All I was saying is that I just think it's stupid for someone to think it will solve all their problems, like all of a sudden they'll feel 100% better. Maybe initially, but in the long run, it's that other stuff that means more.

Well, I'm off to go to the doctor to have this lump in my armpit checked out. I'll catch you guys on the flip side.

Whoa. I must have really given the wrong impression. Working out will not solve all of my problems. It will, though, help me lose weight. Let's not take it to an extreme.

You're posts don't always come off this way though, right? Or am I just reading too much into things?

As for Jilly's other questions:

Are you doing what you love to do work wise? No. I've yet to encounter something I love to do. And I really hate working, too. The whole concept of it. But you gotta keep a roof over your head.

Are you doing things you are passionate about? No, similar to work that I love, I've never come across anything that I feel anything about, much less passion.

Do you value your mind and do you do things to stimulate it? Yes.

Are you laughing and smiling? Yes.


I'm hoping that writing becomes that 'work that I love'/'thing that I'm passionate about', but right now it's an exercise in resistance. It's very hard, and I tend to migrate towards the path of least resistance. So it's going to be a long, hard fight against myself and my tendencies. And the reality is it's something that I dreamed about/thought about/talked about for a ****ing DECADE, so the odds of it actually going anywhere are slim.

G'luck.

Well, in many, many instances I think the extra weight is a sign of deeper-seeded problems. It's a result, not the root. But I also think taking the time and effort to work on it is a sign that those issues are being dealt with, as well.

I don't think you're reading too much.

I would say those first two issues lead to the majority of people's dissatisfaction with life. So many people have just gotten stuck in their job without any hope of getting out. Part of me thinks this lay off thing for some folks might be a good thing for the world, because it might just help people start doing what they feel good doing. I guarantee EVERYONE has a passion for something and if you can get that passion to correlate to your job, that's happiness right there.

I think that working out, etc, is great, but that one's probably the easiest of the goals to realize. I think the others take way more strength, creativity and courage.

I think that depends on the person. There's a lot of chubby folks who are crazy successful in the world of business. What's easy for one may not be for another.

Anyway, let's say it is the easiest for the sake of argument, that's no reason not to do it or to feel going about doing it. Maybe it's the first step on a bigger journey.

As for me, my philosophy on work is the same as it is with relationships. Sometimes you have to acquiesce to reality. I'm not going to find any new passion at this point in my life. In no small part because I'm not a passionate person. I'm just not. I'm about as apathetic as you can be while still having a heartbeat. Beyond that, I made (or didn't make) decisions in my 20s that set the course for the rest of my life. That's just the way it is; I don't get to climb into a wayback machine for a do-over. But what I can do is make the best life out of what I have. And that's exactly what I'm doing.

I think that's a silly excuse to just not try, keg. I'm sorry that that's harsh, but it seems like that is such a cop out. There's no reason why your reality can't change...and the passion thing, I am sure it's because you either have not recognized what it is yet or haven't encountered it yet. I refuse to believe that you have to "make the best life out of what you have"....a true optimist would tell you that there's way more there you haven't discovered or you'd be clawing your way out of the mundane to get another glimpse of it. Don't let life make you succumb to mediocrity.

I'd agree with you if I were 15 years younger and knew what I know now. 20 year olds should have blind optimism; there's opportunity for them everywhere. I'm a long way past that point now, however. I have to navigate the path I put myself on.

...

It's not about what I'm worth. With relationships, it's about not being interested in worn-out 40-year old divorcees with gaggles of kids. And work-wise, while I don't 'love' what I do, I'm competent, and it's the perfect job in that I get a lot of time off. Wish I made more money, but, hey, who doesn't. I get by, no complaints.

I'm not luv, in any case. While I do see myself as a 2 or a 3 on the looks chart, maybe a 4 if the poor old girl left her thick glasses at home, I also realize that doesn't matter a whole lot in the overall scheme of things. I have other qualities.

Just wish I'd realized that when the options were more...palatable. Like I said, if I was 15 years younger and know what I do now. It's just a waste of time at this point.

just spill it all buddy

At least you're honest with yourself.

That's crazy. No one should have to use the phrase, "I get by, no complaints." don't you think you deserve or more importantly, WANT, more out of life then this?

Nah, I'm happy with what I have.

I'm a bit of a strange duck, though. I'm basically Peter Gibbons - my dream in life would be to do nothing. And I don't really need much. Computer for gaming/work/'net, as many books as I can get my hands on, a TV, an MP3 player with audiobooks. Food. Lots of food. Someplace nice to walk/jog outdoors.

That's about it.

You are a complete idiot.

Complete

Idiot

Do you not have any idea how young 35 is? Reverse those two numbers then come talk to me. God! youth is completely wasted on the young...

I'm having more fun in my life right now than ever. Life is wonderful and completely full of joy. Relationships, financial your best days aren't even close to getting here yet

35 is certainly young, but that doesn't change the fact that I don't find the great majority of real world 35-year old women attractive, and it only gets worse the further north the number goes. But hey, maybe I will when I'm 50, assuming I live that long.

To each his own.

Hell I'm going to play flag football with the 20 year olds for 3 hours on Sat and 3 hrs on Sun. Its all your state of mind.

Damn dude there are some seriously attractive gals in their 40s. You can get a 30 year old never married and have a family you are in your prime time my friend.

Yes, I'm sure college campuses are just bursting at the seams with 20-year olds looking for guys my age.

Well, okay, if I was in a tax bracket about 1000 times my current one, but let's be realistic here.

women seriously do love older guys.

(they don't have to know you are poor until its too late :evil: )

time and location, please?

I don't have any interest in a family.

And a 30 year old never married? They don't generally make it that far. We're talking female clayton territory there.

Luv's going to murderize me shortly for saying that.

When did I ever say looks are all that mattered? I have a ton to offer. Do you people mind if I work on the package it's in? Geez.

That's basically only true here in the buckle of the friggin' bible belt.

That doesn't exactly help my obvious self-esteem issues though.

A female clayton is just what you need.

Its stickied on the front page. Shawnee Mission South Sat and Sun...

Oh, you didn't say that, but I think it's safe to say that you are concerned with your looks. Whereas I know I'm not much to look at, and losing all the weight in the world isn't going to change that a bit. And that's fine, doesn't really bother me at all. People either take me as I am or they don't, it's not something I've ever lost any sleep over, and it's not why I've chosen to be single.Yeah, I tried to come up with a more sensitive way of saying that. Thought throwing in some humor might dampen the blow a little. Sorry. It was a general statment, not one directed at you specifically.

oh, I thought you meant flag football with a group of hot 20 year old women, maybe on a college campus somewhere, followed by jello-shots and a lingerie pillow fight. nevermind.

To poop on!

Eh, I shouldn't post when I'm not in a good mood. I don't take things as lightly as I would otherwise.

Don't sweat it, I probably shouldn't have posted it, with what-all you went through today. There's a reason I'm not known for my tact.

No biggy. Seriously.

I'm guessing none of the information I've taken in today is a big deal. I mean that thread is entertaining now that it's all about strip clubs and pole dancers, right?

Some people are into scat.

Luv, I never said it wasn't a big deal, I was just trying to let you know it's manageable and it's way better then some of the alternatives. And I never meant to assume you a prude, but you have self claimed yourself to be somewhat "sheltered". I'm sorry if I've managed to hurt your feelings. I really am.

Some people deal with serious issues by interjecting humor. I'm one of those people. Don't mind me.

as am I, but you better mind me, damn it, if you know what's good for you....

It's just a mood. I'm just gonna finish up my work, and run some errands. Normally, shit like this rolls off my back. I had to come back here directly after my appointment, and, besides wikipedia, I haven't had a chance to research anything. What I have read really seems to describe me, and I just haven't had time to decipher what it all means to me. I'll feel better once I get outta here. No biggy, really.

When I was 14, I hoped that one day I would have a girlfriend.

When I was 16 I got a girlfriend, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life.

In college I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide. So I decided I needed a girl with stability.

When I was 25 I found a very stable girl but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided that I needed a girl with some excitement.

When I was 28 I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad impetuous things and made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless. So I decided to find a girl with some real ambition.

When I turned 31, I found a smart ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned.

I am older and wiser now, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

Just goes to show you that most women are good in limited doses outside of burying her face in a stack of pillows and getting a little stink on the old hang low.

What kind of shit have you started now?

I found one!

http://img4.imageshack.us/img4/1778/0001052gmcc.jpg

Though she has no ass. But no one is perfect I guess.

I'm meeting her tomorrow.

Remember, always keep a raincoat handy, in case things gets wet.

I suggest missionary then... :)

IT'S ON

LIKE DONKEY DONG

Picture of "ur slut"?

I gave up drama for Lent, apparently I need to go to confession already.

I was just sure you would get a perfect one.

Watch out for that shit, she sounds like a plant being paid by the site to keep the members interested. When the moment of truth comes along she'll flake out.

lol she disappeared...I think the slave just wanted some amusing emails

I am just going putting people on notice that I am going to beat up clayton

Awesome. I'll sell tickets.

I had 3 or 4 dates this morning. I sliced them up and put them in my oatmeal, along with raisins.

Dates are okay, but I hate raisins.

why?

You could make a killing if it was a pay-per-view event...

Just saying

I like raisins fine.

My biggest problem right now seems to be grapes. Not that I don't like grapes, but I always buy them and then don't eat them. Apparently I'm too lazy to wash the little ****ers.

I'm the opposite. I buy grapes, and I can eat them all in one night if I'm not careful.

I'm already selling tickets. You are not getting a cut.

I do that, as well. If they can make it from the refrigerator into the strainer and get themselves washed.

I highly doubt Demonpants could beat me up. He's sort of flabby.

Something tells me it wouldn't take a brock lesnar physique to put you on the ground.

:cuss:

ROFL

Fighting isn't about size as much as it is knowing how to fight. All he has to do is get you down to the ground, Mr I-don't-want some-dudes-balls-in-my-face.

Something tells me it wouldn't take a Kelly Ripa physique to put you on the ground.

If I were keg, I'd just let her.

Or if he's a grappler, " I don't want my balls in my face"

oh yeah
 

these are coming for you clayton. St Joe style beating. I will make you eat my racing shirt

No shit.

She can put me in a head scissors anytime.

I expected more definition in your forearms.

i drink heavily

My money's on penz.

bring it biatch the pain train from shit stain is running off the tracks

http://img5.imageshack.us/img5/6164/...7227181108.jpg

So you focus more on the 12 ounce curls than the palm up 6 inch seated curl.