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01-11-2012 07:35 PM |
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Originally Posted by LiveSteam
(Post 8286330)
Today she let me know, she wants to be more than friends. I don't wanna have an affair.
I have known her since we were 11,12 years old.So I don't wanna lose her friendship either. She is beautiful.& if she was single/ HELL YES.
Two years ago I had my first & only affair with a different girl. I'm ashamed of the affair,ashamed that I actually believed the bullshit she told me about her marriage & how the marriage was over. All lies.
Never again will I mess with a married chick! Its shameful & pathetic IMO
So how do I tell this woman NO. & not hurt her feelings? Just wanna work on being friends?
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If you've really known her since you were 11 or 12, then you're already as good friend-wise as you'll ever be. And it's obvious that you're already attracated to her, care for her, probably love her, etc.,. So it's pretty simple: you tell the truth. You say, "You're very important to me. I think you're beautiful inside and out. And, frankly, pardon my bluntness but, if you weren't married, I'd have you naked in a heartbeat. But the simple fact is, I will not mess around with a(nother) married woman. Taking me out of the equation, frankly, if you think your marriage is so "over" that you're willing to cheat, then you probably shouldn't be married to him. And if you're single again some day, and I am, and things align, we can try it."
And then you go home and :whackit: repeatedly while trying to tell yourself you did the right thing. :D
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