Signs of attraction
 

Below is MSNBC's article about how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.asp...44657&GT1=6428

Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you
By Matt Christensen

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be. More than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out
What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips
What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair
What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Chase Massingill, of Queens, NY, says the hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you
What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Now that you know how to decode body language, get out there and use this info to approach the women who are interested in you… and not bother with those who aren’t.

Matt Christensen has written for Maxim and The Cleveland Plain Dealer.


So, just for the women, maybe we chiefsplanet guys can write the other side of the article. What are some signs that women can read about you that signals that you might be attracted to them.

I'll start.

1. We keep adjusting our pants.

2. We take off our pants.

3. We sit behind a table and don't stand up.

4. We try to lick your lips.

it's always going good if the girl doesn't mace me

ROFL That pepper spray's a bitch, aint it! ROFL

Clue #5: If a woman invites herself into your hotel room and asks you if you have a girlfriend, there's a good chance she's interested. :banghead:

Bob Dole supposes all the anti-smoking sentiment is the reason they left out the "if she touches your hand when you light her cigarette" indicator.

We talk to your chest and never make eye contact.

If she aimed it somewhere other than directly in my eyes, I always read that to mean that I still had a chance.

I like it when the bottom of her feet are facing me.

Another sign that a guy is attracted to a woman: He tries to get her drunk.

It's usually an even better sign when they're facing the ceiling.

I'm so out of practice, I wouldn't have a clue if some gal was hitting on me.

She's not.

That's all well and good, but how can you tell if a pidgeon toed gal likes you?

Heh. The wife and I were at a party last weekend, and I was having a friendly chat with a gal. I honestly don't even recall if she was attractive or not. But, the hostess (my wife's friend who was nearby) apparently didn't like where this gal was going. I, of course, was completely oblivious.

She went and got my wife who, to my surprise, quite succinctly informed the gal that I was married and not available.

I felt like a piece of meat.

When you're driving by slow and they walk out to the street and ask you if you want to party, that usually means they like you.

Hell, even I can interpret a good Donger squeeze as, "Hi. I'm attracted to you."

Is this still a good sign when it's due to rigamortus?

number 3 is a lie.....my damn hair is long and gets in my way all the time. I am constantly tossing and flipping it and it doesn't mean I have the hots for the bag boy at the store.:rolleyes:

Atleast that is what you say to us on the board.



:p :hmmm:

"When she mentions how attractive her ankles would look on your shoulders, that's a pretty positive sign."

try not to make direct eye contact with the bag boy while flipping your hair, cause that would mean you want him, you may glance if you can't help it, but don't hold eye contact, that is a true sign of interest.

And about number 2.......what if she just wanted to lick her lips?:)

Back when I was single, I used to consider it a sign that she was attracted to me if she offered a discount.

If you licked your lips while making eye contact the same applies

What if you lick your hair while making eye contact?

I make eye contact with everyone......the eyes are the window to the soul. Making eye contact with someone does not mean you want to screw them.....Do you not make eye contact with guys at all badgirl?

of course when I'm talking to them, but I'm not running my hands through my hair and licking my lips when I do it, that would give the wrong impression even if you didn't want them, men thinks with their dicks and if you were looking a guy in the eyes while licking your lips, you may not be thinking anything, but he probably is.

Well I'll edit this, if your attractive he probably is thinking something, if your a dog, he's probably not thinking anything, or wishing you'd stop.

I like it when the bottom of her feet are facing the ceiling...or the bottom of her chin is resting on deez nuts.

ROFL

Hey. bad girl and chiefs4me. Instead of arguing what's NOT a sign of attraction, kindly stick to the topic and tell us what is it you women do that IS a sign we men should be looking for!

- 4th
*putting the train back on the tracks*

Truthfully, he probably is anyway.

I always just made eye contact, if you hold eye contact long enough and give them the right look, they will know what you want.

:p

When I'm at a bar and shooting pool. If I see a gal looking at me and I'm waiting for my turn to shoot pool. I'll hold the pool cue upright and stroke the cue up and down and smile at the girl. If she returns a smile, all is well I'll be going home with her.

Well, it's better than sticking your foot out....

Maybe you are just a subconscous slut. :p

Maybe I should strike the word "maybe" from my last post. :eek:

But what if they think your making eye contact, when really they have somthing on their face that you cant stop looking at, what do you do then. They may think you want somthing that you rally dont!! :banghead:

I think the rule is that if you exhibit more than one of the signs of attraction or if you exhibit one sign for an extended period, then it doesn't matter what your intention was, you have to put out anyway. Don't blame me, I'm not the one who makes the rules.

well that would be a different kind of look, your eyes will tell a man what you want and if they have a half a brain they will be able to pick up on it in no time. :p

That's why girls don't go out alone. When we see a guy that catches our attention, we can turn to our friend and make sure we don't have anything on our face or in our teeth.

Another sign I would say is when a woman "breaks free" from the group of girlfriends that she's with. At least that's what I do, I'm under the impression a guy will approach you if you're not surrounded. Don't take my word for it though ladies, cuz when I do that, the guy usually comes up and asks me if my friend is available. lol

Well, by golly you should be.

Bleh, every time I make eye contact with a gal, they think I'm a stalker and look away.

That's when I usually send a note over with the waitress saying, "Hi, wanna go to my place and play with my chainsaw?"

A lot of guys want to come up and talk to you when your with your friends I think, to try to impress the whole table, I guess a guy figures, well if I can't get the one I want, maybe I can get one of her friends.

Who Knows????? :)

If a guy tries to make eye contact with me and I'm not interested I will not look at them or even in the direction they are in, sometimes that don't work, the next thing you feel is a tap on the shoulder and being asked for a dance, a lot of men I have met in bars feel like if you dance with them, they can take over the rest of the night and sit at your table and act like your with them, :banghead: this always pissed me off and I have had to get really rude to get them to leave me alone.

Well, since all women are at the very least closet lesbians, said fella is looking for a lesbo gangbang.

I thought you females knew this.

I love chainsaws.......:p

Can't tell you what to look for.....when I was dating and out and about. If I saw someone I wanted I just told them so.;)

Here's what...

The different "tells" are different for each type of girl. And there are several types...

Rating: How hot she is from 1-10
Self Consciousness: How she sees herself from 1-10

Most women fit into a 7/5 kinda mold. They are really about a 7. (average bell curve tops at 7) They see themselves as fives. So, they don't give off as many overt signals. They usually aren't any better then guys when it comes to flirting or being flirted with.

Then there are the 5/7 girls. These girls are often psycho. They really look worse than average, but they can't wait until they can bag some guy at a bar or randomly make out with someone to keep their "7" or "8" mentality. They have a TON of overt signals that actually might include humping your leg.

Then there are the 9/7 girls. These are the types that you want. They are ultra hot, but honestly believe that they are about average. These are the ones that, when they are interested give off the "signs" but they don't know they are doing it. They are subconsciously trying to "UP" their number because they think they are just 7s, and the extra primping is going to fool you or give them that little bit of extra something. They are rarely ever nervous when guys approach them. In fact, they get approached all the time. They will almost always have boyfriends though, and if you give them a compliment, you will get right into "lets be friends" land. What's odd is that if you wanna score points with this girl, you have to make her feel like a 7. EVERYBODY tells them they are a 9-10. But they believe they are a 7. A lot of guys think that making them feel like they are a 7 is being mean to them. But it's not, it's just being on THIER side.

THE 10/9s and 9/10s are very rare. These girls are often in the extremes. Some of them play so many games that you can't keep up. Others just know what they want and go get it without any games at all. Like Madonna, she just calls a guy and says "I want to meet you."

Hey....it worked.

You're welcome to come over, any time....

No way am I coming to that frozen tundra....you will have to come to Texas.:p So how's the dog situation, give me an update?

It sucks that I came across this post after I already retired from the singles life. You should write a book. This stuff is crafty.

So you're saying Madonna's a 9 or a 10? No fuggin way.

I don't think so either.

I'd hit it.

Frozen tundra? :shake: No way is this the frozen tundra, it doesn't even get below zero but on rare ocassions around here. As a matter of fact, we have more sunny days than you.... :p

Anyways, my roomie and I got the dog thing all worked out. We talked about it, and he felt terrible. Even gave me some money! He had no idea how much "work" I was putting in with the dogs. He knew he was being lazy, but he failed to see the irresponsibility on his part. He still hasn't changed, but at least he sees where I'm coming from and was apologetic....we had a few beers and all is good.

She's not MY type personally, but in her prime, she was one of the most desired women on the planet. The point was that she KNEW it and BELIEVED it. You hear that all the time. "She knows she hot." And often that's true. But even more often, they'll know it, but not truely believe it. The logical way to combat that, is to tell them that they are beautiful (the truth), and men tend to solve thier problems with logic. (even though it might be flawed logic most of the time). So, that's what guys do. They find a girl who they think is hot, and they compliment them. But it backfires nearly every time. That's because while they know that that they are hot, they don't believe it. They will think that:

1. You're lying to them.
2. You're telling the truth, but your stupid.
3. You're a loser who thinks that all girls are hot.

Think about it. All day, they get hit on. They go get the mail, "hey pretty girl." But deep down, they think it's all a sham. So, all day they are surrounded by guys who desire them, but they don't desire. They must all be losers. So, when they get to the bar/club/whatever, and some guy hits on them they associate THAT guy with all those losers. What a lot of guys think is that they have to be mean to the girl (tell her ass looks big in those pants) in order to seperate themselves from the losers and get attention from these girls. They call this "negative hitting" or "negs." The truth is, you just have to treat these girls as they see themselves while still showing interest. You have to make them feel like they are connected with you and you are not a loser.

These girls don't want to be told that they're beautiful until after the relationship starts, and even then, sparingly... Don't try to convince them, they already KNOW that they are just a 7.

glad the doggy problem is worked out. And no way am I ever going back to zero...when it drops below 50 here I am freezing......:)

short attention span = short dating life with the women.

:D

But, it's true...

Not exactly true. If you look at Madonna's earlier pictures BEFORE she became a household name, you will see an average looking Midwestern girl. What Madonna did have was a super inflated ego. She wanted to be bigger than Marilyn Monroe and in the beginning emulated that Marilyn persona to a Tee...and then she became hot.

No, I believe it is because you are so darned ugly.

I've always thought if a woman is interested in a man she will let him know it. I know this for a fact because it happened to me once about 40 years ago.

But then there are those relationships where you know each other for years and the "feelings" start creeping up on you and blindsides you before you know what happened. Those are my favorite.

If they could all be like this, then that would be awesome. But, unfortunately, most women fear these relationships because they tend to hurt more than the rest when they go sour. Also, it's hard to get most people to switch gears about attraction.

1. Think of a guy/girl that you are attracted to.

2. Now think of a guy/girl that you are indifferent to.

3. Now think ofa guy/girl that you are NOT attracted to.

Think about them again, and recognize in yourself the different feelings you get. Try to imagine what that guy or girl in #1 did to give you those feelings. Can you imagine a world or set of circumstances where the guy or girl in #2 could make you feel the same way? How much more would the guy or girl in #3 have to do? Is it even possible?


Awesome thread BTW... I'm going to start giving out some rep...

I have news for you- those weren't "feelings" They were baseball bats.

Aren't you a little old for bar hopping?

No, I think you might have attention defic OH hey, let's go get drunk.

Don't you have little Star Wars figurines to go play with?

The actual "1-10" scale is a slading scale. For some people, Madonna is a 10. For me, she's more like a 7. Either way, she believes she is a 10. That's why she goes after what she wants. My point was, with this type of girl, you don't hurt yourself by calling her beautiful. It's just like agreeing with her. Just like if she said, "hey this shirt is green," and you said "Yes it is." Only it's about her looks.

With most hot girls, this isn't how it works. (see below).

Don't avoid the question.... :D

Obviously I am screwed.

If you're getting screwed, then I need to rethink my strategy... :)

And I suppose you aren't avoiding your question?

Well, if you must know Sherlock- I don't "bar-hop" anymore. "Bar-hopping" is for twenty-somethings before they get married. I DO however go to a bar a couple of times a week, if not more- but, I do so 'cause I'm still single and more importantly 'cause I happen to shoot in a pool league two nights a week. I also play in a softball league, and we hit a bar afterwards.

Now, do you care to explain your GI Joe set to us?

He's old, but he's very, very immature. It averages out to barhopping age.

I see...that would explain it then.

I don't play with action figures.

This can be easily simplified.

Treat the Hoooor like a Q
and the Q like a hooooor

and your batting average will be around .350 with a great slugging percentage if you don't have a lazy eye or hump on your back.

You know what I mean. I'm like the Kawika Mitchell of the dating game...no instincts.

ROFL

He's got me pegged right.

A Q?

It's not instincts you need, it's BALLS.

All this from the guy that never hit the chick in his LAST avatar...




:p

He keeps them in the original box..they're too valuable. :D