This is something I have never tried, but I am skeptical about your claim.

Agree with others... Move on and say nothing.

Look at it this way....you did the right thing by not acting on it. Many wouldn't have done the same.

I think you need to have a serious confessional session with your gf. Tell her about your devious ways and impure thoughts.

you're evil

I think so too, it will get found out one way or another. If he does not confess it will be a harsher consequence. His best course of action is to be pro active and get out in front of it. That don't say anything and play defense if you have too shit just doesn't work.

I think the test is probably how she would feel if she'd been listening in

I'm curious about something. I didn't really have a long period of casual dating in my life. It was usually either no dating or a committed relationship. So I never had to deal with dating transitions.

If you're dating someone and you've been together for, say, three months or six months or something, and you like the person but you're not really planning on marrying them, how do you shop for someone new? If you encounter someone you like, are you required to break up with the current girlfriend before flirting with the new prospect? Or can you flirt, figure out if you've got a chance, and then say to the new one, "Hold on for a day or two. I need to break up with this other gal."

If no rings are on fingers, it seems like there should be some sort of middle ground where you can flirt with someone to test the waters, kind of like that middle zone in bombardment where everybody's allowed to run. If you can't flirt, how do you continue moving up the preference ladder until you find Miss Right?

Honesty is always the best policy.

Suckin ain't ****in and eatin ain't cheating. Talk should be ok.

I don't worry about it. Or didn't. If I was happy where I was, doing what I was doing, then I didn't have a concern about the higher rung. Regardless of future intentions. If I knew the b/f was only a short term temporary assignment, then we probably both knew that, and outside flirting wouldn't be much of a concern on either end.

Either way, you can for sure find yourself drawn to someone without tripping over sexual innuendos. The definition of what flirting is, is about as universal as beauty.

Ah. So the key is internal communication and being sure that both parties know where they're at on the ladder. That sounds difficult in the hypersensitive world of dating.

Now I'm wondering what the rungs are. Perhaps they should be labeled so people know.

That's a good idea. I could have used the ladder rung warning equivalent to dating when I was a youngster:

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I suppose that information would be helpful but it's like Chutes and Ladders. Some twat may scurry to the top with minimal effort while the rest of us go back and forth across the board, but it really takes one wrong roll to end up at the bottom of the slide anyways.

So. **** it.

And change states often.

Is Love worth losing your best friend?