yeah, i keep a journal. been doing it since the divorce. my attorney said that asshole would step on her own dick sooner or later, so just document everything and save all the nasty voicemails on tape.

unfortunately, the kids have been exposed to WAY to much of adult life. they understand a lot more of it than i ever thought possible. the kid's therapist and the GAL both said they know WAY TOO MUCH for kids their age. luckily, both kids are smart enough to not let me know what they know... they know i'd either have a massive coronary or hit the stratosphere like an ICBM...

i really DO try to keep from ragging on asshole in front of them to a minimum. it is VERY hard sometimes... especially when she is having a tantrum with me on the phone in front of them. i try to walk out of the room so they can't hear it, but her grating voice can be heard for miles... i also can't help myself to a few choice phrases after i hang up. only natural, but i DO try. :shrug:
i know that they're part of both of us so i try to respect them in that aspect. but truth be known, my daughter HATES her mother (for good reason) already.
usually, i try and change the subject if the kids are talking about their mother or asking me questions about her. the only time they really get in depth with talking about their mother is when they go to their therapist. pretty much every time before the kids go to speak with their therapist, my daughter will begin drawing pictures or writing things about her mother in the waiting room. you can always count on her to draw in big huge letters "i hate mom" on her pictures. pretty twisted and disturbing stuff...
but OTOH i always dig the pictures the kids draw of me and them together (either at the therapists or at school)... always puts a smile on my face. :) got them pinned up on the fridge and in their rooms.

thanks for your thoughts.

Don't be too quick to blame it on your attorney. It sounds like she has done a damn fine job for you so far. I don't mess with domestic, but I do know that Judges really hate custody hearings and will go to great lengths to have the parties come to some sort of resolution. In Kansas I believe you can get a temporary support order while you are waiting for final disposition. Your jurisdiction may vary.

Also in Kansas, only one party to a conversation needs to know that it is being recorded. Might be worthwhile to have the video camera pointed out the bedroom window next Wednesday night.

Do you know if Ex-Con or Delinquent Son are still under any type of court or post release supervision? If so, may have some suggestions.

first of all, her visitations ARE supposed to be supervised. for some fucked up reason they seem to think that having the visits at her parent's house qualifies as being "supervised". they ALL know that the kids are NOT supposed to be anywhere near ex-con and gangsta-boy because mother-of-asshole has been at most of the hearings, and was certainly at the last hearing when they looked straight at her in the courtroom and said that supervised visitations would take place in their house.
they also looked straight at her when they reiterated that the kids would not be anywhere near ex-con and gangsta-boy during these supervised visits.
this is also written in plain english on the damn court orders we all have copies of.

regardless of such, ex-con and gangsta-boy have BOTH been at the "supervised" visitation house when my son goes for his "supervised" visits. asshole even had the audacity to pick my son up with ex-con and gangsta-boy in the fucking car with her!!! she sent my son back in to tell my mom (who was watching the kids for me while i was working) that it was an old neighbor in the passenger's seat (gangsta-boy was hiding in the back seat). my mom has met that particular person and KNEW it wasn't him. by the time she got the camera, asshole had sped off down the street with my son in the car with the fucking people she isn't supposed to have him around...
cripes... i picked him up from his visit tonight and my daughter saw them peeking out the windows... again. my son also confirmed that they had been there all weekend... again.

WTF??!! :banghead:

yeah... "supervised" visitation. they're ALL thumbing their noses at the court while i follow the rules like a friggin' chump. this SUCKS bo... for real.

thanks for your thoughts...

one question though... what's with the "men" in quotes?? :hmmm:
just curious... :shrug:

hmmm... been trying to thank all who have responded to this thread but apparently it will not let me continue to do so. (that's kinda lame...)
anyways, thanks to all who have responded so far, i'll get to each of you individually when i can.
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Loki,
Hang in there dude. It sounds like you are so close to getting this resolved. My prayers to your kids and your family.

Prayers and best wishes on a expedited and successful fight and victory. That is indeed a rare thing for those who have the penis disadvantage working against them.

I have told my sons: "Be careful where you stick your dick!" on many occasions.

One of them didn't really pay attention. We may in for a similar deal....ugh....

Man, I can't imagine what you and your kids are going through. I'm praying for you guys.

I'm in.

I have no life experience to equate this to, only can offer my support to continue to do what you're doing for the betterment of the Kids and yourself.

Don't let the hate for her burn you up.

Best of luck.

Sorry, Loke.

We'll pray for you. Good Luck!

She doesn't have any idea, Lok. I wouldn't sweat it.

I won't even pretend to be a lawyer, but wouldn't this be a violation of a court order, or some such?

My ex has violated dozens of court orders. They don't enforce them unless you spend thousands of dollars taking them to court again and again. Family court is an absolute nightmare. Don't ever get divorced not even if your wife decides she's a man. Become gay.

Thoughts and prayers to your kids and you.

Also, anyone that would throw a 7 year old against a wall deserves a two year battle with terminal pancreatic cancer.