Wait.....does your fiance not know what's going on?

I would stay out of it...but it sounds like you really want to do SOMETHING....so I would go talk to him and tell him that you know....and that he either needs to divorce his wife or cut the shit out.

yes, because I am NOT ABOUT to pick up the phone and actually call someone.

It's alot harder to portray yourself as a sultry intellect when you sound like a an illiterate trucker.

At least, that's my problem.

Dude's and idiot but pick which friend is more important to you and you have your answer.

There you go.

That's okay. We don't love you for your mind. :D

Excellent and to the point...

Stay out of it. Seriously. There is something inherently wrong with their relationship to begin with. It will work itself out eventually, sooner or later. It's best for you not to be in the middle of it.

It sounds like you need to just have his girlfriend over for a 3 way.

I do.

xoxo!

Fraz has always been jealous that I got to confront a real intruder, and all he got was a refrigerator.

LMAO

Good advice FAX.

I'll echo all the people who are advising you to stay out of it, and throw in this wrinkle: I didn't read your other thread, but in this one you said that you and others have heard about his cheating through the grapevine. You need to consider the possibility that you don't know the full story. Maybe the grapevine is wrong, or maybe he was cheating on her at one time but has since ended it (maybe they are in marriage counseling right now and don't want the world to know it), or maybe there are other circumstances involved in their marriage that you aren't privy to. Unless you walked in on him boning someone else, or he told you that he did, you don't really KNOW.

You aren't hiding info from your female friend, you are refusing to meddle in their marriage by passing along gossip about her husband's activities.

And from what I've read in this thread neither the husband nor the wife are among your closest lifelong friends ... neither are so close to you that you consider them akin to family. So IMHO you don't have any "obligation" to serve as an antenna for either of them.

Damn dude, shit or get off the pot already.

As everyone has already said in this thread and the previous one, you should probably stay out of it unless you are prepared for the potential consequences that could come out of it. It's unlikely the girl is going to thank you, and there's a good chance she already knows or has an idea.

Not sure if I mentioned it in the previous thread, but I encountered a similar situation a couple years ago. I saw the boyfriend of my fiancee's best friend getting down with a girl at a party during alumni week at our college (grinding, kissing, etc). We were partying at my old fraternity house, and he "myseriously" disappeared for a few hours and this girl was also nowhere to be found. About 3 AM he strolled back in the house acting like nothing happened. He's one of those guys that lies about everything anyways so I didn't even bother trying to question him, just gave him kind of an "i know" look.

Anyways, my fiancee and the dude's GF were out partying with the girls that night and they came by the house to pick us both up at around 4 AM. That night I told my fiancee about what happened, and after a long discussion she decided that she should tell her friend. Well, the girl did not take it well at all, and basically told my fiancee to mind her own business. My girl backed off, and today her friend and the loser BF are married and seem to be doing okay.

The point is that you need to understand that different people will take this type of news in different ways, and some will react negatively if they are insecure and lack self esteem. Give careful consideration to whether giving your friend this info is worth potentially losing a friendship.

I don't understand the "stay out" arguments. Why? Just because it's the path of least resistance?

I would be so incredibly angry with any so-called friend who was covering for my cheating spouse. You're just as bad as they are, because you're complicit in the deception. You are participating in it and helping make the day of reckoning that much more painful down the road.

At the very least someone doing that would get 5 across the eyes the next time I saw him.