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EPodolak 01-11-2012 06:41 AM
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Originally Posted by InChiefsHell (Post 8281994)
You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away.

I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals.

Or maybe it's that some guys are hard-wired with traditional values of hearth and home, and have a greater reverence for fidelity. Meanwhile other guys see those as outdated bourgeois concepts and go on like roosters in heat for as long as they can. Individual differences based on temperament. Another category of men are just randy, selfish assholes and couldn't care less who they run over.

Blueflame 01-11-2012 07:21 AM
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Originally Posted by InChiefsHell (Post 8281994)
You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away.

I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals.
In other words... "window shopping" is rather like staring at a lovely green poison ivy plant. You can appreciate its beauty and that's just fine. As long as you don't touch. o:-)

memyselfI 01-11-2012 07:26 AM
Love the assumption that the desire to be with 'strange' is somehow a male specific desire.

burt 01-11-2012 07:28 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284763)
Love the assumption that the desire to be with 'strange' is somehow a male specific desire.
You really can't read, can you. Okay.....you just look at the pretty pictures.....

burt 01-11-2012 07:31 AM
I stayed single until I was 35 because I enjoyed chasin', and catching it. Now at 51, I realize.... I know about a tenth of what Phobia knows about relationships. and 50 times what Clayton knows.

memyselfI 01-11-2012 07:35 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284769)
You really can't read, can you. Okay.....you just look at the pretty pictures.....
Oh really?

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Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false.
It's both sexes. Lots of delusion going on in that paragraph.

burt 01-11-2012 07:45 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284775)
Oh really?



It's both sexes. Lots of delusion going on in that paragraph.
A thread on a predominantly man's board about mans urges. I would feel differently if it was a post about womans urges. But this thread is about a MANS urges. And even with that in mind.....

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Originally Posted by Predarat (Post 8279127)
And its not just men that look. If women claim they do not, they are ****ing liars.
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Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY (Post 8280222)
Attraction isn't a choice, how you deal with it is. Anyone that thinks just because you love somebody that goes away is fooling themself or has control issues. That reality fits on both sides of the isle.
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Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan (Post 8281755)
Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent

memyselfI 01-11-2012 08:07 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284788)
A thread on a predominantly man's board about mans urges. I would feel differently if it was a post about womans urges. But this thread is about a MANS urges. And even with that in mind.....
Point is the poor guy who posted this is not only talking to a clueless less than honest woman but has some delusions himself. Only in Harlequinn romance novels do women lose interest in other men once they fall in love. We have the same struggles and tendencies that men do. It's just not deemed very lady like to admit it when you are a young woman. Not to mention it's a delusion both sexes willingly embrace in order to believe fidelity is actually possible. Which it is. But to deny nature is ridiculous.

burt 01-11-2012 08:36 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284819)
We have the same struggles and tendencies that men do.
Read slower. That is exactly what the posted quotes were saying.:banghead:

LiveSteam 01-11-2012 08:40 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284819)
Point is the poor guy who posted this is not only talking to a clueless less than honest woman but has some delusions himself. Only in Harlequinn romance novels do women lose interest in other men once they fall in love. We have the same struggles and tendencies that men do. It's just not deemed very lady like to admit it when you are a young woman. Not to mention it's a delusion both sexes willingly embrace in order to believe fidelity is actually possible. Which it is. But to deny nature is ridiculous.
People! This can all be fixed by having dirty porn sex
TRUE STORY

memyselfI 01-11-2012 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284860)
Read slower. That is exactly what the posted quotes were saying.:banghead:
I understand that. Men speculating on women's sexuality is very powerful and informative especially a couple of those deeply contemplated comments.

Predarat 01-11-2012 09:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Lumpy (Post 8284451)
I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.
Most women if there is not emotion/communication there is not alot of sex. I think that is one of the first things to look for if you are a man and the sex is lacking.

Phobia 01-11-2012 09:04 AM
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Originally Posted by Lumpy (Post 8284451)
I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.
This is a completely fair question. Your solution is quite simple, though. Get a phone. Call some girlfriends. We don't want to talk to you.

Phobia 01-11-2012 09:34 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284771)
I stayed single until I was 35 because I enjoyed chasin', and catching it. Now at 51, I realize.... I know about a tenth of what Phobia knows about relationships.
That's simply not true at all. My marriage suffers just like everybody else. I just decided to work at it. I know a lot more than I used to know but I'm still learning every day. Don't be afraid to ask your wife, "Am I supposed to be just listening or do you want me to fix something." Develop some "safe words" for times when you are devolving into a tendency that has plagued your marriage. That way, the wife can say something to you that will snap you out of it without all the conflict.

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and 50 times what Clayton knows.
I think you were missing a few zeros there.

Demonpenz 01-11-2012 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8284971)
That's simply not true at all. My marriage suffers just like everybody else. I just decided to work at it. I know a lot more than I used to know but I'm still learning every day. Don't be afraid to ask your wife, "Am I supposed to be just listening or do you want me to fix something." Develop some "safe words" for times when you are devolving into a tendency that has plagued your marriage. That way, the wife can say something to you that will snap you out of it without all the conflict.



I think you were missing a few zeros there.
I see two zero's atleast.


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