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Does the "no contact" rule work? (https://chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=255937)

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder (Post 8358450)

I am doing my best at moving on. Monday night I went and played bar poker, tuesday I went to my buddies and played ping pong. Tonight i'm chilling at home, Tomorrow I will be at a bar.

I am trying to move on like i'll never speak to her again. It's hard that she ended it the way she did, and then admitted to dating someone else....that's whats making this hard. The revenge part may be childish, but I feel like she deserves it.

And FAX, it wasn't just lying. It was lying about stupid shit.

She'd claim "I am going to Houlihans with my work friends" and i'd say "okay!" and I was in the area, and drove by there to see if she was there (I had suspicions she was seeing someone else at this time) and she WAS NOT THERE!! when I confronted her about it later, she said "fine.....we actually went to a movie, and I was scared to tell you because you always invite me to movies and I say no"

Then, couple days later, she said she was having "ladies" night at Whiskey tango. Well, I went with some of my friends, and on teh way home from the Casino, they stopped by there. Needless to say, SHE WAS NOT THERE. I had a stamp on my hand showing I paid cover, when I met up with her later that night, I asked to see her hands like I was going to say something important.........I asked her what she did at WT, and she said "we just watched people dance!" and then I sprung it on her! NO STAMP ON THE HAND. She then admitted they actually went to power and light..............so trust me, there was A LOT of red flags,and I just kept allowing it.

It sounds to me like it's time to move on, and it's time to stop spying on her. It's going to be a bummer for you until you meet someone better.

Find a chick and take her to a Mavericks game. Hockey is an aphrodisiac.

I have a theory that, if the Chiefs would start winning, a lot of Planeteers would have better self-esteem.

There is no freaking way that a guy with a job and a half-assed personality can't attract an interesting, good-looking girl. Hell, that's all they think about ... girls, I mean. They are obsessed with hooking up with a guy ... either for some fun or a husband. If the Chiefs were winning, maybe everybody would feel just a little better about themselves and not quite so damn desperate.

Freaking Pioli.

FAX

The signs where there, you had your doubts and checked on her that proved your doubts. Time to move and start over with a better person. Everyone should have at least 1 bad relationship, it helps to show you the good thing when it comes along.

I knew this guy ... he used to be the Executive Director of the Leukemia Society here in Nashville when I was on the board. Then, he became a franchisee of a company I helped start.

Anyhow, he lost it over a damn live-in girlfriend when she started screwing around. He bugged her phone, tailed her night and day, heck he even hired a PI for awhile to spy on her. He totally lost it. And this guy was otherwise, by all outward appearances, a normal human being with a solid reputation, many friends, and a decent career.

Women can turn even the best guy into a whimpering, paranoid idiot. You owe it to yourself to not let that happen to you. Ever.

FAX

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Originally Posted by FAX (Post 8358482)

trying hard not too. I am not contacting her, although I would like my stuff back.

She even did stupid things, like Monday, when I dropped her clothes off with her mom.....she loves playing 'scramble with friends' and we had about 5 games going........instead of leaving them and not touching them, she resigned on them all........sort of childish.

The convo with her mother when I dropped her stuff off went like this........

mom - "So do you think you two are going to work this out?"

me - "I don't think so, we're just too incompatible, and sometimes it just doesn't work out"

mom - "You know Melissa never really tells us anything, so we really have no idea what ever is going on"

me - "That seems to be a common theme with her."

mom - "you know, Melissa's first boyfriend was overly clingy, possessive, had to always know where she was at, she just can't handle that sort of thing"

me - "well, maybe is she didn't constantly lie, that wouldn't happen"

I think I handled it well. Her mom was trying to pry to see what I would say. Melissa is 24, so I am sure she'll ask her mom if I said anything when I dropped her stuff off and I wanted to give NO impression that I was hurt over this. The real kicker was when her mom came out to get the last couple of items and one of them was a pregnancy test..

"did Melissa think she was pregnant?"

me - Yeah, good thing that didn't happen.

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Originally Posted by Rain Man (Post 8358278)

Life is a journey, and everyone you meet and know is transient. Some of them come and go quickly, just a waitress at a truck stop along your journey. Others hitchhike with you for a couple hundred miles, but eventually they get out at a gas station and walk off while you're getting a Dr. Pepper. But all that does is create an empty seat for the next person to ride along. So follow your route, pick the radio station you want, turn the a/c to the setting you want, and if someone wants to ride along with you for a while, great.

Just hope its not Jeffrey Dahmer

It sounds as though you have a good relationship with the mother. Have you considered boinking her?

FAX

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Originally Posted by FAX (Post 8358497)

It sounds as though you have a good relationship with the mother. Have you considered boinking her?

FAX

ewww.....If you saw her mother, that comment would never be made. I looked at it as though her mom wasn't the one who shit on me, and I really don't want to see my ex.

FAX is right. Focus on improving YOUR life. Do so by nailing HER friends as soon as possible.

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder (Post 8358500)

ewww.....If you saw her mother, that comment would never be made. I looked at it as though her mom wasn't the one who shit on me, and I really don't want to see my ex.

We do. Pics?

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder (Post 8358489)

mom - "You know Melissa never really tells us anything, so we really have no idea what ever is going on"

me - "That seems to be a common theme with her."

Proper response was: "She's kind of sensitive and quiet about the syphilis she got from her 1 night stands 2 years ago. That, and the thing about the uncle touching her. Well, good-bye."

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Originally Posted by God of Thunder (Post 8358396)

What I want most, is that revenge. I want her to see she ****ed up, try to get me back, and I just smile and say "no"

You will have your revenge, it just won't be right now.

Right now you need to go hang out with your friends, have a good time, shoot pool, go to the gun/outdoor sports/electronics show, spend saturday afternoon hungover watching the John Wayne movie marathon, hit the gym, and do everything else you missed because you were dating.

After a while, you'll start dating another girl, and probably a couple more after that. Eventually, you'll meet one that you trust, love, etc. Then, in 15-20 years, you will be enjoying dinner at a restaurant with the beautiful Goddess of Thunder and a couple of handsome little Thunderlings and this chick that dumped you will come to your table to take your order. After telling her about your wonderful family, career and recent vacation, you will ask her how she has been doing.

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Originally Posted by Chiefnj2 (Post 8358521)

Proper response was: "She's kind of sensitive and quiet about the syphilis she got from her 1 night stands 2 years ago. That, and the thing about the uncle touching her. Well, good-bye."

I see you've met my ex-wife.

(Seriously, that was like eerily close.)

As far as breaks go, if I ever dated again, which I won't, any 'break' asked for would be immediately granted, and would be permanent.

Do. Not. Grovel. You're better than that. Even if you're not.

Do not pine. Let her go and move on.

Grudge **** her best friend.