The people that are saying "invaded her privacy":
How long have you been married? :D |
My question is, why are you going to marry someone who you have to snoop on?
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just talk crap on hers.
jk It does seem you have major trust issues though. reading other people's text msgs is what chicks do |
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I wouldnt stand for it for one second, it would all have to be laid out on the table no matter what.
If she wants to try and make her privacy a bigger issue than the hateful drubbing she gave your family, well, i'd be thinking twice about where its all going. |
Yes, you have to talk to her or it'll fester and get worse. It doesn't need to be an argument, but if that's where she takes it, so be it. But like affairs where so many people want to make it about the sex (which is totally irrelevant in the grand scheme of things), keep this about what might be the bigger issue - her inability to talk to you. Nobody's perfect, so you're mother may not be a 5-StarChef, but I'll bet she is... Being critical of others isn't ever a good idea, but letting it extend to the family of the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, and whose family is prolly part of the package, is scary.
Sorry to say it, but what you're seeing here might just be the oil and water that you two are. IOW, it might not be the family at all really.. Oh, and if invading their privacy to find out the truth is the only way, so be it. Just be ready for that to be the focal point of the conversation, not her dislike of your family, it's an easy out for her. Deflection of the truth, it's a common tactic... Maybe she knew you would snoop, and decided this is just a simpler way to tell you.. ??? |
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Tell her that her sister/cousin tried to blow you. That should get the focus off of your family :evil:
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I do agree w/ talking to her about it before you're married.
breaking it off now (if it came to that, hopefully not) would be much less aggrevating on you and her...than it would had you gotten hitched and then address the issue. |
Just get the Bitch a Belcher for Christmas.
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If you actually like your family and want to have a good relationship with them, then it's a dealbreaker for me because that rift is just going to get worse as time goes on and it causes all sorts of problems for your marriage. I can't imagine being married to someone who didn't get along well with my family, especially my mom. Thankfully I'm blessed to have a wife who actually does a better job of maintaining our relationship with my family than I do.
If you don't really give a shit about your family and the relationship you have with them in the future, then don't worry about it. That being said: shame on you for going through her texts. |
If you do decide to approach her about the unkind texts then starting off by telling her you understand your actions of snooping isn't appropriate and explain why you felt you need to.
This won't make it any easier, but it may allow you then to bring up the bigger issue. Her feelings for your family. Good luck this could very well test your relationship. If you have to snoop around and she has to lie then there are apparently deeper issues going on. |
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