This and keep her on topic. When she, undoubtedly, tries to veer the conversation onto your snooping just tell her, "We will get to that in a second," and reiterate your question. Once she explains her side of the story and you feel you two are on common ground with that issue, prepare for her to be as judgmental about your snooping as you were about what you found. Hope it works out for you man.

21 years in 3 days....

Lotta high horses prancing around.

Does he know you read his text messages?

Maybe I have been with women that have been ****ed over. All of them were snoopy.


I don't care what's on her computer/phone. I am secure with my trust in her.

No he beats me....

Same here, I dont do anything that would break her trust either...

She can have my phone and take it for the day or week... I would enjoy the peace. LOL!

You should definitely confront her. She deserves to know she is marrying a man who does things like read her text messages.

If the revelation of any issues come from the reading of another person's phone, it's time for the reader to admit their intuition Mojo is all but empty. And for readers who play hurt over the content of said information, they should realize that it's not the content they should be worried about, but the lack of fidelity they've been living with for some period of time..

What they might find in the phone is usually a symptom of a problem, not the real problem.

Dude...deal with it NOW. You do NOT want to get married with that unresolved. The reason I'm using CAPS is because that is exactly how my ex-wife acted before we were married. Lookoing back on it, it should have been a huge red flag. Not just a warning about gettting along with my family, but about her character as a whole.
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Good God Don't out yourself. Get out its over treat her like a prostitute. Dude you will have to beat her away. They love that shit. I would just hate **** the shit out of her while you explore your options. Maybe dry run her ass a couple of times. She will brag about this shit and her "pigeons" will flock. Then you have a endless supply of flowers to polinate.

Don't give away the upper hand until you are ready to walk away from the table. She will turn straight up bitch as if she hasn't already and rob all your shit. Prep this shit set shit aside run the table don't lose your ass.


Don't be a pussy.

Is this the hill you want to die on?

Sometimes women are just bitches. Is she nice To your family?
IF you're going to marry her, you're going to have to figure this out at some point.

That said, jumping her ass about it does 2 things that aren't in your favor. It pisses her off that you're snooping on her and you become the jerk in the argument, and it reveals your information sources, should you ever be suspicious about more serious issues.

Don't do it. It's a very douchebag thing to go through someone else's phone. If you confront her, going through someone else's phone is one of those things that are considered deal breakers by a lot of people(myself included).

Confront her about it. Period.