Crap was I using Mystery's stuff without even knowing it.

You would have been talking Klingon chasing that bitch out the door with "BALLS" written on your forehead...

This is the greatest opener in the history of man:

No it isn't, it reeks of desperation

Honesty is the best policy.

:doh!:

I just saw a commercial for E-Harmony and it's "free communication" weekend!

Time to find your matches and whore it up on e-harmony this weekend. FYI for Luv and Claythan

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From a blog I read:

-It's possible to pick up a girl you've never met in a restaurant by initiating a game of tic-tac-toe on a napkin and making your waitress relay the game between the both of you until you make your approach.

Trust me. I know a guy.

The only winning move is not to play.

Thanks, but no thanks. I'm about 6-9 months away from thinking about dating again.

Thats totally cool Luv, but I just have to know how you managed that math.

With every pound I lose, I shred more insecurity. I like who I am. I'd be a damn fine catch. People have to want to open the package though. The more appealing the package, the more people will want to open it. Not saying I wouldn't date someone now if the opportunity and right person came along, but I'm not going to be actively searching or putting myself out there.

Let that shit happen naturally, it will catch up to you when you least expect it. Definetly get rid of the insecurity that will help a ton.

You always find it when you aren't actively looking for it.
Good lord. I've only ever found it in the absolute oddest places and times.

Happy to hear you're doing beautifully.

Which means it will happen before that timeframe.

Aaaaaaaaawe, a baby.

:LOL:

Yeah, that's it.

:spock:

luv I think you're too hung up on your own physical appearance. If you want to lose weight fine but do it for you not for someone else. I think you seem to have a good heart and I don't think you should be afraid to take on a relationship if one presents itself. Confidence in yourself as a person is way more important than being as thin as you think you have to be.

Women are never happy with their bodies anyway. My gf is 112 pounds soaking wet, holding a brick and she thinks her butt is too big. I can cover an asscheek with one hand. Christ I drives me insane. The thing is I wouldn't care if it took two hands. Heh.

You're fine the way you are for the right person.

I wouldn't pass one up if it happens. You know how sick and tired someone gets of being told what a good person they are, how cool they are, and how sweet they are, only to get passed up for someone who acts like a bitch, but who's good looking? Don't tell me looks don't matter. I'm not going to lie to myself. They do matter. I'm not losing weight for someone else. I'm doing it so I can feel better about myself and how I present myself. In turn, hopefully that helps me find someone. If not, well, I've survived on my own.

But yet, you're not dating a fatty.

It's all well and good to encourage luv to recognize the good things about herself and to accept that which she cannot change, but it's good to be realistic about the superficiality of the world too and to the extent that she can make herself attractive, it's good to put some effort into it.

She should brush her hair even if she's still a good person when her hair is a mess. She needs to put some effort into dressing nice instead of dressing down to the least acceptable level even if she's the same person either way. And if she's overweight (as opposed to having an unrealistic mental image of herself, like your gf), she ought to try to lose it, not only because it will make her more marketable but because it's good for her health.

Anyway, I applaud you, luv, for trying to lose some weight and I hope you are able to stay motivated and stick with it. And, btw, I assume you already brush your hair and try to dress nice (without breaking the bank, of course). I was just using those as examples.

katipan
 

That was such a passive aggressive post.

I loved it.

Excellent post. And, yes, I do try to brush my hair at least every other day.:)

Whether it needs it or not. :p

Yes, they do matter. Well, apparently not for beer me's girlfriend, but I'd say that is generally true.

That's the good thing about not washing it too often, either. Eventually, it just stays in one place.

what a load of BS.

sounds like you made him uncomfortable, so he spit out the first thing that came to his mind

Looks matter, but don't you think love is blind sometimes? Case in point, I have this pastor friend, I think he's hot, and so do many others. But his wife? not so much:

Here are the pictures:

Him and her

I've dated more voluptuous girls. This one asked me out I said yes.

And I certainly didn't say or mean luv shoudn't care about what she looks like. I was trying to be encouraging.

I didn't mean to say looks don't matter or you shouldn't try to be your best. That was the furthest thing from my point.

Neither are very asthetically pleasing, but if thats their kid, they make cute babies.

Sorry. I just reacted to the "you've got a good heart" comment. I hear that over and over and over....

I'm not saying that looks are the only thing that matter. I would date someone I was attracted to if he was fine with my looks while I wasn't. I did that last time. My ex was fine with my looks, so I didn't put as much stress on it. Of course, he ended up being full of shit, and I ended up getting lazy in my eating habits. Even if I do start dating someone who was fine with the way I look now, I would still continue to try to lose weight. I learned my lesson last time.

Actually, he's not bad. I'd need to see a picture without the sunglasses on, though.

Unfortunately (and I'm sure unintentionally), you were encouraging her to buy into the excuses that she'd need to take the easier path instead of the path that will lead to greater long term satisfaction. Fortunately she remains strong enough to reject that temptation. Let's all resolve to encourage her to stick to her program.

seriously, he's a lot hotter then that pic, but she is not. And funny you said that, cuz I just said that to my husband the other day!

Not just me. There are a lot of us trying to lose weight on here. I actually think losing weight while single would be easier, unless your spouse/SO were trying to lose as well. Being with someone who could eat whatever and look good would either cause me to commit murder or give in to the tempting food that they'd have around. I do appreciate your encouragement, though, as I'm sure others would.

Yeah, I saw that thread. It was a great idea and Tiny E is very generous for providing the incentive. Good luck to you and all of the others.

My goal was to help her see that the inside matters more than the outside, or at least it should. I was getting the impression from her that she was down on herself simply because she didn't like the way she looked and thought no one else would like her either. If I was wrong in that assumption then my bad. I think (hope) luv understands that and I'm sorry luv if I came off wrong. No harm was meant.

I'm so not standing next to Luv when she's 104.

She's trying to lose 104 lbs not get to 104 lbs. I was fooled by that at first too.

oooooooooooooh.

whew.

Why? It's not like you can be THAT big. I've never really met a big Filipino girl.

5'8" doesn't allow for 104.

heh.

A fun summer and a few 8-balls maybe...

Yeah, at that height she may even have trouble getting to her target weight depending on how she's built, but she has plenty of time to decide when it makes sense to transition to a maintenance lifestyle.

Neither does 5'7". I don't think I'd be able to stand up if I weighed 104. I don't think I'd be strong enough. Heh.

We've discussed this elsewhere, but I'm sure you've probably missed it. Often, self-satisfaction is death for self-improvement. People aren't fat because they're lazy, they're fat because they don't loathe their fat more than they enjoy eating with thinking about it. You have to, at some level, HATE what you've become to change it.

My bookcase it taking night school, does that count?

I do not have a shelf that requires education.

Not even a Lazy Susan in need of a self-help seminar?

ROFL

gawd you people are tall...

I think Luv should try the new approach I'm suggesting.

Tell me with your actions that you're a black hearted wench....but inform them that you've got a magic Vajayjay with so much control that you could milk a cow with it, or inserting the "Boggle" game dice and spit out any word they wish for those intellectuals you desire.


gochiefs...getting ripped like Richard Simmons. Luv working out with Chuck Norris.

I can feel the love, tonight and Elton John isn't in my ipod.

what the deuce?

How the hell do you think asians have been drawing white men to the brown side all these years?

Maybe next you can invent the wheel for us.

THAT explains why all the guys who play ping pong at Katipans sport wood.

I think this is the best post you have ever written on CP. :thumb:

Luv, my advice to you is keep doing what you are doing. Fixing yourself first is the most important thing that anyone can do because if you don't like yourself you will find it hard for others to like you or find you attractive. Self-confidence IMVHO is one of the most important traits for everyone.

This must explain the sudden influx of mail order brides from the Phillipines and China into my community recently.

Word is out now.


I just thought it was because most of the 50somethings ordering them looked like Buda.


And why those ping pong balls smell like Lavender and mahi mahi.

My personality can be a little raw around the edges but my pussy is a helluva speller.

bastoos

Way better than that.

way more bastoos?

VP knocks it out of the park over in DC

I'm off to mentor a mezzanine.

LMAO

That's awesome.

Is that an offer?

no... this thread isnt for me. pics?? just curious

That would be a HELL of an ice breaker at parties.

ROFL

If you're not offering, why are you asking her for pics? Gotta promise to give her something in return.

whoa chill....relax, I said i was just curious. no one has to promise anything

Oh thank God. I have a hard time keeping those.

I was talking pictures in return, silly.

This right here is comedy gold.

http://www.okcupid.com/forum?low=1&t...97838631196585

She's super hot alright!

http://img123.imageshack.us/img123/4...4228041ux1.jpg

LOL this is the dude that ****ed her. She should be so lucky.

http://img508.imageshack.us/img508/5...3646914lf3.jpg

So, you think she's worse than this?

http://chiefsplanet.com/BB/showpost....postcount=1801

There's nothing wrong with her a razor wouldn't fix.

That's right. Get the paper towels and don't forget...down the road not across the street.

Yeesh. What a douche. I feel sorry for her, but I don't see why she went to his house after he was being such a dick.

Internet rules.

What is this, a 1,500-mile booty call?

I think he wants you to meet him half way...