Feeling Down Today
 

It looks as though I'm on the verge of falling out with a close irl edit*(in real life) friend that I have had for 7 years. I can't really go into specifics, but mixing work with friendship (even when it happens naturally) is a difficult balance.

I'm pretty down about it. Does anyone have experience with this type of thing and want to share? I could truly use some perspective here.

Also feel free to use this thread to post gifs or anything funny - or not, it could also be a roast of all things Chiefspants.

inb4 - "Chiefspants has irl friends?!", "Who is Chiefspants?" and "A concoction of antifreeze will ease the pain."

Thanks, everybody.

Masturbation should cheer you up.

I don't know how old you are, but family is the only thing that is a lifetime commitment. Everything else comes and goes.

I'm on the early side of 24.

(You weren't in before)

PIIHB

This could salvage your friendship.

I've avoided going into business with close friends for just this reason. I've always tried to keep my professional and personal lives as separate as possible.

It's a lesson I'm definitely going to heed in the future. It was hard to evaluate those kinds of risks since the business venture started when I was around 18.

My dad taught me early on to never go into business with friends.

Of course, I didn't listen and went in on a musical item with a friend at age 15, which turned into a disaster and pretty much led to us having a falling out that lasted decades.

I learned my lesson the hard way, as most of us tend to do in life.

Good luck, man, and hopefully, it won't be decades before you reconnect.

I'm sure you'll be able to find someone else to run the weed eater while you run the lawn mower.

with a close irl friend

Please explain to an old guy-what this means? I am not hip to you young whipper snappers jive.

I can't offer bad advice until I have all the facts.

Absolutely. It means a friend "in real life". Making this friend distinctive from someone I may know only on say, Reddit or Chiefsplanet. I'll edit the original post.

people grow apart...for whatever reason

I've lost friends i thought I'd have forever.

...it sucks, but let it go.

don't let it become a regret by wasting time on lamenting and hanging on.

Okay -gotcha- as opposed to an internet girlfriend you talk dirty to-that turns out to be a dude. :D

Well as an "old school" guy- if you are my true friend-i will give the shirt off my back. And I have.

But things are Much different now-friendship does not mean the same. I have learned that the hard way- as I have grown old and watched my friends-close as brothers only think of themselves. Just recently asking friends and family to help me stop the abuse of my grandson-I was ignored. 40 year friends-acted like I was some beggar with my shine box.

I don't think it is just a generation thing either. I think it is acceptable now days to be selfish and turn your back on anything that does not instantly appease your inner child.

What was the your question again? :) I am sure that does not help at all. See what I did there-ignored your problem and made it all about myself and my pity party.

Here is what you need to do, and it is a bitch. Rain falls on the just and unjust alike. So shit falls apart for everyone. You are not alone so don't blow this up to be something that it isn't. The sun will rise tomorrow and you will get past it. Your battle in life is 100 percent mental. If you can cope with your brain or come to realize that everything out in the world is just bullshit and the real game is how to look at situations, then you are on your way to getting past this shit. Evaluate why you feel bad or down. Does this hurt your money, does this hurt your social status? Oh ****ing well that shit will come back and leave again, what stays is your character or integrity. So get out a piece of paper and have a plan and start working that plan until all this is behind you. If you **** up on your plan try to get back on course quickly and know that most people just do dumb shit all their lives then get aids and die. Thanks for the rep and you can paypal me money at any point.