| ClearmontChief |
12-20-2011 02:21 PM |
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Originally Posted by Bearcat
(Post 8223244)
I don't think that's necessarily true... Brianfo was clearly thinking about his wife and kids when he created the thread. I understand why people think it's a selfish act, but for the most part, I really don't think it's a decision that's made lightly... it might be sudden for loved ones, which I think would lead to thoughts about how it was selfish, etc; but I'm willing to bet it's anything but sudden for the person contemplating suicide. Brianfo obviously has people to live for, and he clearly knows that, or else he might not be reaching out for help at all. Perhaps not trying at all would be selfish, but that would just be speculation on our part.
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My Father-in-Law had 3 children with families, 9 grandkids, including my youngest which was a tiny baby at the time. He did threaten to do it, 4-5 times first. But, was talked down...never ignored, but talked to. He was told by my wife not to do it, what do you think we'll think, what do you think about the grandkids dealing with it? He didn't care, he was an alcoholic and had lost over 200K gambling in the last couple years. He always put himself first...as alcoholics and addicts do. When he made up his mind, he did it...and that was with everything. And, by gosh, you either dealt with it, or you didn't come around and he didn't give a rip which one it was. Obviously, he was hurting with his addictions, and didn't know any positive way out. But, he certainly didn't give a rip that he passed his pain on to us than he did being an ass when he was alive. It's selfish and it's cowardly, and you leave victims who are scarred for life. My wife will never be anywhere near the same as she used to be. She's fractured, she's angry, she's heart-broken, and if I had the ability, I'd beat him to a pulp for what he's done to us. |
