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BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 01:32 PM
Is there anyone here at the planet who has adopted a child after having their own? I am interested in getting some feedback on the dynamics of that relationship. I am also interested in hearing anything about the process you think I may need to know.

Thanks

Thig Lyfe
08-07-2010, 01:40 PM
The adoption agency probably makes you vaccinate.

Brock
08-07-2010, 01:41 PM
The adoption agency probably makes you vaccinate.

LMAO

Bane
08-07-2010, 01:41 PM
Can't help you,but good luck.

HoneyBadger
08-07-2010, 01:45 PM
Madonna looks happy in her pictures with her adopted children, if that helps.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 01:49 PM
The adoption agency probably makes you vaccinate.

Actually I was looking at potentially adopting in the 3, 4 or 5 year range so I kind of figure the child may already have a number issues but that's OK. I have no idea what the policy is on following the vaccination schedule for there. The other option is my wife's aunt runs an adoption agency in the Philippines but I have not done my due diligence in what it takes in that area yet. If you have any real information it would be appreciated. Based upon your past though I have the feeling that you're just here to piss on the thread.

Brock
08-07-2010, 01:50 PM
Become a foster parent.

Phobia
08-07-2010, 01:51 PM
As long as you treat your own kid like the red-headed step-child you shouldn't have any problems.

Heh. Actually, we've been looking into it for a time. We'll probably do the foster thing first and see where it takes us.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 01:56 PM
Become a foster parent.

I heard the process of going from foster parent to adoption is easier. Then again the person telling me that was trying to get me to adopt like 5 years ago. The guy that I showed you awhile back that adopted all the special needs kids said it was a huge pain in the ass for the first kid but once you were in the system it was easy. At this stage of my life I have no interest in adoptting more than 1 child. With me commuting and all I also think that will max out our ability to raise them the way I think they should be.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 01:58 PM
As long as you treat your own kid like the red-headed step-child you shouldn't have any problems.

Heh. Actually, we've been looking into it for a time. We'll probably do the foster thing first and see where it takes us.

Damn Phil, haven't talked to you in a long time. How many kids you got now? Were you ever able to work things out with the ex?

Sure-Oz
08-07-2010, 02:02 PM
As long as you treat your own kid like the red-headed step-child you shouldn't have any problems.

Heh. Actually, we've been looking into it for a time. We'll probably do the foster thing first and see where it takes us.

Good words right here....every adoptive parent should treat the adoptive child the same as their own. You favor your birth kids more it will make it that much tougher for them

jidar
08-07-2010, 02:14 PM
Make sure and tell them your feelings about vaccines and modern medicine in general.

cabletech94
08-07-2010, 03:10 PM
the issue with being a foster parent, is that most foster agencies what the foster child to end up with his/her family.
while you are doing a great deed, and giving a child a chance, i.e. a good home--it ultimately may just be a short time.
and please, correct me if i am wrong. this is just my experience with a foster agency recently.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 03:10 PM
Make sure and tell them your feelings about vaccines and modern medicine in general.

Thanks for your input. I'll put with all your other helpful comments.

Bwana
08-07-2010, 03:12 PM
Thanks for your input. I'll put where with all you other helpful comments.

Ignor the clown, he's a douche. Good luck with your adoption Troy.

Brock
08-07-2010, 03:22 PM
the issue with being a foster parent, is that most foster agencies what the foster child to end up with his/her family.
while you are doing a great deed, and giving a child a chance, i.e. a good home--it ultimately may just be a short time.
and please, correct me if i am wrong. this is just my experience with a foster agency recently.

I had three kids come through my house as foster kids that ended up being short term stays. Their parents were screwed up drug addicts. A couple of them ended up back with their parents, and I'm hopeful that they got their act together. The third ended up with grandparents. Then I got two in a row where it was clear that they were going to be foster kids forever and after a couple of years we made it official. You have to be careful about getting emotionally attached to them because until the day you ultimately adopt them, there's a chance that you'll lose them.

Even if I hadn't been able to adopt any of them, it was an experience that I recommend to anyone who has the means to be able to do it and really wants to make a difference in this world. All of these kids came into my house with their meager belongings in a plastic trash bag, and none of them wanted to unload their stuff from those bags because they had become conditioned to having to move on quick. When a social worker shows up to get them, they have like 15 minutes to gather up their stuff and get in the car, without any kind of explanation or anything. It was the most significant learning experience of my life, and also for the two kids I already had biologically.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 03:38 PM
Ignor the clown, he's a douche. Good luck with your adoption Troy.

Well I am not 100% in just yet. Looking at late next year but I wanted to start gathering as much information as possible. Thanks though I appreciate it.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 03:40 PM
I had three kids come through my house as foster kids that ended up being short term stays. Their parents were screwed up drug addicts. A couple of them ended up back with their parents, and I'm hopeful that they got their act together. The third ended up with grandparents. Then I got two in a row where it was clear that they were going to be foster kids forever and after a couple of years we made it official. You have to be careful about getting emotionally attached to them because until the day you ultimately adopt them, there's a chance that you'll lose them.

Even if I hadn't been able to adopt any of them, it was an experience that I recommend to anyone who has the means to be able to do it and really wants to make a difference in this world. All of these kids came into my house with their meager belongings in a plastic trash bag, and none of them wanted to unload their stuff from those bags because they had become conditioned to having to move on quick. When a social worker shows up to get them, they have like 15 minutes to gather up their stuff and get in the car, without any kind of explanation or anything. It was the most significant learning experience of my life, and also for the two kids I already had biologically.

I know we don't have a good history at this point so I appreciate your feedback. So you have 5 kids?

Brock
08-07-2010, 03:41 PM
I know we don't have a good history at this point so I appreciate your feedback. So you have 5 kids?

4. 2 naturally, and 2 adopted.

BIG_DADDY
08-07-2010, 03:46 PM
4. 2 naturally, and 2 adopted.

Well that's cool. If you don't mind me asking how do the dynamics work between your biological kids and adopted kids? Have you had any issues there? One more thing, how do you manage to spend so much time here with 4 kids? BTW I think it's awesome that you adopted two kids for what it's worth.

Fritz88
08-07-2010, 04:10 PM
I had three kids come through my house as foster kids that ended up being short term stays. Their parents were screwed up drug addicts. A couple of them ended up back with their parents, and I'm hopeful that they got their act together. The third ended up with grandparents. Then I got two in a row where it was clear that they were going to be foster kids forever and after a couple of years we made it official. You have to be careful about getting emotionally attached to them because until the day you ultimately adopt them, there's a chance that you'll lose them.

Even if I hadn't been able to adopt any of them, it was an experience that I recommend to anyone who has the means to be able to do it and really wants to make a difference in this world. All of these kids came into my house with their meager belongings in a plastic trash bag, and none of them wanted to unload their stuff from those bags because they had become conditioned to having to move on quick. When a social worker shows up to get them, they have like 15 minutes to gather up their stuff and get in the car, without any kind of explanation or anything. It was the most significant learning experience of my life, and also for the two kids I already had biologically.

How? Wouldn't that somehow affect how you interact with them?

Brock
08-07-2010, 04:15 PM
How? Wouldn't that somehow affect how you interact with them?

Well, if their biological parents can do the bare minimum to prove to srs that they are all better, they can get their kids back. In some cases, other family members will step forward and claim them. SRS will give the family every opportunity to do the right thing, even when it's obvious they're not really equipped to do it right. And yes, you have to keep your feelings for them under control.