what, you bought one of those "real dolls"?


Jaz, really you are right, Direckshun - When you know, you know. If there's a voice behind you saying you're making a mistake, listen to it. Then tell phobia to get out of your house and never ever walk up behind you again....
Unless you liked it, NTTAWWT.

I agree with that.

The fact that cohabitating relationships tend to fail is because of the different nature of the relationship. Each person feels more independent and they develop communication strategies based around that. It tends to be more of a "Is this person good enough for me?" approach than it is a "Am I good enough for this person, or what can I do to be a better partner for them?"

I would seriously advise working on communication. Cohabitating couples don't communicate very well because they're used to the independence aspect of the relationship.

I have a whole Powerpoint presentation complete with research studies and notes if you're REALLY interested in how to give your cohabitating relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

If you truly think it's a dumb thing just show her this thread. I'm guessing the problem will go away.

If my wife and I hadn't lived together before we got married, there is no way that we would have lasted more than six months. I think it's a good way to hit the ground running, and it helps you get used to the quirks and annoyances of another without the full on pressure of marriage.

I appreciate the offer, but we after this many years through good times and bad, I think we're OK. :thumb:

Agreed, communication is absolutely a key.

Sorry, that was for Direckshun :)

Yep, the only reason that stat is so high is because most people get with someone, and even though they can't stand eachother, they think that the only next step is to get married, and maybe their problems will go away.
I was just in this situation, and needless, proud, and happy to say, I am single.

No apologies necessary. Either way, it's kind of you to offer it. It's not an easy road, but no relationship worth having ever is.

Actually, that's barely a reason at all. The underlying problem is the insufficient methods of communication due to the individualistic nature of cohabitating relationships.

Run Sucker run.

the simple messages can be the best

Take my advice

Either:

sign the lease as if you're living by yourself or she signs it herself.

DON'T SIGN IT TOGETHER!!!!!!!!

You make think you are in love and that she is the one but 8-9 months later it could be different.

But that's right when Jr. shows up!

Thank you.

Your draft analysis is going to go down the shitter.