If you wed and have children she would turn them against your family. That would not be good. It would be a source of great frustration to everyone. She needs to grow up and stop the petty behavior.

This is actually an even better post from Frazod, but he is nailing it here. She's a great liar. Yuuuuuuuuuck.

Yup that's why I would use this bit of info he's discovered to try and get a read on a tell she might have. This way you can identify if she is lying about anything else.

Yeah, I'd just dump her. Red flags are up. But hey, different strokes, for different folks.

My wife and I have an open relationship. :eek: Not like that, freaks. We don't delete emails, or texts and have each others passwords to everything. I don't know if my wife checks my shit, and she doesn't know if I check hers. Because we have nothing to hide from each other.

How did that come about you ask? We've asked each other to pull something up for us at one time or another, and given each other our passwords. We have nothing to hide. And frankly, I thought that was perfectly normal. You guys are making me think it may not be. I don't care. We've been together for 10 years, without kids, so nothing is "keeping" us together. We love each other. That said, it didn't start until a couple of years into our marriage, so we'd been together for 4-5 years. I'm sure that's part of it.

As Mr. Fax said, there are times it would be much easier if we could just lie to one another, but our relationship doesn't work that way. It's called life. It's a roller coaster. Hold on tight.

Oh I definitely have a girl that I can completely trust, but she is very talented at lying. But, who am I kidding? I am very good at it too. I don't have anything to hide and neither does she. Like you, we have passwords to each other's things and that stuff.

But in reference as to why I wouldn't dump her, I guess, since I am profound liar I have a morbid curiosity when I am being lied to, I enjoy seeing how far the rabbit hole goes. Plus it could all just turn out that this is the only thing she is lying about and it could be worked out.

You bring up a great point. I am a great liar, my wife is not. She's ****ing horrible at it. I have a God given gift of being able to read body language, eye movement, and whatnot. So, I also am interested by that. I work in sales, where I give a sales presentation daily. I see people lying to me all the time. It's also a lot of fun to play around with those lies, and call them out while still getting someone to spend 20k with me. It's better than poker. Really, it's liar's poker. :)

Outside of the fact that we have a couple of kids, my wife and I are just like you.

As for the OP, you are in a catch 22. Reading those text messages is a trust issue. On the other hand, there are 3 things that couples fight about at a fundamental level and one of those is family.

If she REALLY hates your family THAT much, I am afraid there isn't much of a chance she will ever be truly happy.

My advice, and I realize I am being brutally honest here, is that you guys aren't meant to be together. I would ditch her.

Break her heart. Tell her she is a worthless piece of shit and you've been ****ing other bitches because she is such a ****. But do it slowly start treating her like ass. ****ing slap the bitch around a little(it will improve the sex life) they love it. Start flirting with her friends maybe work in a threesome. Take her off the deep end and leave her to rot.


But you need to quit reading other people's shit.

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LMAO

Treat her like every other bitch has treated you. This is your chance to drive the field and score. Don't **** it up, Cassel.

Tough call considering she'll probably go right to the "I can't believe you went through my texts!" defensive thing cause she's embarassed and busted...

That said....hell yea confront her, that's bullshit.

YOU CAN'T BEAT THE BITCH AT HER OWN GAME IF YOU DON'T TAKE THE FIELD.


Now get out there and win one for...

Agreed.

Ah...brutal honesty...that's why I love this place!

These guys nailed it. You should tell her immediately so she'll know exactly what kind of jackass she is engaged to. She needs to know.

Bang her - then confront her.

If she's not insane she won't put up with your invasion of privacy, but it's a conversation you need to have nonetheless.