I prefer the 24 hour rule, but 48 is a good compromise. 72 is stetching it. Any more then that is an F-.

There's a lot of truth here.

I think if you work at it, you'll gain a better understanding of why women do the stuff they do. We men do some screwy stuff too - and they have to figure out why we do our stupid things too.

Disagree with the leaving part. I believe if you consider that an option at any point, then your relationship is doomed anyway.

If I had worded it that clumsily I'd understand.
If I had given my own personal account of my struggles with fidelity...I'd understand.

This came on the back of me talking, in general terms, about someone else's relationship.
And the dealbreaker was her hearing this very "inside" male conversation about the subject.

Not to be overly nosey but does she instigate?

I only ask because we went to a few of those conferences and I could've swore I heard it's a two way street,the woman needs to let the man know he is also still desired and therefore take the wheel once in a while.

For people who have been married longer than a couple years, every 72 hours would be a huge improvement. I have a neighbor who gets it about once a month. I've had friends who get it 2-3x a year. I've known married couples who don't do it for a year or more. That is just not cutting it at all. I don't think I've ever gone more than a week - even when my marriage wasn't quite as good as it is now.

Where did I say I don't look at other women? Seeing a woman and noticing/acknowledging she's attractive is not the same thing as desiring to bang her.

She sounds pretty insecure. Might work out in your favor if you play your cards right.

Examples, please.

intentionally..that first part makes the other parts a non-issue.

hence 'partially disagree'

It's rare if not impossible to find a significant other who you can be totally honest and open with. Most of the woman I have dated have been hypocrites when it comes to looking at other people ect. They hate it when I do it but get upset and call me jealous or insecure when I point out they're doing it. People are genetically programmed to look for mating partners and them genetics run deep.

You know my wife. She's a very strong and assertive woman. If tonight is not the night, I can change her mind once in about 10 times. I learned that early so I don't even try on 10% odds any longer. I'd go almost every night but obviously that's not incredibly realistic when you've been married 10 years so we've kind of figured out non-verbally when it's "on". If we didn't do it last night, I'll make a move. If we didn't do it last night or the night before, I know we're on unless I've been a dick that day. Heh.

Well, the key one is that we have to feel respected. If we feel disrespected for any reason then we turn into pathetic children. Respect isn't nearly as important to women so they don't understand why it is so integral to our existence.

Micjones. The mistake you made was talking about that or any urge.

Honestly what good does it serve to share that? Nothing.

Words of wisdom:
"I've never been hurt by something I didn't say." - Calvin Coolidge

Oh - I get it now.

Ahh, makes sense. Also, I learned from you a long time ago to fight the urge to fix their problems when they come complaining to us about their stupid shit at work. It's so hard to just sit and listen and nod and agree. ARGHHHH!