Some advice, opinions, and cp obligatory smart ass remarks
 

Ok, so here's the deal. Everyone here knows I'm going through a divorce, have custody of my son, and am a District manager of a certain pizza place. Problem is the hours vs. my son. Have a really strong feeling that the boss is gonna try to push a choice on me tomorrow. If that's the case, my inclination is telling him to jerk off a nazi whilest jumpin off the golden gate bridge. Advice please.

Life is too short to pick a job over family. Love trumps reason.

Hire your son. The menial labor is not too mentally taxing for a toddler and you get to spend time with him.

I believe this to be true. However, at the end of the day my main job is to provide for my child and give him a chance to be successful. So the problem I have dealing with is time with my child vs financially providing for my child.

and reaper begins with the cp obligatory smart ass remarks....

Can I have some pizza?

LMAO I love that you just come right out with it.

get a job, move out of your mommas basement and you can afford to buy your own.


BTW, your draft input is reminiscent of a porn stars cock sucking gone wild video. Sure it's great when they open their mouths but the funk that drips out afterward nobody wants a part of

IMO the modern-day version of being able to provide is drastically overinflated. I grew up downright poor, I couldn't afford to go to the dentist, I never got nice clothes, and I paid for my first car which was a total beater. But there was food on the table, clothes on my back, and shelter over my head. Plus, my parents never beat me, drank a lot in front of me, or did drugs in front of me.

You'd be surprised how much a child would rather have YOU around than not. When your parents are never there, you start to wonder if they even give a crap, whether you're working for your kid or not. And even when the kid doesn't want you around, tough sh*t. Its not your job to be your son's friend. Its your job to be his parent. And that's a job that can only be done correctly by investing time into it.

Open up your own chain called "I Would the Whole Thing Pizzeria."

Make sure to have Gochiefs favorite pizza on your menu:

Meat-Lovers

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That's a good one!!

No, actually, I didn’t know that. Sorry to hear it.
Good luck with it all.

Vs. losing your job and possibly custody of your child.
I don’t know your situation or how hard your soon to be ex is pushing the custody thing but now is not the time to go job hopping. A judge wants to see that you have a stable life.

This.

Diddy, I would just tell the boss that you can only work so many hours because you have a child to take care of and leave it at that. If he fires you, then its on him.

Choose the job. You can always have another kid.

I'm going to go with the pragmatic route here.

Everyone always says "choose family over your job" as though the two aren't very much intertwined.

If you have no job propsects lined up, you suck it up until you do for a variety of reasons. A) Unemployment could very well lose you custody. B) Being jobless is an incredible stressor. While you'd like to think it won't effect you, it certainly will. At that point, just how happy could your time at home with your kid be? And nut-cutting time won't be too far off unless you've saved well.

Tiger may be right that your kid doesn't really care, but you will. The pride of being a provider cannot be overstated and the loss of that status will hurt you more than you realize, IMO. You'll see the things you can't do for your son any longer and it will eat at you. Maybe resentment creeps in, maybe it doesn't; but stress will and your life at home will not be what it once was.

If you want to prep some resume's and start job hunting, well that makes all the sense in the world. But to tell your boss to shove it without having any idea when/where the next job will come from ranges from shortsighted to blatantly irresponsible. Take the extra hours for now and start looking for a new gig. Worst case scenario is another few months with extra hours but that's a hell of a lot better than unemployment and cold-calling in this job environment.

I don't know. Can you?

Is it going to be that your boss wants to raise your hours? Or make you choose between the job and your son (i.e. fired/quit)?

If it's the first one....find someone who can babysit. If it's the second....find another job.

Just me but, I would have a sit-down with the boss and address your concerns with him, or her. They should be able to present an option that works for you and them as well. That way you will know PDQ if you need to start looking for a different employer. In any event, the best of luck.

tell your boss that not only are you picking your job over your kid but you've invented a new pizza that he needs to try now. sprinkle the anti-freeze, serve, wait an hour or two then take your kid to the movies.