P.O.S. Brother in Law
 

If he could have formulated a sentence. My brother in law should have written a book on how to screw up your children.

He was a dead beat, If he could hold a job long enough to earn a paycheck he would blow it on booze and drugs. His money was his and My sister was left to take care of the two kids on her meager salary. If she ever mentioned divorce he would go nuts and say he was going to kill himself.

My sister finally left him 3 years ago. He still managed to get visitation with the kids.

Invariably my sister would have to go get the kids because he would get drunk and start yelling at the kids.

Same thing happen last week except for a twist. The Mxther Fxcker tells my niece (who idolizes him as this tragic figure) and my nephew (who does everything to get some form of approval) That they are dead to him.

Once again he threatens to kill himself and starts waving a gun around.
Luckily his family steps in and takes the kids home. Then they go back to help the rest of the family deal with him.

He had thought the gun was unloaded and put it to his head.
What he did not realize was that in his drunken stupor he grabbed the wrong gun.

There was no click, just a small explosion and now there are two kids blaming themselves for this stupid asses death.

I am so pissed

Thanks for letting me rant

Ang

They will come to realize that it was not their fault but sadly it will take a long time or a lot of counseling. It is a sad situation for them, either way.

At least he didn't shoot anyone else.

Wow. That is messed up. I hope the kids come to some perspective on all that. Maybe counseling or something.

Sounds like he wasn't worth the wasted bullet. Hope this doesn't hurt the kids too much...

Jesus Christ. That is horrible.

Hopefully the kids can move on from this.

My condolences to the kids.
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Sorry to hear that. The kids didn't witness it did they?

Wow. Just wow. Definately get the kids to a therapist, they will hate it, later they will be glad for it. My wife saw a therapist at an early age, and didn't think it helped at the time. Looking back, she thinks it maybe kept her sane. I am so sorry to hear this, will pray for you and your family, although my prayers may be pretty far down on the list so to speak.

We got them into to counseling the next day.

Ang

Sad story. Sorry to hear it.

Just terrible for the kids. Sorry that your family has to deal with this.

tragic.
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Jesus. Unbelievable. What a tool.

The children will be okay, though. Humans have an incredible ability to adapt and adjust to even the most outrageous events. Give them lots of love and time and they'll be fine.

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Thining of the herd on this one. Hope the kids are ok.
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some people just love the drama. i don't get it. it's a shame the kids have to deal with something like that.

:eek: That's horrible. So sorry to hear about that.

I hate when people give.....................
 

guns, drugs & alcohol a bad name. Not to mention the the world is against me attitude.

Incredibly tragic and I can't imagine what these two children are dealing with... I hope the family considers counseling now, for the kids.

As bad as the situation is, the silver lining is he won't be around to **** things up any further. Good riddance.

While this is true... his last action is about as bad as he could do for these kids.

I have a bother-in-law that is almost a big as tool as this guy, without the threatening to kill himself piece. Of course he has a felony charge, so he can't own a gun at least. Its almost one of those things that this might end up being the best thing for the kids in the long run.

I understand that, but God only knows what else he might have done had he lived.

I'm not happy the kids have to deal with it, but the world is probably a better place than it was.

I have thought the same thing my self.
At least he can do no more damage.

The only thing that upsets me is that my niece and nephew have to deal with the pain.

Ang

sorry to hear the sad story.
wishing the best for the family and kids.

Well, all you can do is be there for them as much as you can. Good luck to all of you.

Wow...just horrible. The kids didn't SEE it happen, did they?

how old are the kids?

Be strong Ang. They're going to need everyone that will be there for them.

Its a damn good thing he didn't pull that trigger and kill those kids.

Now its just important to let the kids know that he had major problems and that the killing wasn't his fault.

No kidding. This could have been much worse.

it's too bad they had to see it.

(yes, just that they had to see it)

That's terrible. Prayers to the kids and surviving members of the family.

Not to be a dick, but how do we know that he didn't mean to grab that gun? It's not like you could ask him if he screwed up and grabbed the wrong one...

...just sayin'. There's a good chance that he DID mean to off himself...

Kinda my thought. There's really no way of telling.

Guy is (was) a dickhead that would've done far more damage long-term than this had he not offed himself. Take steps to mitigate the damage, count your blessings and move on.

This is likely a good thing for all remaining parties.

Only bad part to this story was the kids... Sucks for them.

Tape this to the casket at his funeral.

http://www.theboxset.com/images/revi...ombstone03.jpg

Wait... did he do it in front of them or waited until the kids left. Did he do it when the family returned or what?

WHEN did he do it?

ROFL

Wow. He was a piece of work. I feel so sorry for the kids. I hope they can get therapy. Financially, he is worth more dead than alive. Your sister should get SSI for them.

Those poor kids. I feel for them.

This connects to Big Richards thread. There is and was NOTHING the family could have done. It was HIS disease. Someone will need to pound this into the kids heads over and over, and your sister too.
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Damn shame for the kids. :shake:

IF ANY OF YOU KNOW SOMEONE IN THIS SIMILAR SITUATION, FIND THE STRENGTH TO GET THEM HELP.

(This has nothing spoken about you, Angelo. I see news stories like this all the time, it rips me up, and I wonder "Why are they showing this?" the only reason I can find some good result is to figure people might see a pending situation of their own or someone they know. My friend's dad died, and it made me spend more time with my dad.

If I read it right, it sounds like the children weren't there at the time, that someone took them elsewhere right before it happened.

I certainly hope that is the case.

The had already been taken out of the home.

They are on the cusp of being teenagers.

I am trying to be there for them, but I have always been the disciplinarian. Their father and I obviously did not get along and they knew it. I have spent time with both every day since sometimes just sitting in silence.

I want to thank everyone for their kindness.

Ang

This sucks... what a douche.

damn that sucks, hopefully the kids will realize that the world is better off.

My sister's FIL did the same thing last year. Tore the family up for a while but they're better for it now.

Darwin wins, These poor kids lose.


Hopefully, they'll accept that he was an asshole with some serious problems and it was in no way their fault, and at some point, a more stable father figure will enter their lives and treat them the way a kid should be treated.

At least he's dead sad as that maybe. The kids will heal and it will be better for them in the long run.

Wow. So horrible for those children. What a pussy to take your own life when you have kids to care for.

Huge and mega prop things to you, Mr. angelo. This is absolutely the very best thing you can do for those kids - right now and for the foreseeable future. If nothing else, just listen. Even if they act out, throw fits, or discuss their feelings quietly and maturely - just listen. It's the very best thing.

When my father died (I was 13), a local attorney called my house to speak with me. He was a friend of the family and offered to meet with me. Just go fishing or have a coke or whatever - you know. My response wasn't good. I shut him down and shut him out. Angrily and rudely. I was pissed off and that was the only way I knew how to express it. It was also a way for me to test people to see if they really cared or they were just going through the motions (although I didn't realize that's what I was doing at the time). Sincerity is important to kids and they can spot a fake from a mile away. Anyhow, the attorney friend could have said, "Oh well, call me if you need something." and hung up. Instead, he hung in there. Eventually, he became an iconic and lifelong mentor to me. Listening is the key - no matter what you're listening to.

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