Just a different way to start out your lifes than we would have chose. Who's to say what is the better choice?

One of the best parts of my life was the time I shared starting out with my wife, struggling finacially together, getting my azz educated, trying to build a foundation for our family. Those early times when we were building our lifes together towards the same goals.....man, you can't buy that experience at any price. You just have to pay in sweat equity and struggle. Because its two people as one, it creates a bond that I hope everyone gets to experience at least once in their life.

MOhillbilly
06-07-2010, 02:40 PM
life insurance and then baby oil the bathtub.

Iowanian
06-07-2010, 02:44 PM
It works perfect for my wife and I. We may end up getting a joint checking account but that would be for either mutual bills or money for like eating out...etc.

I pay 95% of the bills and two times a month she gives me checks for her half. It works out perfectly because I know whats coming out of my account and she knows whats coming out of hers.

Screw the haters. I've got a pretty damn good thing at home and we keep separate accounts. It doesn't have anything to do with his or her money, but it sure makes keeping track of debits and w/draws for cash easier. I don't have to wonder where "we" are when I know where "My" account is.....She does the home bills, I do the business, if she gets short, she can transfer money with 10 button clicks and let me know later...Buying her a new car, Maybe I write the down payment check and she makes the payment on "her" car.

The key to keeping your home happy is figuring out what works for you and for her. You want to know the secret? It's simple...Both of you be loyal, be honest, treat each other with respect, give on the small things so you've got leverage when you do care. Don't fight over stupid things that aren't worth the time. You're going to disagree, you're going to fight....Keep it clean, keep the blows above the belt and within reason even when you're mad....Apologize when you F up and forgive when she does.

It's not hard to have a successful, happy life together when you pick the right person and treat them the way you should.


If you don't agree with the above, kick her ass the first day so she knows you're like a boss.

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 02:47 PM
Nothing wrong with that. Your not weird or stupid for that choice. Just a different way to start out your lifes than we would have chose. Who's to say what is the better choice?

One of the best parts of my life was the time I shared starting out with my wife, struggling finacially together, getting my azz educated, trying to build a foundation for our family. Those early times when we were building our lifes together towards the same goals.....man, you can't buy that experience at any price. You just have to pay in sweat equity and struggle. Because its two people as one, it creates a bond that I hope everyone gets to experience at least once in their life.

Screw the haters. I've got a pretty damn good thing at home and we keep separate accounts. It doesn't have anything to do with his or her money, but it sure makes keeping track of debits and w/draws for cash easier. I don't have to wonder where "we" are when I know where "My" account is.....She does the home bills, I do the business, if she gets short, she can transfer money with 10 button clicks and let me know later...Buying her a new car, Maybe I write the down payment check and she makes the payment on "her" car.

The key to keeping your home happy is figuring out what works for you and for her. You want to know the secret? It's simple...Both of you be loyal, be honest, treat each other with respect, give on the small things so you've got leverage when you do care. Don't fight over stupid things that aren't worth the time. You're going to disagree, you're going to fight....Keep it clean, keep the blows above the belt and within reason even when you're mad....Apologize when you F up and forgive when she does.

It's not hard to have a successful, happy life together when you pick the right person and treat them the way you should.


If you don't agree with the above, kick her ass the first day so she knows you're like a boss.

Like BRC said.....to each their own.

Everyone does it their own way. As long as both of you are happy and can agree on what you're doing.....then you're fine.

alpha_omega
06-07-2010, 02:50 PM
Congrats...and condolences.

...but mostly congrats!

El Jefe
06-07-2010, 02:56 PM
Not a chance. Bad advice. To each his own and that may work for you.... but the point is to be together, to live your lifes as one. Your finaces being intertwined is just part of the deal.

See this is what I thought, I seriously don't see this being possible for her and I.

Arsonist
06-07-2010, 02:57 PM
Don't do it!

El Jefe
06-07-2010, 02:59 PM
My wife use to make more money than me. Now I make a lot more than her. Money is irrelevant if you are working together. You are trying to reach the same goals, build towards the same future. There is no "my" and "her" money piles. There is only ours.

Man that is dang good stuff. Once she gets out of school and working she will make a considerable amount more than I do. I am in a family business and it can be good financially at times, but long hours and strenous the other part of the time. Once we decide (Or God decides lol) we are going to have kids, we will live off my income only.

vailpass
06-07-2010, 03:00 PM
See this is what I thought, I seriously don't see this being possible for her and I.

The advice he gave you is based on his values, they don't have to be yours. Don't let anyone tell you what works for you, try what you think is best and adjust from there.
Wives and kids do not come with an instruction manual. Every day you just have to do what you decide is best and make changes as you see fit. Being married comes with a lot of responsibility but one benefit is that nobody can ever tell you how to run your show.
Best of luck.
Remember how you feel about her right now, put that memory away and haul it out again when you are having serious trouble. If it makes you give in enough to fix the trouble then you have a good thing going.

Buehler445
06-07-2010, 03:06 PM
20 years and counting.

Communication and respect for each other is essential. You have to put yourself out there with being honest all the time. Don't BS. Just be yourself. You can't hide who you really are anyway.

Women don't want solutions, they want empathy. The faster you learn the difference, the better.

Lots of good stuff in this thread, but this hits the nail on the head. The other thing is a philosophical change in your mind that you and your wife are a unit not individuals any longer. Everything else is secondary, but here's my thoughts.

Money
A very large percentage of divorces end because of money. Set goals and have a plan to get there. Talk about any material item (large purchases) at significant length, particularly in the beginning to determine how the purchases fit into your goals. Talk about everything concerning money and come to a consensus. Even little shit like whether or not you want generic cheese or not. It makes a difference. It's important to come to a consensus on your thinking with money early so if and when times get tight, you aren't starting from square one.

Communication
Critical. Absolutely critical. You don't always have to agree on everything, but you need to be comfortable with the outcome. Don't hide anything from her. It will just drive your relationship apart. Don't keep things inside. It won't do any good.

Time
Commit time to breaking the every day grind. Go on walks, have date nights, whatever, just find time to spend with her. It will help. Wife and I got a dog and though it is my busy (as fuck) season, we still spend time together taking care of the dog. you have to allow yourselves time to talk about what's going on.

Inlaws
You're going to be stuck with them. Make sure it isn't a dealbreaker. Very few people are absolutely happy with their inlaws, but they have to be livable.

The Wedding
Make it as simple as possible, particularly on the night before and day of wedding. Women absolutely freak the fuck out about this shit, so the simpler it is, the fewer things they (and their friends and family) have to freak out about.

The last thing I would suggest is having a reasonably long engagement. Candidly, you're moving kind of quickly. Everything I've ever read says that the "newness" of the relationship lasts about a year (typically of course) and after a year, the parties in the relationship get comfortable with each other and then it is hashed out whether or not you are compatible. You make your own decision, but it is prudent to at least consider that information.

Buehler445
06-07-2010, 03:07 PM
Oh. And congratulations. Make it work, bud.

BIG_DADDY
06-07-2010, 03:08 PM
Good luck, man.

suds79
06-07-2010, 03:10 PM
One great thing for my wife & I was premarital counseling for us. When you marry in the Catholic church (I'm not anymore. Presperterian now. Weird how that worked out) you have to do this.

Anyways, got some great tips from our priest.

1 - Always protect your relationship. This basically means you don't put yourself in situations where problems could arise. It's not a lack of trust thing. It's a simply avoiding drama thing.

You could draw several examples from this:

- Say you have an argument with your wife. Do not confide in another woman telling them your story. Then that opens the door of her listening to your troubles and you possibly thinking. "This person understands me more". Guys? Fine. Women? no.

- Working in the office with someone who you find attractive. Honestly I would look to be sure that we do not become close friends. I probably would not go out to lunch with just her. etc. Not saying I'd be anti social. But I wouldn't even allow the possibility for any more attractiveness to grow.

2 - You guys are a team. There is no more my money and your money. Get joint accounts. It's our money. Make money decisions as a team.

I know married couples who have it split out. In once case the husband works and the wife stays at home to take care of the kid. He actually gives her an allowance. Yes I said an allowance. What is she 12? That's just not right IMO.

Just my 2 cents.

Pestilence
06-07-2010, 03:11 PM
If you can find one....and you both like it.....find a wedding site that combines everything together for you.

We got married at a historic mansion in Northern California. The employees that worked their were certified everything (photographers, wedding planners, etc.). We had to go to monthly meetings to give them our ideas and then they would take those and make sure everything was planned, taken care of and on time. It honestly saved my wife a bunch of stress with the planning. She didn't have to worry about finding everything separately.

It worked out great for us......but if your wife wants to plan everything and she doesn't get stressed out.....you can do it yourself.

Buehler445
06-07-2010, 03:12 PM
Like BRC said.....to each their own.

Everyone does it their own way. As long as both of you are happy and can agree on what you're doing.....then you're fine.

This. Consensus is key.

luv
06-07-2010, 03:12 PM
Oh, something else I've heard that makes sense...

Do not tell your parents (in particular, your mom) about any problems the two of you might have. You two may work it out and move on, but mommas hold grudges. Your problems should be between the two of you. If need be, an UNBIASED third party. Parents/family are not unbiased.

go bowe
06-07-2010, 03:12 PM
I know stupid ****s that get married after a year...the honey moon period generally is over by 6-12 mo'si got married after a couple of months and 31 years later i think there's a chance that it might just work out...

Buehler445
06-07-2010, 03:15 PM
If you can find one....and you both like it.....find a wedding site that combines everything together for you.

We got married at a historic mansion in Northern California. The employees that worked their were certified everything (photographers, wedding planners, etc.). We had to go to monthly meetings to give them our ideas and then they would take those and make sure everything was planned, taken care of and on time. It honestly saved my wife a bunch of stress with the planning. She didn't have to worry about finding everything separately.

It worked out great for us......but if your wife wants to plan everything and she doesn't get stressed out.....you can do it yourself.

Holy fuck that's awesome. This man knows.

King_Chief_Fan
06-07-2010, 03:18 PM
As a choice few of you already know, I got engaged satuday night. Looking at a wedding next May. Pretty crazy how much life can change in a year. I figured I may as well ask, anyone have any good tips on sustaining a good marriage? This should be good for about 2 good answers and a 100 or so funny/sarcastic/worst mistake of your life posts. Anyways, I am very excited and looking forward to being married!

Well, been married for 38 years. I followed the advice my dad gave me.

marriage is a 50:50 proposition.

50% of the time your wife will be telling you what to do
the other 50% of the time...........you will be doing it!!

Christofire
06-07-2010, 03:26 PM
"Sometimes it is better to be married than right."

Someone mentioned the above earlier. It bears repeating. On a similar note, I've always found this to be great advice:

"The goal of marriage is not happiness. The goal of marriage is unity."

Togetherness is the key. Once you start looking elsewhere for fulfillment, you can drift apart.

Mr. Flopnuts
06-07-2010, 04:08 PM
Oh, something else I've heard that makes sense...

Do not tell your parents (in particular, your mom) about any problems the two of you might have. You two may work it out and move on, but mommas hold grudges. Your problems should be between the two of you. If need be, an UNBIASED third party. Parents/family are not unbiased.

Fuckin' A. This is SPOT on.

El Jefe
06-16-2010, 09:35 AM
"Sometimes it is better to be married than right."

Someone mentioned the above earlier. It bears repeating. On a similar note, I've always found this to be great advice:

"The goal of marriage is not happiness. The goal of marriage is unity."

Togetherness is the key. Once you start looking elsewhere for fulfillment, you can drift apart.

Good stuff.

teedubya
06-16-2010, 10:34 AM
So, you are getting married, so that you can get laid?

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 10:57 AM
So, you are getting married, so that you can get laid?

the guy is a fucking nut job/creep job...

go look at his thread history

he's more depressing than Clayton ever was

dude has probably never even had a handjob

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:01 AM
I would rather be a flamingly gay man (with common sense) than this dude:

http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/search.php?searchid=400632

Al Bundy
06-16-2010, 11:04 AM
Make sure she knows you're the boss. What you say goes and there should be no questioning it.

Frazod
06-16-2010, 11:05 AM
Shut up, Hootie. Like anybody here gives a fuck what an idiot like you thinks about anything.

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:08 AM
Shut up, Hootie. Like anybody here gives a **** what an idiot like you thinks about anything.

I'd rather be an idiot than be that guy, that's for sure ROFL

I think if I were 13 years old, our thread topics would be similar...

well mine wouldn't be so gay

DeezNutz
06-16-2010, 11:08 AM
Make sure she knows you're the boss. What you say goes and there should be no questioning it.

LMAO.

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:10 AM
"when was the first time you looked at a girl and felt something tingle in your belly!?"

"when was the first time you woke up and found yourself cuddling a pillow and pretending it was a girl because you were so lonely!?!?"

"when was the first time you had sex with a hallowed out Dr. Pepper can full of Schmuckers grape jelly and pretended it was the real thing?"

"when was the first time you held hands with a girl and knew tomorrow would never be the same as today?!?!"

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:13 AM
"when was the first time you giggled with a girl in unison and knew truths could never be fiction????"

seclark
06-16-2010, 11:13 AM
"when was the first time you looked at a girl and felt something tingle in your belly!?"

"when was the first time you woke up and found yourself cuddling a pillow and pretending it was a girl because you were so lonely!?!?"

"when was the first time you had sex with a hallowed out Dr. Pepper can full of Schmuckers grape jelly and pretended it was the real thing?"

"when was the first time you held hands with a girl and knew tomorrow would never be the same as today?!?!"

when was the first time you raped a drunk chick?

when was the first time you drank piss?

when was the first time you started a fight and let your buddies finish it for you?

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Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:13 AM
"when was the first time you looked into a girl's eyes and knew no mission was impossible?????"

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:16 AM
when was the first time you raped a drunk chick?

when was the first time you drank piss?

when was the first time you started a fight and let your buddies finish it for you?

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1) depends on your definition of rape

2) I've never swallowed piss but most recently...I'm the roommate who decides everything in the fridge is fair game no matter what...so my clever roommate Nate, who is diabetic, and knows how much I love the drink "Fuze"...bought a few 4 packs of Fuze...I drank one...and then I drank another...him being slightly annoyed...decided to fill the last one completely full of his urine...I bought a delicious pizza but had nothing to drink...so I eyed that Fuze and thought to myself..."maybe one sip???" So I opened it up...looked a little funny...but I was SO thirsty...so I took a sip...yep, pee. It was diabetic pee, too. Salty and gross. So I screwed the cap back on and pretended it never happened...amazingly funny practical joke but I can't let him know I fell for his trap otherwise that would be an epic win for him.

3) I don't know...13? 14?

El Jefe
06-16-2010, 11:19 AM
So, you are getting married, so that you can get laid?

No it's not the only reason, but it is a major plus ;)

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:20 AM
yeah have fun with that missionary only, sex only to conceive, hairy monstrosity you're in for!

sounds like a blast

El Jefe
06-16-2010, 11:22 AM
the guy is a ****ing nut job/creep job...

go look at his thread history

he's more depressing than Clayton ever was

dude has probably never even had a handjob


Dude you're a strange brew. Go ahead look at my thread history, lots of relationship threads, cars, clothes, possesions, school, I like to talk about real life. If you don't like it, no one is forcing you to read it.

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:22 AM
no I think it's hysterical

El Jefe
06-16-2010, 11:30 AM
no I think it's hysterical

Good for you then.

El Jefe
06-16-2010, 11:34 AM
yeah have fun with that missionary only, sex only to conceive, hairy monstrosity you're in for!

sounds like a blast

You really are one of the most ignorant dudes I have ever come across.

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:34 AM
You really are one of the most ignorant dudes I have ever come across.

well when it happens I won't say I told you so

seclark
06-16-2010, 11:37 AM
yeah have fun with that missionary only, sex only to conceive, hairy monstrosity you're in for!

sounds like a blast

at least she'll not be passed out. that sounds like a blast.
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Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:38 AM
and there is a difference between ignorance and bluntness

forgive me for telling it like it is regardless of how unnecessary it is to do so

being blunt on a message board is easy...

I wouldn't do that shit in real life, that's just uncalled for

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 11:39 AM
at least she'll not be passed out. that sounds like a blast.
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they don't object to anything when they aren't conscious...

big nasty kcnut
06-16-2010, 11:39 AM
Congrat and don't end any fight with antifreeze.

MOhillbilly
06-16-2010, 12:16 PM
and there is a difference between ignorance and bluntness

forgive me for telling it like it is regardless of how unnecessary it is to do so

being blunt on a message board is easy...

I wouldn't do that shit in real life, that's just uncalled for

the diffrence hootie is that we can see the bitch in you. Your a scared ho,it seeps through in your post.
Your so deep into your bitchness that you surround yourself w/ bitches to enable your bitch behavior.
You talk like a pimp,walk like a pimp, but your heart is all bitch.

Short Leash Hootie
06-16-2010, 12:20 PM
the diffrence hootie is that we can see the bitch in you. Your a scared ho,it seeps through in your post.
Your so deep into your bitchness that you surround yourself w/ bitches to enable your bitch behavior.
You talk like a pimp,walk like a pimp, but your heart is all bitch.

I'm sorry dude...

I'm not ghetto, I'm not black...

I don't understand that culture...

Therefore, I don't really understand this post...

I don't want to be a pimp...and I don't refer to dudes as bitches, hos, pimps or whatever it is you "thugs" like to do...

MOhillbilly
06-16-2010, 12:28 PM
I'm sorry dude...

I'm not ghetto, I'm not black...

I don't understand that culture...

Therefore, I don't really understand this post...

I don't want to be a pimp...and I don't refer to dudes as bitches, hos, pimps or whatever it is you "thugs" like to do...

This is a perfect example of the bitch in you.

you didnt disappoint.

Simply Red
06-16-2010, 12:37 PM
I got engaged satuday night.


Congrats, BTW: bwahahahahahahahahahhhhaahhhahahah!

Detoxing
06-16-2010, 12:39 PM
Congrats. I havent read this thread yet, but as for advice, if no one else has mentioned it yet, I highly recommend a whole-lotta oral copulation for both parties.

It feels good and keeps the mouth from doing too much talking.

Simply Red
06-16-2010, 12:40 PM
I'm sorry dude...

I'm not ghetto, I'm not black...

I don't understand that culture...

Therefore, I don't really understand this post...

I don't want to be a pimp...and I don't refer to dudes as bitches, hos, pimps or whatever it is you "thugs" like to do...

u r dum

El Jefe
06-16-2010, 01:15 PM
I'm sorry dude...

I'm not ghetto, I'm not black...

I don't understand that culture...

Therefore, I don't really understand this post...

I don't want to be a pimp...and I don't refer to dudes as bitches, hos, pimps or whatever it is you "thugs" like to do...

Dude you really bring some weak sauce to this board.

38yrsfan
06-16-2010, 03:25 PM
As a choice few of you already know, I got engaged satuday night. Looking at a wedding next May. Pretty crazy how much life can change in a year. I figured I may as well ask, anyone have any good tips on sustaining a good marriage? This should be good for about 2 good answers and a 100 or so funny/sarcastic/worst mistake of your life posts. Anyways, I am very excited and looking forward to being married!

Married 26 years today.

First advice that came to mind was a quote from the movie Big Country -

James McKay: [attempting to ride "Old Thunder"] Any advice?
Ramon Guiteras Yes! Don't do it.

Seriously though, congrats and good fortune to both of you.

People are different and so are marriages, what works for some doesn't apply to others so - with that in mind, and if possible, wait a few years to have kids to get settled in as a married couple - traveling is cheaper and easier for just two. :)