You must be one of them popular jock types ;)

Can you introduce me to TONS of slutty girls in DFW? .... uh... my wife is reading over my shoulder and she says that's not a great idea, so forget I asked. ;)

Amen to that!

I was a lot like GoChiefs when I was younger. I wasn't quite the uber-nerd that he is, but I suffered from paralysing fear when confronted with the prospect of talking to girls that I found attractive. I can only imagine what being a former JW on top of that shyness will do for you. I found out later that even some of my closest friends thought I was either gay or asexual. But, in reality, I was probably one of the horniest, hetero chicken-$#its around.

GoChiefs, you've gotten a lot of good advice during the past 24 hours. I hope you can take a chance because it really isn't as scary as you think it is (I eventually learned that lesson). Just don't go into it expecting to get laid. Start slowly by getting to know people on a friendly, non-sexual level. After you're more comfortable socializing, then you can worry about moving on to romance.

Get in touch with Drunkinpublic the next time you have a party to go to. Its always a lot easier to be at a party when you have someone who you know will talk to you. It gets pretty awkward standing around at a party by yourself because you don't know how to enter into a smalltalk conversation.

BUT DON'T WASTE YOUR OPPORTUNITIES TO SOCIALIZE DURING YOUR COLLEGE YEARS. IT WILL BE MUCH MORE DIFFICULT TO LEARN HOW AFTER YOU LEAVE COLLEGE.

I was hoping this wasn't the case, but you are in need of therapy.

There are plenty of single available women at Sci-Fi conventions. Wait til April and I'll take you over to the Star Trek convention at the Doubletree in KC.

gochiefs,

I'm sure you've heard this advice in some form over the course of the thread... but here it is.

I too used to be the way you are... thankfully, I was able to stand up, find some courage, and break out of my shell by the time I was a senior in high school... I've never made a better decision than the first time I took a chance and went to a party, even though I knew I would be uncomfortable there... life has been a lot better, and a lot more fun, since then.

Trust me, not everyone at parties like the one you passed up are as cool as they act or appear to be... inside, a lot of them are probably as nervous as you are... they just force themselves to ignore it. You can do it too... you just have to believe in yourself, and remember that life is too short to worry about whether people think you're a nerd.

Now, don't take the next part the wrong way, ok?

We had a heated discussion on the values/dangers of homeschooling a while back... if I remember correctly, your main argument there was that homeschooling was bad because they didn't get the social interaction needed to be useful members of society...

Think about that, you're doing the same thing you accused homeschoolers of... I'm not trying to rub anything in, I just thought that might help you find some motivation...

If I can have a healthy social life (that includes girls, parties, and alcohol) even though I was a lowly homeschooler, you can too! :)

Well, feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere.

This "I CAN'T" line of bullshit is for people who WANT to spend a weekend alone. If you don't WANT to be that guy then DON'T BE HIM!

Yes, it is that easy. EVERYONE changes. EVERYONE. You can't help it. You aren't who you are when you were 8. You won't be the same guy in 5 more years. Whoever you become is completely up to you.

And don't say "I'M not you man." No, you're not. I got tired of being you, and changed. If you don't like you don't be this you anymore.

If you saw pictures of me in 7th grade, then pictures of me as a freshman, then pics of me as a senior, then pics of me now you wouldn't even BELIEVE they were all four me. You'd be amazed.

Get some Paxil already.

Seriously - it will help. Sounds like you have social anxiety disorder (SAD). A lot of people have it... including my wife. Paxil helps tremendously.

Talk to your doctor.

I'll second that.

Man I really, really appreciate all of this guys, you have no idea. I think I am definitely going to go to that Super Bowl party. No.

I am going to that Super Bowl party.

It's like Yoda said. Do. Or do not. There is no try.

BTW Duncan, your nerd roots are apparent in your handle. :D

Fanboys get no love.....:huh:

Now he's 8 feet tall, green with an underbite. ;)

I need to read the Dune series again.

Guys I'm GOING to this party. There is no doubt in my mind. The guy only has a 20" TV so I'm going to bring mine.

Post some pics man. Let's see the development of BRAD_CAUDLE in living color!!

Yeah, Renee Richards could say the same thing. ;)

No you don't. I don't think it would be helpful. ;)

Maybe <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060930683/qid=1043013192/sr=2-1/ref=sr_2_1/002-7336023-4384819">this one</a> would be more useful. I haven't read it, but it looks like it is on-point and the 6 reviews are pretty positive.

Self-help books are ass.

You got implants in three stages?

Hmmmmmmm...........no.

Yeah. That way they can track me from Alpha Centauri.........

late to the party, but still dropping in for last call...


There was some good advice given here...hope you use some of it, and take up the "experienced Pilots" that have offered to help you break the ice. Once you go out, and see what you're missing....you'll be pawning that G4 for a new haircut and a case of pleasure mesh trojans.

Don't go to a "gathering of people having fun" with any expectations. No Pressure. you're just there to meet some people. NETWORKING(ie. Meeting people) is more important careerwise down the road than half the classes.

There are alot of things you can do to "break the ice" for you.
1. get a stupid teeshirt.
I recommend one with 2 hands with fingers pointing towards your chest that says "you mush be *this* tall to ride".
guys will think its funny and you'll chat.....ladies will comment and the conversation starts.

Its like anything else...Making yourself just do it the first time is the hardest part....it is NEVER as bad as you anticipate.....and usually a Ton more fun.

The JW excuse doesn't work either...you've said here yourself that your sister is out partying and getting laid.....ask her to hook you up, go out or something.

Also a bit late ...
 

Quit being such a whiny pussy and just fucking go. Sheesh ...

Sorry, but there's nothing that bothers me more than people who whine about something and then do NOTHING to correct the problem.

Go to the party, have a good time and let us know if another girl allowed you to touch her arm.

Or stay at home and reinforce your nerdness.

It's your choice ...

MM
~~Has little tolerance for whiners