You need to put a t-shirt on the guy in your avitar that says "My wife went to NY and all I got was this lousy shirt."

Don't sweat it Ioweenie. Most of us understand that your jealous tyrannical hold over your wife is just one of many side effects of short man syndrome. :p

ROFL Yeah... that's a good story...

That right there is fugged up.

I still say, that should she decline to go, that it would be nice if he would give her the money that he would be saving by her not going. But then again, it's a Christmas present. It's like if someone was giving you a Rolex. Would you say, "No. My Timex is good enough, but could you give me that cash you paid for it instead?"

Frankly, I don't see how the boss can stop you from going to NY with your wife if you so choose. It's a free country.

I really don't see how the boss can justify him and his partner taking their families and not allowing the employees to bring theirs (at their own expense).

In my opinion, let your wife make the decision. If she wants to go, encourage it and tell her to have a good time. A free trip to NY doesn't come along very often. I also don't see any reason she couldn't ask the boss if you could join them and pay your own way. But there may be some reason she's uncomfortable with that.

(Song from a movie..) "WE MUST KILL THE LADIES MAN!!!!!!!!"

Sounds like this orthodoc is looking for an ass kickin'. Not once have I ever hear of any employer doing this for his staff. Look at it this way, if there wasa guy on the staff do you think he would do the same for him, I doubt it. Or you can look at it this way. If you had a female boss who wanted to take you across the country like that, all expenses paid, would your wife approve of that? She would probably say yes that she would just to make her case sound more reasonable. If it was my wife, I would be pissed as hell. Who the hell does that anyway?

Actually, I don't think they're married to each other.

I have obviously spent a good amount of time thinking over this.

1. I do completely and utterly trust my wife. There is nothing in my mind trust wise about all of this.
2. The other Married women in the group, frankly are mainly complete and utter b*tches and frankly, some of them WOULD cheat on their husbands... so naturally, they said No to the question too...
3. My wife's mother also works in the office so she would be going too, plus - my wife wouldnt have to hang around with the skanks (her mom and her are more like sisters in their relationship), minus - one less babysitter while I am at work.
4. While I dont really personally care for either of the doctors (their both a little on the feminine side if you ask me), they overall are decent guys and I do not think that there was any motive one way or another.
5. Trust me, there is no way to build comeroderie in this bunch of women.

So what have I decided to do?

Frakin take a gun and shoot the doctor! just kidding of course...

I told her that she has to make the choice. I honestly am not happy now either way she chooses, and she knows this,

• If she goes: Then I have to deal with everything for that time as previously mentioned. Not right.
• If she stays: Then whether or not she holds it against (though I am sure she would), I would automatically feel guilty, even if she didnt hold it against me.

So either way, it sucks for me. I am tired of having to deal with this so there will be no more discussion with her about it, she knows where I stand... and the issue is not whether she goes or not, the issue with me is that if it were me, I would not WANT to go without her. Shes already proved to me that she does not feel the same way and the damage has been done. Does this mean we are doomed, no, not at all. She however needs to reassess things and in my opinion, figure out whats important in life.

What she doesnt know, and I will not tell her until her choice is already made and committed to, is that part of my company bonus would involve a trip.

As I said, I run a family business with my father and mother. The three of us have been wanting to do something really nice for our top level employees. So part of their bonus would be a really nice cruise for them and their spouse (we pay for the spouse too... because to us, the spouse has to deal with their wife/husband's work as well).

This cruise is an Extra to the bonus that they would have received. So my main store manager will get something like $3,000 plus the Cruise.

My mother though will be giving them the option of the Cruise, or the Cash Value of the Cruise.

So my wife does not know anything about this. If she goes, then I will NOT be taking the Cruise. Instead, I will be taking the Cash Value and using it towards a new Big Screen TV for me.

I am obviously not telling her about this because it would obviously effect her choice.

Lastly,

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ROFL

Oh STFU, quit your bitchin, let her go to NY. Buck up, hire a sitter and or temp. nanny to help you when you need it. And quit complicating the issue.





How was that ?:)

Spoken like a try chump.

The 3 married workers need to have a private talk with the Doctor. Spouses allowed, even if they pay their own way.

The fact the singles are running the show seem odd...

Is this Dr. spineless???

My wife worked for a Orthodontist, she was tight wod from Turkey. Lunches out once in a while, Christmas gifts that's it.

But has plenty of money for $500K house in Town & Country, BMW etc.

Her practice is just getting off the ground.