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luv 01-09-2012 01:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Nzoner (Post 8279347)
As in respected as the man of the home,the one with the answers etc. We men need to feel that and if a woman can make us feel that she more than likely gets what she wants without demanding it.
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8279375)
Not in the way that it's important to men. No, not even close. You want to feel close, feel loved. If you feel distant for any reason to your man, you're not going to want to get naked with him...

Everything changes when you've been with somebody a long time. All the new dating or new marriage assumptions turn into work in maintaining a relationship.
I see. Being single, respect is very important to me. Of course, I've recently learned to respect myself, so now I'm requiring it from others. :)

Phobia 01-09-2012 01:15 PM
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Originally Posted by luv (Post 8279387)
I see. Being single, respect is very important to me. Of course, I've recently learned to respect myself, so now I'm requiring it from others. :)
It's important to a woman, no doubt. But yeah - we're talking about women helping us feel like we're "The Man". If a husband feels emasculation from his woman then that marriage isn't going to do very well unless he's a very unique individual.

Nzoner 01-09-2012 01:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8279394)
It's important to a woman, no doubt. But yeah - we're talking about women helping us feel like we're "The Man". If a husband feels emasculation from his woman then that marriage isn't going to do very well unless he's a very unique individual.
AMEN to that!

Phobia 01-09-2012 01:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Pants (Post 8279320)
Ahh, makes sense. Also, I learned from you a long time ago to fight the urge to fix their problems when they come complaining to us about their stupid shit at work. It's so hard to just sit and listen and nod and agree. ARGHHHH!
Heh. That's another good example. We want to fix everything. They just want to vent and be heard. They feel close when they have a confidante who will just listen. I think statistics show that women use more than 3x the amount of words a man does in the average day so if it feels like your wife won't shut up... it's because she won't. My wife talked all the way through the Texans/Bengals game the other day. It was crazy. I finally asked her when she was going to finish using her word quota for the day. Probably wasn't a smart thing for me to say because it came back on me later that night. Even though I was kidding, it stung for her. So I have to get smarter. I have to learn to engage her better so that she doesn't feel like she has to talk for 3 hours just to get my attention.

Fish 01-09-2012 01:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8279300)
You know my wife. She's a very strong and assertive woman. If tonight is not the night, I can change her mind once in about 10 times. I learned that early so I don't even try on 10% odds any longer. I'd go almost every night but obviously that's not incredibly realistic when you've been married 10 years so we've kind of figured out non-verbally when it's "on". If we didn't do it last night, I'll make a move. If we didn't do it last night or the night before, I know we're on unless I've been a dick that day. Heh.
I don't know.... sounds awfully difficult...

Hammock Parties 01-09-2012 01:25 PM
Find a girl who likes threesomes. PROBLEM SOLVED.

DaKCMan AP 01-09-2012 01:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Omega (Post 8279451)
Find a girl who likes threesomes. PROBLEM SOLVED.
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-l_iKmBTpwd.../BadAdvice.jpg

Phobia 01-09-2012 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Omega (Post 8279451)
Find a girl who likes threesomes. PROBLEM SOLVED.
I've been watching craigslist every single day.

eazyb81 01-09-2012 01:34 PM
Phobia when can I sign up for your marriage seminar? You need to write a book dude.

stevieray 01-09-2012 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted by eazyb81 (Post 8279504)
Phobia when can I sign up for your marriage seminar? You need to write a book dude.
i told him all of this years ago...:harumph:

Amnorix 01-09-2012 01:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8279274)
For people who have been married longer than a couple years, every 72 hours would be a huge improvement. I have a neighbor who gets it about once a month. I've had friends who get it 2-3x a year. I've known married couples who don't do it for a year or more. That is just not cutting it at all. I don't think I've ever gone more than a week - even when my marriage wasn't quite as good as it is now.


:eek:

I have a brother-in-law in the same situation.

To me, that's not married, that's having a roomie...

durtyrute 01-09-2012 01:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8278957)
To some degree this is dead on.
I thought I could have a grown up conversation with my lady and be candid about what men go through.
Now I realize that one other part of making a relationship work is lying to keep the peace.
That is almost rule number one. It sucks because they tell you "just be honest, all I want is honesty" Then one day they ask if you think their friend is hot, you say yea, and it's on like donky kong. They want the fairytale. They can't handle the fact that most men love to look at, dream about and picture themselves ****ing other women.

Predarat 01-09-2012 01:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Amnorix (Post 8279537)
:eek:

I have a brother-in-law in the same situation.

To me, that's not married, that's having a roomie...
Its actually more like imprisonment.

trndobrd 01-09-2012 01:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Omega (Post 8279451)
Find a girl who likes threesomes. PROBLEM SOLVED.

"Threesomes" can mean different things to different folks. You might want to be more specific, or your problem won't be solved at all.

Micjones 01-09-2012 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by durtyrute (Post 8279554)
That is almost rule number one. It sucks because they tell you "just be honest, all I want is honesty" Then one day they ask if you think their friend is hot, you say yea, and it's on like donky kong. They want the fairytale. They can't handle the fact that most men love to look at, dream about and picture themselves ****ing other women.
If that were the situation I'd been in it'd be different.
Because that would be giving my personal opinion of my own tastes in women.

This wasn't even about my personal views.
This was about another guy (and girl) entirely.

I wish I could talk to this guy...I'd call him an asshole for getting ME in trouble!
LMAO

Skyy God 01-09-2012 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8278972)
I concur. This is what I tried to explain, but the idea that the desire is ever even there sent her over the edge.
Your wife has warped, unrealistic expectations. Good luck with that.

Amnorix 01-09-2012 02:01 PM
Threads like this remind me that I'm married to the perfect woman. We are absolutely honest, and (since she had no brothers and no prior relationships), it took a while to educate her on men and what they're about. Luckily, we trust each other completely, and neither would ever betray that trust.

99% of what guys on here bitch about regarding their women doesn't apply to my wife (see Frazod thread regarding things your wife does that drives you insane). And stuff like this -- she understands (now) that men instictively drool over attractive women, but that most men (and certainly me, which is all she cares about) can keep it zipped.

Amnorix 01-09-2012 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Pittsie (Post 8279634)
Your wife has warped, unrealistic expectations. Good luck with that.

Agreed. She doesn't seem to understand men.

Marriages will be healthier and happier if you understand what the other sex is about, how they operate, and what is realistic/unrealistic to expect.

Amnorix 01-09-2012 02:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Predarat (Post 8279594)
Its actually more like imprisonment.
Seriously. I told my wife that if my brother-in-law steps out, I wouldn't be surprised, nor would I blame him to be honest.

Phobia 01-09-2012 02:10 PM
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Originally Posted by eazyb81 (Post 8279504)
Phobia when can I sign up for your marriage seminar? You need to write a book dude.
Hahahaha - yeah. No. It's easy to know what you should do. It's completely something different to execute. I'm probably a lot better husband than I used to be but I'm always screwing something up. I'm very blessed to have a wife who really wants to be with me and is willing to train me for life.

Nzoner 01-09-2012 02:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8279677)
Hahahaha - yeah. No. It's easy to know what you should do. It's completely something different to execute. I'm probably a lot better husband than I used to be but I'm always screwing something up. I'm very blessed to have a wife who really wants to be with me and is willing to train me for life.
I'm sure she enjoys using the shock collar more than she'll ever let on. :D

durtyrute 01-09-2012 02:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8279603)
If that were the situation I'd been in it'd be different.
Because that would be giving my personal opinion of my own tastes in women.

This wasn't even about my personal views.
This was about another guy (and girl) entirely.

I wish I could talk to this guy...I'd call him an asshole for getting ME in trouble!
LMAO
LMAO

Hammock Parties 01-09-2012 02:30 PM
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Originally Posted by trndobrd (Post 8279597)
"Threesomes" can mean different things to different folks. You might want to be more specific, or your problem won't be solved at all.
This guy is a good columnist. People are different. If we can accept gay couples we should certainly accept this variety of relationship.

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/S...e?oid=11412386

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"You know lots of couples who have had three-ways and flings who aren't divorced," I told the skeptics a few weeks ago, "you just don't know you know them."

In an effort to introduce the skeptics to some happily monogamish couples, I invited coupled people who'd had successful flings, affairs, three-ways, and swinging experiences to write in and share their stories.

The response was overwhelming—I may do a book—and I'm turning over the rest of this week's column to their stories.

sedated 01-09-2012 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8279348)
If I'd spoken explicitly about my desires I'd agree.
That's NOT what happened. We were talking about another couple entirely.
And I spoke about the process of a man settling down.
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8279603)
This wasn't even about my personal views.
This was about another guy (and girl) entirely.

Doesn’t matter. Talking in hypotheticals is still going to be reflected onto you. She was (subconsciously) waiting for you to say one thing, and focused solely on that once it was out of the bag.

Micjones 01-09-2012 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Pittsie (Post 8279634)
Your wife has warped, unrealistic expectations. Good luck with that.
We're not married...yet.

Phobia 01-09-2012 03:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Nzoner (Post 8279709)
I'm sure she enjoys using the shock collar more than she'll ever let on. :D
Sometimes a shock collar would help me. I do some stupid stuff. I'm pretty sure we all do.

Micjones 01-09-2012 03:01 PM
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Originally Posted by sedated (Post 8279790)
Doesn’t matter. Talking in hypotheticals is still going to be reflected onto you. She was (subconsciously) waiting for you to say one thing, and focused solely on that once it was out of the bag.
Basically.

patteeu 01-09-2012 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted by rageeumr (Post 8278959)
The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.
I agree with this.

BIG_DADDY 01-09-2012 04:45 PM
Attraction isn't a choice, how you deal with it is. Anyone that thinks just because you love somebody that goes away is fooling themself or has control issues. That reality fits on both sides of the isle.

scho63 01-09-2012 05:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Omega (Post 8279451)
Find a girl who likes threesomes. PROBLEM SOLVED.
Just your luck she says....."Yeah, I love threesomes! I'll invite my friend Mike over, he always joins me and my boyfriend's with all my threesomes."

:deevee:

Iowanian 01-09-2012 05:28 PM
You can take the dog out of the hunt, but you can't take the hunt out of the dog.



I'm faithful to brideowanian and will remain that way.

I've said in my world, I don't really want to sleep with other women, but I kind of miss finding out if I could sometimes. I wish there were a free pass to have discussions with attractive women, work your cool Fonzie moves, and at some point, pull out a score sheet like a golf card and have the woman sign off on what you'd get if you went home.

1. Slap
2. Oral sex
3. typical sex
4. filthy, cursing, sweating, donkey punch sex
5. anal
6. Denied, failure to launch her cooter curiosity.

Psyko Tek 01-09-2012 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8278957)
To some degree this is dead on.
I thought I could have a grown up conversation with my lady and be candid about what men go through.
Now I realize that one other part of making a relationship work is lying to keep the peace.
today you are a man

Iowanian 01-09-2012 05:33 PM
She'd have time to think about other cocks more often if she weren't so busy planning the remodel of you.

Psyko Tek 01-09-2012 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Pants (Post 8279102)
Queue Chris Rock's "Fresh Pussy" routine.
there's nothing like that new pussy smell

Jive Ass 01-09-2012 05:35 PM
When I'm in a relationship and things have gone well, especially given that the commitment I'm making to that person is something I cherish and take very seriously, I honestly don't have an eye for other women. I can look at and recognize that someone is good-looking, but I never find them sexually attractive. I guess being with the right person helps, and when I have been, the desire wasn't there.

Though, I can always tell when things aren't going quite right, because then I do surely have some other attractions. I would never act on them, but they are a tell-tale sign for me that something is awry in my current arrangement. My two cents.

Psyko Tek 01-09-2012 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8278937)
I had a discussion last night with my girlfriend about a relationship dilemma one of her closest friends is faced with. These kinds of conversations often serve as firestarters. If a man is too candid he can often represent an opinion that will be superimposed onto his own relationship.

So the two of us were talking about the process of a man "settling down".

I told her about a song I'd been listening to that gives the male perspective of this process. A skit preceded the song. In that skit a man lays out his account of how men always wrestle with the urge to sleep with other women. It was an "inside" conversation. The language was brash, but it was something most men could identify and stand in agreement with. Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false.

Gents when you settled down to a monogamous relationship...
Was that a by-product of having sewn your oats or are you simply managing the urge to sleep with other women?

In taking to older male friends I've been told time and time again that the desire to be with other women never goes away...you just manage it for fidelity's sake.

True or false?

did you ask if she was bi?

Micjones 01-09-2012 05:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Psyko Tek (Post 8280368)
today you are a man
I just hate having to do that.

KChiefs1 01-09-2012 07:23 PM
Does it make a difference if you have kids or not????

Phobia 01-09-2012 08:10 PM
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Originally Posted by KChiefs1 (Post 8280721)
Does it make a difference if you have kids or not????
Most men are still men whether they have kids or not.

hometeam 01-09-2012 08:13 PM
I wanna **** basically every decent looking, non fat woman that I cross.

DO I TRY?

Nah.

Girls do the same thing, if they say they dont, they are 100% downright lying.

DJJasonp 01-09-2012 08:53 PM
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GloryDayz 01-09-2012 09:15 PM
I'd say that she needs to be told (to tell her friend) that if the woman wants to keep the man's desire to stay monogamous, it's up to her to be better than all those other women. We're cool, we get "that week", but too much of a non-thing just kills the desire to NOT spread your seed. Or just get some! So, repulsed or not, the better stay on top of things, or "he" (you) will get on top of other things...

angelo 01-09-2012 10:56 PM
My wife and I are very honest with each other.

One day she asked me if I ever wanted to have sex with another woman.
I looked her dead in the eye and said yes every day.

She was a bit shocked and I explained that I decided to marry her when I was sure I would never act on that impulse. That I had to much respect for her and loved her more than she would ever know.

She has never asked again.

Ang

Dave Lane 01-09-2012 11:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Micjones (Post 8278972)
I concur. This is what I tried to explain, but the idea that the desire is ever even there sent her over the edge.
Dump her. Way too insecure.

Pitt Gorilla 01-09-2012 11:05 PM
As long as there are hot chicks, we're going to dig them.

L.A. Chieffan 01-09-2012 11:08 PM
Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent

wutamess 01-09-2012 11:08 PM
I Like Turtles!

wutamess 01-09-2012 11:22 PM
You're one of those people that don't HEAR comedy... you just listen to it...
Right at the 59s mark... HEAR C. ROCK!

Anyone know how to embed at the 59 s mark?

http://youtu.be/vnZLcx6hIaE?t=59s

Blueflame 01-10-2012 03:47 AM
In general... a man who is still breathing (regardless of age or committed-ness) is most likely going to look when a nice butt or rack walks by. This doesn't necessarily mean he wants to... or would... cheat. But window-shopping should be ok even if one has no intention of buying. Right?

Inspector 01-10-2012 06:42 AM
I feel as though I have an obligation to share my wealth of knowledge about this subjuct with younger guys based on the fact I've lived for awhile and have so much life experience in which to draw upon.

I just wish I could remember any of it.

InChiefsHeaven 01-10-2012 07:44 AM
You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away.

I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals.

Predarat 01-10-2012 07:59 AM
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Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan (Post 8281755)
Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent
That is damn true.

trndobrd 01-10-2012 10:01 AM
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Originally Posted by angelo (Post 8281733)
My wife and I are very honest with each other.

One day she asked me if I ever wanted to have sex with another woman.
I looked her dead in the eye and said yes every day.

She was a bit shocked and I explained that I decided to marry her when I was sure I would never act on that impulse. That I had to much respect for her and loved her more than she would ever know.

She has never asked again.

Ang

Still, it's best not to use her best friend as a 'for instance'.

Lumpy 01-10-2012 11:47 PM
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Originally Posted by luv (Post 8279112)
So it's the woman's responsibility to make sure her man doesn't cheat. Interesting.
I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.

patteeu 01-11-2012 06:07 AM
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Originally Posted by Lumpy (Post 8284451)
I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.
Go ahead and talk or cry with another man if you need to.

EPodolak 01-11-2012 06:41 AM
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Originally Posted by InChiefsHell (Post 8281994)
You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away.

I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals.

Or maybe it's that some guys are hard-wired with traditional values of hearth and home, and have a greater reverence for fidelity. Meanwhile other guys see those as outdated bourgeois concepts and go on like roosters in heat for as long as they can. Individual differences based on temperament. Another category of men are just randy, selfish assholes and couldn't care less who they run over.

Blueflame 01-11-2012 07:21 AM
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Originally Posted by InChiefsHell (Post 8281994)
You are not an animal, you have control over your urges. But that doesn't make the urges go away.

I always explain it like this...I could be in love with probably a million people in the world, but I CHOSE my wife. That's because love is a choice not a feeling. Lust is a feeling. You have to control your feelings...otherwise we're just animals.
In other words... "window shopping" is rather like staring at a lovely green poison ivy plant. You can appreciate its beauty and that's just fine. As long as you don't touch. o:-)

memyselfI 01-11-2012 07:26 AM
Love the assumption that the desire to be with 'strange' is somehow a male specific desire.

burt 01-11-2012 07:28 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284763)
Love the assumption that the desire to be with 'strange' is somehow a male specific desire.
You really can't read, can you. Okay.....you just look at the pretty pictures.....

burt 01-11-2012 07:31 AM
I stayed single until I was 35 because I enjoyed chasin', and catching it. Now at 51, I realize.... I know about a tenth of what Phobia knows about relationships. and 50 times what Clayton knows.

memyselfI 01-11-2012 07:35 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284769)
You really can't read, can you. Okay.....you just look at the pretty pictures.....
Oh really?

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Needless to say, she was repulsed by the idea that men are often desirous of other women. So now I'm in an odd position of having to answer to her about my own desires. I think women have these heart-warming ideas that a man who has committed himself to her no longer has an eye for other women. I think that's patently false.
It's both sexes. Lots of delusion going on in that paragraph.

burt 01-11-2012 07:45 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284775)
Oh really?



It's both sexes. Lots of delusion going on in that paragraph.
A thread on a predominantly man's board about mans urges. I would feel differently if it was a post about womans urges. But this thread is about a MANS urges. And even with that in mind.....

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Originally Posted by Predarat (Post 8279127)
And its not just men that look. If women claim they do not, they are ****ing liars.
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Originally Posted by BIG_DADDY (Post 8280222)
Attraction isn't a choice, how you deal with it is. Anyone that thinks just because you love somebody that goes away is fooling themself or has control issues. That reality fits on both sides of the isle.
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Originally Posted by L.A.Chieffan (Post 8281755)
Chicks **** around as much as guys, they just like to act all innocent

memyselfI 01-11-2012 08:07 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284788)
A thread on a predominantly man's board about mans urges. I would feel differently if it was a post about womans urges. But this thread is about a MANS urges. And even with that in mind.....
Point is the poor guy who posted this is not only talking to a clueless less than honest woman but has some delusions himself. Only in Harlequinn romance novels do women lose interest in other men once they fall in love. We have the same struggles and tendencies that men do. It's just not deemed very lady like to admit it when you are a young woman. Not to mention it's a delusion both sexes willingly embrace in order to believe fidelity is actually possible. Which it is. But to deny nature is ridiculous.

burt 01-11-2012 08:36 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284819)
We have the same struggles and tendencies that men do.
Read slower. That is exactly what the posted quotes were saying.:banghead:

LiveSteam 01-11-2012 08:40 AM
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Originally Posted by memyselfI (Post 8284819)
Point is the poor guy who posted this is not only talking to a clueless less than honest woman but has some delusions himself. Only in Harlequinn romance novels do women lose interest in other men once they fall in love. We have the same struggles and tendencies that men do. It's just not deemed very lady like to admit it when you are a young woman. Not to mention it's a delusion both sexes willingly embrace in order to believe fidelity is actually possible. Which it is. But to deny nature is ridiculous.
People! This can all be fixed by having dirty porn sex
TRUE STORY

memyselfI 01-11-2012 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284860)
Read slower. That is exactly what the posted quotes were saying.:banghead:
I understand that. Men speculating on women's sexuality is very powerful and informative especially a couple of those deeply contemplated comments.

Predarat 01-11-2012 09:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Lumpy (Post 8284451)
I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.
Most women if there is not emotion/communication there is not alot of sex. I think that is one of the first things to look for if you are a man and the sex is lacking.

Phobia 01-11-2012 09:04 AM
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Originally Posted by Lumpy (Post 8284451)
I find it interesting too.

However, a relationship is a 2-way street. What happens when a wife/gf's needs aren't being met? Let's say there's a lack of emotion/communication in the relationship yet there's plenty of sex. Do men ever worry that their wife/gf will seek out someone to help fill that void?

I don't mean to sound like a "typical chick" with my post, but think about it, gentlemen... a relationship without communication is like a relationship without sex. Plain and simple.
This is a completely fair question. Your solution is quite simple, though. Get a phone. Call some girlfriends. We don't want to talk to you.

Phobia 01-11-2012 09:34 AM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8284771)
I stayed single until I was 35 because I enjoyed chasin', and catching it. Now at 51, I realize.... I know about a tenth of what Phobia knows about relationships.
That's simply not true at all. My marriage suffers just like everybody else. I just decided to work at it. I know a lot more than I used to know but I'm still learning every day. Don't be afraid to ask your wife, "Am I supposed to be just listening or do you want me to fix something." Develop some "safe words" for times when you are devolving into a tendency that has plagued your marriage. That way, the wife can say something to you that will snap you out of it without all the conflict.

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and 50 times what Clayton knows.
I think you were missing a few zeros there.

Demonpenz 01-11-2012 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8284971)
That's simply not true at all. My marriage suffers just like everybody else. I just decided to work at it. I know a lot more than I used to know but I'm still learning every day. Don't be afraid to ask your wife, "Am I supposed to be just listening or do you want me to fix something." Develop some "safe words" for times when you are devolving into a tendency that has plagued your marriage. That way, the wife can say something to you that will snap you out of it without all the conflict.



I think you were missing a few zeros there.
I see two zero's atleast.

burt 01-11-2012 10:27 AM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8284971)
That's simply not true at all. My marriage suffers just like everybody else. I just decided to work at it.
You are talking to the King of "Working at it.";)

Setsuna 01-11-2012 10:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8279394)
It's important to a woman, no doubt. But yeah - we're talking about women helping us feel like we're "The Man". If a husband feels emasculation from his woman then that marriage isn't going to do very well unless he's a very unique individual.
Bullshit. Grow a pair.

Phobia 01-11-2012 10:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Setsuna (Post 8285108)
Bullshit. Grow a pair.
This isn't a debate. There's nothing to argue. It is what it is. There's no man alive who will survive and thrive in a relationship with a woman tearing at his manhood. It's just not possible.

Setsuna 01-11-2012 10:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8285117)
This isn't a debate. There's nothing to argue. It is what it is. There's no man alive who will survive and thrive in a relationship with a woman tearing at his manhood. It's just not possible.
Damn. You're too wise to fall into my trap. I need someone younger and dumber.

burt 01-11-2012 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Setsuna (Post 8285121)
Damn. You're too wise to fall into my trap. I need someone younger and dumber.
How 'bout older and dumber?

LiveSteam 01-11-2012 12:57 PM
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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8285332)
How 'bout older and dumber?
You rang

Lumpy 01-11-2012 03:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 8284895)
This is a completely fair question. Your solution is quite simple, though. Get a phone. Call some girlfriends. We don't want to talk to you.
:LOL:

Wait...

:deevee:

Setsuna 01-11-2012 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted by LiveSteam (Post 8285507)
You rang
You don't need a woman to confirm your masculinity do you?

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Originally Posted by burt (Post 8285332)
How 'bout older and dumber?
Perfect

Extra Point 01-11-2012 05:36 PM
If you've already ordered, you can still look at the menu, but don't shout out the special.


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