Originally Posted by griZZly64 (Post 9023613)

Then there's Amanda. You mean to tell me she couldn't handle life because there was a picture of her breasts being circulated over the internet and around her city? I find that to be ridiculous. Everyone does things they wish they could take back. But come on.. this whole bullying phenomenon erks me big time. Kids have been teased and bullied since the beginning of time. Now all of a sudden these kids are killing themselves over it? I blame the parents and society for not equipping our youth with ways to deal with "bullying."

Originally Posted by TheGuardian (Post 9023990)

Ummmm how is blaming the parents bad? No 12 year old should be online in chat rooms. Spare me the "it's 2012" speech. That's right. It is. If you're a responsible parent you don't put your kids on the ****ing internet unsupervised.

For kids, getting over really simple things can be hard. Your life is very "small" so something as "minor" to us, like a picture of breasts, can be a real wrecking ball to a kids life. A lot of kids don't have great relationships with their parents either, and again that's the parents fault.

It's our job to be the safe keepers for our children. When we fail, they pay the price.

Originally Posted by listopencil (Post 9023958)

I have four children, two boys and two girls. I have only allowed computers that are accessible to the children to be placed in the living room, in plain view of the entire family. I have also consistently enforced a set of rules regarding internet usage. Kids will be kids. They will have to deal with sexuality as they mature and it happens earlier than a lot of people realize. As a parent you hope to help your kids through that. I don't blame her parents for her death. It was her own unfortunate choice. I do blame the guy that harassed her for causing extra stress in her life that she shouldn't have had to deal with.

Originally Posted by listopencil (Post 9023958)

I have four children, two boys and two girls. I have only allowed computers that are accessible to the children to be placed in the living room, in plain view of the entire family. I have also consistently enforced a set of rules regarding internet usage. Kids will be kids. They will have to deal with sexuality as they mature and it happens earlier than a lot of people realize. As a parent you hope to help your kids through that. I don't blame her parents for her death. It was her own unfortunate choice. I do blame the guy that harassed her for causing extra stress in her life that she shouldn't have had to deal with.

Originally Posted by griZZly64 (Post 9023613)

I have a hard time finding a reason not to blame Amanda and her parents for this tragedy. First off why does a 12 year old have a webcam? Yeah it's impossible nowadays to keep a kid off the net, but why buy her a webcam? NOTHING good comes from owning a webcam if you're a child. Whats more appalling is the fact that her parents weren't successful in defusing the situation. Instead they gave into all her emotions instead of teaching her how to learn from this silly mistake.

Then there's Amanda. You mean to tell me she couldn't handle life because there was a picture of her breasts being circulated over the internet and around her city? I find that to be ridiculous. Everyone does things they wish they could take back. But come on.. this whole bullying phenomenon erks me big time. Kids have been teased and bullied since the beginning of time. Now all of a sudden these kids are killing themselves over it? I blame the parents and society for not equipping our youth with ways to deal with "bullying."

The dude who kept pursuing her and making life hard on her is a scumbag.. yes I agree. But it's how a person reacts to harassment that opens them up to being bullied. If she just ignored the dude instead of changing schools and posting youtube videos the dude woulda got bored n gave up.

And the getting beaten up for sleeping with another girls boyfriend.. that doesnt need explanation. What would you do if you found out some dude was bangin your old lady? Probably load up the shotgun or pound your fist through his skull. Plus she's how old? 15 or something having a one night stand? Where's the parenting??????????

The whole situation could and should have been avoided. A poor girl resorting to suicide over something she did as a 12 year old is sad. Her actions and her parents actions/inaction deserve 100% of the blame.

Originally Posted by listopencil (Post 9023958)

I have four children, two boys and two girls. I have only allowed computers that are accessible to the children to be placed in the living room, in plain view of the entire family. I have also consistently enforced a set of rules regarding internet usage. Kids will be kids. They will have to deal with sexuality as they mature and it happens earlier than a lot of people realize. As a parent you hope to help your kids through that. I don't blame her parents for her death. It was her own unfortunate choice. I do blame the guy that harassed her for causing extra stress in her life that she shouldn't have had to deal with.

Originally Posted by Pestilence (Post 9024010)

I'm going to be coming to you later for tips. I've got 3 daughters and I'm scared shitless of when they grow up.

Originally Posted by KC_Lee (Post 9024042)

This over and over. Never allow a computer with internet access in your children's room. Put it in the living room and only allow then to surf when the family is in the room.

Originally Posted by listopencil (Post 9024068)

All joking aside though, one of the strongest building blocks that will help you raise a daughter is just to be a good man. She will be looking at you to see what a man is, and using you as a guideline for the rest of her life. Set a good example.

Originally Posted by KC_Lee (Post 9024042)

This over and over. Never allow a computer with internet access in your children's room. Put it in the living room and only allow then to surf when the family is in the room.

Originally Posted by L.A. Chieffan (Post 9024075)

Speak N Spell is running Anon?

Originally Posted by stevenidol (Post 9024099)

You can take whatever precautions or establish any rule you want, but if the child wants to do it then they will figure out a way to make it happen. I know I did.