To date the bosses daughter or to not....
 

That is the question. Here's the sit rep.

My boss (who also happens to own the company I work for), took me to Mazatlan, Mexico with his daughter and girlfriend last week. The daughter is 24 years old, I'm 39. The rooms were double occupancy so she and I shared a room for the week. By the second night, we became inseparable. And by night 3 we were firmly in the grasps of falling in love in the Mexican oasis. Night 3 was spent laughing and drinking for hours and hours. I was on quit the comedic roll that night. This was the night we first shared a bed. We spent that night talking and falling asleep in each others arms. Day 4 our driver (we had a personal driver) drove us around Mazatlan all day and well into the night, stopping by some very romantic settings over looking the gulf and the city. We left at about 11AM and he returned us to our hotel around 3AM. This is the night we crossed the point of no return (if you know what I mean). Day 5 we never left the room. Her dad did check up on us from time to time but we had a good plan in motion. We kept both beds looking like they were being used. But we did make one small mistake. Once when he came by the room, (I was in the shower), we forgot to put the other two pillows on the vacant bed. Good thing he didn't notice, or perhaps he did, I don't know. We never went anywhere without the other. We sat next to each at dinner, in the car, on the plane, everywhere. We never showed any PDA, but we sure wanted to.

Now we are back home and all 3 of us live within a few blocks from one another. The bad part is I can't drive to her house without driving past his and his house has a ton of windows. Last night I went there for dinner and dear 'ol dad shows up. There is no way of hiding this affair.

I'm pretty sure he feels it was just a week in Mexico that made us feel this way and that it will pass. He hasn't spoken to either of us about it yet. As a matter of fact he said he wants to take me again next year.

Now here's the kicker, his daughter and I are also co-workers. Yep, not only is she my bosses daughter, she is also an office manager. He has an unwritten policy that forbids inner office dating. (at least that's what she said). I have worked for him for 8 years and I’ve yet to see or read a policy or memo that states I can’t do the help.

I’m sure I’ll get an ear full sooner or later.

won't even read...NOT!

What's PDA?

Lemme think about it......NO.

Public Display of Affection.

Bad idea don't get your meat where you get your bread...

Dave

qft

Sounds like your boss wants to get rid of you. Now it is only a matter of whether he fires you or blows you away with a shotgun.

Oh. I thought you were talking about a Palm.

Anyway, do you think that the father has a rather good idea that you two got involved? He'd have to be rather dim not to, right? If so, perhaps you should ask him what he thinks about it.

He has a 'girlfriend' of approximately the same age as his daughter?

Nice...LOL

Bad idea. You are probably going to have to pick between the daughter and the job....

Nothing says you couldn't leave the job, marry the daughter and, after establishing a stable and solid relationship.....come back to the job, if "Dad" wants you back. To do both, now though.....there's just too much room for problems.....

He has to know and I've mentioned bringing it up to him first and she has stopped that idea everytime.

His girlfriend is around my age.

Oh. Was this just a fling for her? You know, "fucking the help," for lack of a better term?

Best case scenario: You get married and inherit the company.

Worst case scenario:You put your future on the line in kootchie junction.

at least if you get fired you can still f the daughter

Get a hooker and keep the job. It will end in a few weeks anyway.

I was looking for the Devil in Animal house from the toga party, but this is as close as I could find. Rep to anyone who can run the devil on his shoulder down. But to answer the question, if you think its right, go for it.

You are already dating the boss's daughter, what you are really wanting to know is if you should tell the boss. I'm guessing that he is OK with you spending time with his daughter since he paid for you to take a week long trip to Mexico and share a hotel room with her. It almost seem like he set you up.

Tell the boss. Here are a couple ideas on how to present the idea:

1)"Bob, something I wanted to ask you about. Sally and I had a great time hanging out in Mexico. I know it's a little awkward, but I would like to ask her out."

2)"Bob, it seems a little strange telling you but your daughter is a a freak. I was hitting it in Mexico and I would like to keep nailing her, if that's OK with you."

3)"Bob, your daughter is pregnant and I think I know who the father is."

Glad I could help.

24 = adult but daddy might not see it that way. What are you after? What is your best case scenario? If you have genuine feelings and good intentions I would imagine reasonable people would be ok with it. if you are just using this girl as your plaything then you are an absolute fool for choosing the boss's daughter. Assuming the first scenario you then have to gauge your boss. After working there for 8 years you should know the man well enough to judge his reactions and if you cannot then his daughter should.

ROFL

Go with Number 1, DD. Although, I tried Number 2 almost verbatim with my now FiL. He thought it was hilarious.

Yep, hold the salad dressing too .


Bad idea buddy ......... good luck.

But if it must continue, have her tell him.

We've talked about that very thing. We have tried to convince ourselves and each other that it was a fling in Mexico. Except we aren't in Mexico and she wants me at her house every night. And every night we discuss the same thing over and over. We are really trying to decide if it is what we want. I've known her since she was in high school, but that trip to Mexico put us in a whole other light in one anothers eyes.

Could you give Duckdog his scrotum and put him back on the phone, bosses daughter?

LMAO!

Ask him. If it works out - great, if not & it is the real thing with her (whatever that is) you will find another job. That is if she is that important to you.

Well, it sounds like you guys need to reach an agreement. And, all agreements made during intercourse (i.e., before orgasm) are null and void.

REP!!!

The feelings are genuine. Trust me it would be much easier if we just wanted to be fugK buddie.

Ah, hell....

Have a couple of beers.....er, several..... beers with Dad, and choose option 2, heh. :toast:

Frankly, I don't know WTF Daddy was thinking putting you two in a room together if he DIDN'T want you two rolling around.

Second, if she lives on her own, and it sounds like she does, then she's probably pretty emancipated and it sounds like he's well aware that older men can hit 24 year olds, since he's doing it himself.

Does she have other brothers/sisters who are married and stuff, or is she Daddy's Little Princess?

Sounds to me like the guy would have to be a f'n moron not to realize what the deal is already...

:thumb: that will work :clap:

Why are you asking us? The daughter already told you he wouldn't like it.

Just wait for the fun and Hijinx that will ensue when he accidently reads the email she sent you, asking you to put your trigger finger in her corn sorter tonight....

I'll point out, FWIW, that being the boss's Son-in-Law is pretty damn good for job security. And if you view yourself, and are viewed as others, as being the upwardly mobile type, he may be grooming you for a takeover of the company.

Owners of businesses can be strange dudes. I've heard of weirder things than this. Succession in a family business can be VERY complicated and tense. No idea if this plays into your situation even a little bit (and it's probably more than you want to think about), but like I said -- going on vacation to Mexico and putting you in the same room ----- that's beyond bizarre...

WTF? This has got to be some kind of joke. The guy put you two together in one room and you are asking whether or not you should let him in on the big secret that you've been fooling around? LMAO

Putting a Wombwrecker like duckdog in the same room with his daughter, in mexico....is indeed asking for a situation.

PS...if you were in the adjoining room....he probably got the hint from the headboard banging on the wall, and your screams when she poured the wax on your taters.

post a picture and I will decide what you need to do

Oh, by the way, I really don't see how we can give you meaningful advice without being able to apprise the girl in question.

In other words, this thread is worthless without pics. :D

(damn, beaten by one stinking minute)

Incidentally, the preferred picture will be from the beach in Mexico, unless it's from your hotel room, a'course...

Good points. Daddy was talked into putting us together after a few weeks of whinning from her to him. I think she is more responsible for setting this up than he is.

She lives in her own house (he just bought her). She makes her own money, but make no mistake about it, he takes care of her. she is his only child and yes she's a princess, although he realizes she aint no angel.

You need to post pics of the boss's daughter before we can give you informed advice on this most serious matter. Nudie/swimsuit pics will be the most helpful, but whatever you've got will do.

This was Dad's way of finding out, once and for all, whether Duck was gay.....heh.

I'm his number one guy in the company so that is not that far off. You also have to understand I am also a friend of the family, not just a guy who works for him. He obviously trusts me a great deal.

Your real name isn't Phil Jackson is it?

Here you go. You'll be needing this soon.

www.monster.com

*ugh* Only child, and his little princess who lives off Sugar Daddy (literally). That definitely complicates things... Be much easier if she was the youngest of 6... :D

I think I'd go with the down-low for a while. Try to avoid getting caught nailing her on the conference table during lunch hour. ;)

Keep in mind that the forbidden angle will keep the sex hotter for a much longer period of time. That might help your fortitude...

OTOH, maybe you can ease into the situation a bit by doing things like being at family BBQs and stuff, y'know, as "a friend". If you're really eyeing becoming the old man's son-in-law, you'll definitely need to finesse how you handle this.

There you have it. She wants the Donger, Duck.

LOL. No headboards on Mexican beds. Plus he was in the suite down the hall.

Well, THAT's about to end.

Wombwrecker and pouring the wax on your taters!!! ROFL

Maybe you can just hang out with him and his daughter one day and thrown in a DVD of that Friends episode where Monica's parents find out that "she's the twinkie" to old family friend Tom Selleck. Give him meaningful looks while you and the daughter are sharing a blanket on the couch. :D

He's taking me out for my bday this weekend, I eat dinner at his at least twice a week, I drink beer with him nearly every day after work and we've yet to mention a word about to each other.

Peh. That's one long list.

yes, those were awesome to say the least.

How do Mexicans tie each other to the bed?

Previous to this trip, he's never mentioned or suggested that you two...

That last knot must be a b*tch.

Post pics so we can make a more objective decision. Preferably with skin.

No. As a matter of fact she said he was quit emphatic about us not rooming together, but he caved under her pressure.

Her and I have partied together many times prior to this without ever flirting, then again I may not have picked up on it if it happened.

i say do it. itll make for a fantastic thread when it blows up in your face.

It's tricky, It involves a ladder and some duct tape.

you forgot the donkey and midget.

Okay. So unless he's a complete fool, he knows that you two are fucking.

Again, I'd suggest that you two make a decision about whether or not you want a long-term relationship first. If so, I'd recommend that you break the news to Daddy together.

He put his daughter in a room with you for several days. This is either a direct path to the top or he is a moron. Either way you gotta go for it.

That is exactly where we are at and exactly what we have been discussing since Sunday night.

Didn't you have a thread about wanting to stab some chic you worked with in the face last year?

she's rebelling against her father.

she lives close to him, works for his company, he bought her the house she lives in.

now she wants to prove she's grown up so she's fucking his friend/co-worker.

if you tell him, nothing good will come of it.

you'll lose your job and the chick.

but you'll always have mexico

A moron can make his first million but not his 7th or 20th.

That's in TJ. Mazatlan is much classier. There you'll find pure bred stallions and full size people.

The real fun will be when he checks the web log...signs onto the planet as BigEarl and stumbles into this thread....

hahahahhahahahahaha

that'll be better than IIIdognight bringing TennDPhotty on.

Thanks for the offseason entertainment. Better than the sopranos.

Keep at it. Don't rush it.

It will be even worse if finds out I wrote this on the companies dime.

probably.
but i think your mixing the threads where i punched a girl in the face, stabed the kid down the street in jr. high & got the girl who i worked w/ to quit in under two weeks.

You'll get some grief over the age difference. It doesn't seem like so much now but when you're 50 and she's 35 it is much worse. I know that from experience.

My advice: concoct an elaborate plan to kill your boss. His daughter will inherit the company, and you can marry her. Then, kill her. You inherit the company. Use your newfound status to get an even hotter broad.

I know the President's Science Advisor; we were at MIT together. And, in this case, I really don't think you want to take the advice of a man that got a C- in astrophysics.

Be very careful here regarding company policy (other emps could use this as precident),

HR or whatever may need to know or have rules amended So that you don't report to her or vis-versa.


If you are smart better both of you talk to Daddy boss.

This is just an excuse for bragging, isn't it?

I'm actually engaged to my boss' daughter (a boss of my last job)--so I guess I'm not the one to say 'don't do that', but generally, it's a bad idea

-EB-

IMO sounds like your boss thinks of you as family and trusts you enough to share a room with his daughter even though he initially objected.

Sounds like he was a bit naive towards the whole situation, either way you're screwed.

Hit it and jet like Chrebet.