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You're talking about compromising to iron out MINOR differences. I'm not. |
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I feel sorry for the people that live these lives. It must be sad having every relationship be a ticking timebomb. |
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The bigger problem for me is him snooping and reading her messages without her knowing. I mean who is the bigger sneaky bitch here? No offense Jim Jones... |
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Are you 14? |
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Probably they should both communicate more honestly, but then they wouldn't be having this problem. |
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Who is that window licker in your avatar? |
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My finance can go through my phone and emails it doesn't bother me at all. I can also do the same. Not a big deal really.
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It's the inherent issue with discussing these types of topics on a message board. We are getting ONE persons 2nd hand account of the actual story. |
I didn't read the whole thread, but please, make sure you hit that shit one more time before you leave her for good.
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What a stud. |
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And you don't seriously think the sister will keep all of this quiet do you? Seriously? |
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The quotes we have are a non-issue. The whole snooping on your fiance, however... OP clearly doesn't need to be in a relationship. |
**** her then dump the bitch. fake whore..
jk that wasnt nice. Confront her...thats pretty much BS what she is sayin |
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Meh. He really needs to mix in a flannel shirt. |
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And old. I agree. |
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After all that is said, he needs to understand why it was he felt it necessary to sneak a peak at her texts. Did he have a legit reason to wonder about what she was saying, or is he taking out his bad past relationships on her? Quote:
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Antlers are for the young crowd. |
I'd confront her, but after the holidays.
No reason to ruin xmas. If she gets pissed because you 'invaded her privacy', then you should break it off. |
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If she doesn't like his family, and he can't reconcile that, they're going to have a continuous stream of disagreements that stem from it. Like someone else mentioned, it's one thing for her to "gut it up" for Christmas. What happens when Grandma wants to keep the kids? Again, if the way she feels about his family is agreeable to him, even partially, then they don't really have a problem. They compromise and move on. But if that we're the case, we wouldn't be here. She would have told HIM instead of her sister and her feelings wouldn't have come as a total shock. |
what if your fiance starts snooping through your computer and finds this thread through the browsing history?
would she be okay with this thread? lol same concept really |
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The OP admits to being "paranoid from past relationships" and "never seeing this side of her." So he's really had no reason to snoop through her text messages and the only reason he did was because of someone he used to date that has no connection to this new girl what so ever. Ya'll want to turn this into an issue on the girl because she doesn't like his mothers cooking but is still going to play nice and have Christmas with them, yet we wouldn't even know she didn't like his mothers cooking unless dipshit didn't snoop through her phone. And there seems to be a popular belief that if he didn't snoop through her phone and find out these "horrible" truths that when they eventually came out it's going to be a trailer park brawl. |
If I gave any advice, would anyone heed it?
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I can assure you I could tell my sister something, or my wife could tell her sisters something, and it would be in complete confidence. Because they are polite people, not bickering children. |
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Trust is a big issue here I don't disagree. But so is lying and acting like it's ok just because he shouldn't have caught her because he was snooping. She is damaging the relationship on a level just as serious. I'll ask the same question that has been asked before....if she is lying to him about how she feels about his family, what else could she be lying to him about. |
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I didn't mean to make it sound like I am blaming HER when obviously HE has unresolved trust issues unrelated to her. It's just the nature of the situation - for whatever reason she felt the need to tell the sister instead of the OP, which is indicative of a larger, underlying problem. |
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Here you sit. Venting your frustrations to a bunch of dumbasses ( we're chiefs fans after all. Except setsuna, he's just a dumbass.). Try to gain some perspective. If its just venting, you're doing the same thing. If she hates them, you probably have some work to do. |
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But...what happened to her being honest with him all along. |
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The OP is the issue. Sorry. His girlfriend has manners and is polite to his family. She's going to spend Christmas with them. Yet this dude invades her privacy because he's too broken from shit thats happened in the past. This girl needs to run... |
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Wait til it is done.. Then apologize that you read the texts.. But you feel ashamed that she could not be honest with you.. |
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But he isn't the only issue. We'll just have to agree to disagree on this. Since you edited yours I'll edit mine too..... I think they both need to run......he has trust issues and she can't be honest with him. That's not manners that is duplicity and you can't shade it any other way. |
You keep using this word duplicity...
She isn't set to marry the in-laws... |
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This may have already been covered ( i haven't read the whole thing), but is Jim Jones paying her phone bill? If so, then he has the right to read the texts. If not...better be careful.
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So you think she was being completely honest with him? |
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**** this shit. The bitch sits around the ****ing house getting railed by anyone who knocks on the ****ing door. She is probably talking shit to her family about your family on her phone while Victor the neighbors lawn guy strokes her from behind. While everyone is saucing her dumplings during the day. You come home to a pile of ****ing laundry, Victors sandwich plate and her crusty tbacks. After you clean the joint up you have to get your own beer and eat a ****ing hungry man tv dinner. Before bed you flow chowder down the shower drain but tomorrow Big Nasty KCnut is blasting butter across her chin.
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Please, I beg you, READ before you respond. |
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So answer the question... |
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Fake bitches are Real ****s.
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I think the thing being lost here is that in-law relationships vary widely.
Some people may find themselves spending many weekdays/weekends around their in-laws, while others may only interact with in-laws on a few occasions per year. That plays a big part in how bit of a deal it is that she doesn't like them. If she hates them, but only has to put on a friendly front 4 times per year, is it really going to impact the relationship? Clearly everyone is adding their opinion based on personal experience, which may or may not mirror their situation. |
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I'm not suggesting they have to be in lock-step. Everybody in a relationship has disagreements. But if their fundamental views of his family are that far off, a bit of compromise won't be enough. |
Most women hate their mother in laws well most guys love their moms.
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I would confront her whether it's the right thing or not. In fact, I would break up with her for it. But that's just me.
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I don't know what the **** your problem is today but apparently it's affecting your ability to read and comprehend. Let me make this more simple. If she likes his family 30% and he likes them 70%, they have a potentially fixable situation. If she likes his family 10% and he likes them 80, it's a lost cause. |
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