Kids fighting?
 

My nephew is 11 and got into his first fight at school. His story goes like this. He was playing football at lunch and after they were done, he told one of the kids he had butter fingers.lol The kid punched him in the lip then my nephew went off on him and beat the kid up and made him cry. lol His dad didnt punish him due to the fact he didnt throw the first punch.

Anyways, how do you parents on here handle stuff? Since my work is offseason, he gets to spend tomorrow with his uncle lol OH ya, he got suspended for a day and a half, other kid got 3 for starting it.

Meh. Kids fight, there's not a whole lot you can do about it.

A half day of suspension? WTF?

My father always told me that I was entitled to my self defense, no matter the situation.

I would just lol him to death like you did to this post lol

Day and a half, today and tomorrow

My pops was like that as well. He was cool in that way. though he was overall an ass. heh

Fighting in school is a big no no. It has changed from when we went to school.

oh duh.

carry on.

ya, I thought they put the kids in jail nowadays. Glad to hear that didn't happen

Taser.

lol
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kids still fight, they just do it off school grounds.

This. They've become super-nazis about that shit.

There are too many parents that would sue the school for not having a recess aide for every single student in the lot. Shit, they can't even make a pretend gun out of building blocks.

The discipline doled out for those two seems about average with what I have seen at my school.

Hehe, we did this back when i was a kid in alley's. Fights happened in school as well, but if they were not completed then you take it to the alley after school. haha

1st of all what's your boys personality type because every kid is different, and thus the reprimand goes accordingly.

juggs machine?

Bench him for the first series of the next game.

send him to the Raiders

What reprimand? The other kid started the fight.

This. He didn't throw the first punch. Maybe he earns a beer out of it

Personally, I would ask the school why your son should get a suspension, if he has the right to defend himself?

...we had a coach/teacher that would have the two hooligans don the gloves...


sad that you can get mark on your school record for defending yourself...what if the kid was assaulting a girl?

schools are eighty percent oprah...do the math.

They're probably not allowed to place blame because that could hurt their feelings or some shit.

Here in Cali some schools have implimented the run and snitch policy. If you defend yourself u r automatically expelled. Been that way for awhile. There r several posters here at the planet who staunchly defend that policy like Irishgayhawk.

Very true. I've already had one of my kids suspended for defending himself. And my wife and I have already told the Principal's of each school in our town that our children will continue to defend themselves. I've also told each of my kids that if/when suspended for self defense I will not punish them in any way, and that I expect them to do it if possible.

yes, even if a kid gets punched in the face, never fights back and it is over, the both of them are suspended. Zero tolerance policy.

my nephew is hell of laid back. Its hard to even get him in a conversation. lol He's not all wild and crazy. He's a good kid. NOt the smartest kid out there, but he's a good kid and a football player. Lives and breathes football.

My DAUGHTER was jumped by two boys in elementary school who were a year older than her, they were attempting to beat her up. She fought them off and ran to the school office. The boys parents didn't complain when she wasn't suspended and their kids were, however. Imagine that.

lol my dad's policy when i was growing up is if you get hit, you better hit back, if not, he was going to beat my ass as well. lol

My nephew is in the 6th grade. The other boy got into more trouble cuase he threw the first punch. They told my nephew since he never has gotten into trouble and he didnt start it, that it was just a 1 day thing.

I am just proud he defended himself and beat that kid up. I live across the street from his school. He will come here if they try to jump him after. Lol i will beat up some little ass kids they try to jump my nephew. lol

Okay, tell him to watch what he says unless it helps out his teammate, it's alright to defend ones self but you got to prevent in getting into those situations too. Tell him to be careful what he says to individuals so he can stay away from that type of conflict if it presents itself.

Great job that kid deserve anything he want because if you let people pick on you then you'll be victimised the rest of your life. When iwas young i didn't fight cause i was afraid that people think i'm mean so i didn't fight back. Plus later on i knew if i fought back i won't stop cause i feel all my anger i held back for so would be released.

this, 100%.

you really think that he just called the kid 'butter fingers'? i'm just assuming that isn't all that he said to the other kid. he probably mouthed off and got popped. big deal. though i agree that a kid should be able to defend himself, he's probably going to get into the same situation if he keeps running his mouth to other kids.

a day and a half??? Man when i was in school fighting was an automatic 10 day suspension no matter which person started it.

It's the mutual destruction hammer that schools use to keep fights from happening in the first place.

the punishment for your kid is stupid.
self-defense = suspension. Yeah...that makes sense. Let's just all teach kids to not defend themselves so they can be a sheep the rest of their life.

I was in several fights in self-defense; one in particular in HS involved me beating the p*ss out of a gang-banger wanna be after he sucker punched me. he got expelled, I went back to class. I got home and my dad was lik e'Hey! Rocky". lol

The pussification of American continues.

Heck, when I was a kid.......

Oh shit! Just realized I can't remember that far back.

Spend today teaching him how to duck a punch.....and counter.

And they still get into major trouble.

My 14 year old is being stalked by a verbal bully that constantly goads him on until my kid snaps.....get detention, as of yesterday, I am afraid that he will be suspended because of the last altercation in front of the school, OFF property.

I hope it will be remembered by the principal, that we talked about the "stalking". The other kid has to have an escort by an adult around school, because he has caused so much grief that if no escort, the kid will get pummeled by other kids(not mine). My kid has only had problems with him, but my kid keeps getting punished. I am about to pay his principal another visit......and it won't be pleasant for either of us!

If you and some of your friends all get out of school suspension, its just a vacation. My friends used to come over to my place and swim when we beat the hell out of some losers down the street from us. They deserved it. Still to this day those morons won't look us in the eyes.

I have intentionally NOT taught my son anything about self defence. He is very immature and would use it aggressively....and be expelled from school.

oh...so you're a pile-fighter. What a badass.

no actually they had 4 people decided to jump me and a couple friends thinking they outnumbered us. I dont start shit, never have and don't see the point of it. These guys though they were in some gang, let's just say they barked up the wrong tree.

Kids fight all the time, that is just the way of things. I tell my kids as long as they don't/didn't start it, then there will be no trouble at home, but try to resolve the problem without fighting if possible.

Domer sez he is a big dude. If Domer sez that someone is a big dude...I wouldn't mess with said dude.

I use to beat the chit out of bully's. picking on someone because they are physically unable to defend themselfs against you or because they are different is something I figured out in 5th grade. I was 6' tall in the 6th grade so in my class at least there wasn't a lot of bully's, at least not for long.

I took my car to a shop to get it fixed one time. I went to pay the bill and they told me it was free. huh? why? Seems that the mechanic that worked on my car recognized me from grade school and did the work for free and paid the shop its due money. As a thank you for not allowing the bullies to pick on him in the locker room. True story.

Don't know if you saw this post or not. I'm not a guy to pick on people. Ill joke and tease arond a little, but I don't antagonize people or start shit to get into a fight. I don't agree with that at all. I'll let the other person start it or swing first. I just try to stay away from that shit unless it's pretty much un-avoidable.

that's a cool story, brc.
usually they see me and think, "i remember beating the shit outta that guy in school", and don't fix the car right and charge me more.
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When I was a boy, disagreements and personal affronts were settled on the jousting field. While the matches did occasionally end in death, aspersions were never cast lightly.

sorry, didn't mean to accuse you of being a bully. That wasn't my intent.

i took and recieved beating from the time i can remember. My mom and dad always said take care of your own problems... abit more to it but thats the jist of it.

Heh, yea. I came home one day with a broken nose, thick blood pouring down my face, and the best my dad had for me, besides saying I probably had it coming, was “If the other guy doesn’t look worse it’s your own fault.”

my dad watched me get my face smashed in the 6th grade and didnt say nothin or lift a finger,boy i was pissed.

Hard lessons learned.

The problem is, is the pussification of America. Everyone wants to sue eachother. So schools have to cover their ass and take a "no tolerance no fault" action when it comes to fighting.

My dad said back in the day, if 2 people had issues with eachother, the gym coach would get them a set of gloves and they would duke it out, alone..with his supervision, no one around and that was that. Usually after that there wasn't any further altercations. There wasn't any gang fights, kids bringing knives and shit to school, 4 on1 fights etc. Of course my dad lived out in the middle of nowhere and this was like in the 50's-60's when it was ok to leave your shotgun in the back of your truck and a teacher could come out and look at it and say "cool here's mine"

No way in hell that would happen now.

Sorry to hear your kid is having trouble.
Question: the other kid causes so much trouble he needs an adult escort? What kind of school is it that they don't expel this kid?

oohhh I was far from a saint up to that moment I realized how wrong I was for using my size to torment others. I threw a baseball faster than anyone has seen before. Kids were scared to death to get in the batters box. They would literally get in the batters box crying. My issue was that I had no control. So, I figured out that if I hit someone early on, the rest of the game all I had to do was get it over the plate and I'd win. But one game I broke a kids arm with a fastball. I actually wasn't throwing at him, the pitch just got away because I sucked at control. But I realized that just because I didn't mean it that time, it was just a matter of time before i hurt someone on purpose. From that day forward I never again used my physical girth to bully or intimidate someone. And never allowed others to do it in front of me. wellll besides when I became an adult and worked as a bouncer in some bars.:rolleyes:

ROFL Throw down that gauntlet!

A f@cked up one, when it comes to discipline.

I moved to Texas to live with my dad my sophmore year...there was this one guy who was very popular and would fling shit my way everyday..to the point that sometimes I'd go home crying mad, looking for sympathy from my pops..and I'll never forget what my dad said.."either do something about it, or shut the hell up"

next day, he started in on me..left hook to the jaw..never had another problem. I won't lie and say I wasn't scared, dude was pretty tough.

thanks dad.

Hope it gets better for you. The fact that your did has a parent who cares and is involved tells me it will.

I would say a day of video games and internet porn would take care of it.

yeah BRC I was like that, stayed to myself a lot and was bullied for being the fat kid in grade school. After awhile of taking the verbal punishments for being a fat white kid in an area dominated by blacks and mexicans I had enough, started fighting..lost some won some. Then I hit a growth spurt and was 6' by time I was 13, eventually hit 6'4 and never really had bully problems but always looked out for the geeks and weaks

At my kid's school we have the Olweus Bully Prevention Program. The kids can anonymously report issues that are talked about during regular class meetings. No punishment, just talk. So much different than when I was in school.

If you start a fight you are in trouble.
In the 5 years my 5th grader has been at the school there has only been one altercation. A kid who had transferred in grabbed my son's throat on the playground. My son dropped the kid. The kid who started it was expelled, my son was asked to tell his side of the story, no disciplinary action was taken.
If my kid would have been punished for self defense I'd have pulled all three of my boys from that school.

A public one.

Can public schools not expel students? Not being a smart ass; sincere question.

Both of my parents are retired teachers and this is part of the reason why they both took early retirement. Problem kids can’t just be expelled. There isn’t much in the way of discipline in a public school anymore.

Wow, okay thanks.
Good on your parents, their's is a noble profession.

I will be dilligent about taking care of my son! I just don't know how to deal with red tape sometimes. Thanks for your kind words Vail, you've always been alright with me.

Once my daughter got very upset at a boy teasing her and she hit him in the arm. I told her that if she was going to hit someone, then it needed to be in the face.... as it was, she got in trouble and didn't even make the kid pay for what he said.

I tell my kids to stand up for themselves. I tell them that I won't tolerate them bullying other children, but that I will back them up for standing up to a physical or verbal bully.

These parents that breed wussified children annoy me.

I do not want them lashing out every time someone hurts their feelings, but if a person is legitamitely bullying or trying to intimidate them.... even if it is only through speech.... I have no problem with them pumeling the kid.

And don't think we didn't appreciate it. I had a rather large friend who was kind enough to get me out of a scrape or two.

lol 11 year olds are gonna fight wtf can you do it's not a huge deal as long as he doesn't get in fights repeatedly

MY KIDS 14...5'0' AND 101LBS! But he is VERY athletic and I really don't worry about him getting hurt. When I do....I will teach him self defense. NOT until then!

meh, i have called him butterfingers for about 3 years now when we play catch and we play catch often. Even if a little trash talking was in it, it still is no reason to punch someone. Its all good he kicked the kids ass though. He didnt take no shit and for me thats a plus. This was the first ti me he has EVER gotten into trouble at school.

I am sure he will get into more fights as he grows up, who didnt? i know i got into my fair share of them growing up. Like people have said, kids will be kids. Its not his fault that the other kid cant handle a little trash talking. lol

He knows, he's been in boxing class the last 2 years. He knows how to handle himself. He's going to start back up after the new year. Cant really do boxing and football at the same time. lol Football is enough for an 11 year old. haha

They can, but its only after multiple infractions. You just get sent to another school really. These kids were 6th graders. 11 years old. Now, if it was highschool it may be a different story. My nephew doesnt get into trouble. He gets the occasional tardy for being late as his parents work at 6am and he doesnt start school until almost 9am, so sometimes he slacks. lol

This type of post is why sofa king will be N00b of the year.

Heh...

True story.

I was 9, the neighborhood bully was 11. He was a chubby hispanic kid. I was a skinny little guy.
Anywho,
He used to beat the crap out of me regularly and I had never really learned how to fight.
Finally, one day I asked my dad what to do.
He told me the following,
"Next time this kid is going to give you a beat down, strike first. Punch him square in the nose as hard as you can. He may still beat your ass, but he will think twice about it beforehand."
Ten minutes later I walk outside. This fat little bastard rides by on his bike. I run after him and he stops. Next thing he knows, he's knocked off his bike, on the ground crying like a bitch with a bloddy nose. My old man saw the whole thing, he runs out and grabs me. We walked inside and he's laughing hysterically, (although trying not to).
He looks at me and says, "Not quite what I meant son."

A half hour later, the kids dad rings our door bell. Dad answers and the guy is going off on my dad, calling me a little bully etc. My dad tells him, "You want some of the same?"
That ended that.

hehe, Thats pretty cool. No one ****ed with my dad, but for various other reasons. He ughh. for 50 years lived a similar life of a Soprano's episode. My dad is ****ing crazy. lol