I have tried to move on. Ive been with 4 other girls since my wife, 1 of them I actually cared about. I even stopped sleeping with my wife while I was with her. But she ended up going back to her ex then I started ****ing my wife again. Im not trying to act like this is normal or healthy, I know its ****ed up, but I cant help it. I love her. We grew up together, she's all Ive really known since I was 19. She's my best friend. Hell, my only real friend.

Yeah, it takes me a while to get to my scornful asshole phase on here... but I'm there with MTG at this point. He just doesn't deserve much sympathy anymore. He's obviously a masochist, though, so maybe he'll enjoy having people make fun of him on here for his continued stupidity.

He also should consider what it will eventually do to his kids. This behavior could come back to mess them up. This is a broken arrangement and kids learn from what they see. He's just setting them up for possible trouble down the road.

Despite the advice that many nimrods on here gave you, going out and ****ing a bunch of other women isn't the way to get over your ex. You need counseling and soul searching. You need to find yourself and stop being so codependent.

Moving on does not mean ****ing other women. Moving on means learning who you are and who you want to be. Your actions suggest you want to be the kind of man that ****s his life up over and over again.....is that really what you want to be?

I'm divorced. I know it's ****ING hard to let it all go. But at some point you have to start thinking with your head and not your heart and the problem is YOU have to intentionally make that decision. You aren't a victim and it's time for you to start taking control of your life and stop doing things to damage yourself.

You stated you started this thread to vent but I'm guessing deep down you're looking for a way out because you realize you're torchering yourself.

Take the advice you're being given. Use it as a crutch and every time you're tempted come back here and read this thread again.

Exactly.

and you need counseling....you seriously need counseling.

Counseling costs $ that I dont have. And no my insurance doesnt cover it, Ive already looked into it...

What? Adjust your budget to allow for a sex profesional. Cash up front no bullshit. Pound the heck out if it. You will feel better than spending the same amount of cash at a mental health profesional.

If she loves you maybe she will do a threesome that has better odds in your favor than the threesome you are in now. You know even the score for awhile. You have the classic sympoms of sloppy seconds.

Instead of spending money on taking women on dates and trying to get laid, spend the money on counseling.

THIS again.

If your ex really had genuine concern for you, she would immediatly stop the relationship with this other guy.

Some people have been telling him this from the start. The nimrods you speak of, and who he listened to because they were telling him what he wanted to her, told him to ignore us. I'm glad to see a majority of people posting in here are the ones that have good advice.

There's groups that offer cheap/free counseling. You just have to WANT to get help. What you're doing, will **** with your kids later on. Man up and get some help.

I havent been spending money on women.