No woman on earth can put up with me for more than a month or 2 at the most.
& I'm dam proud of that

This. Maybe you can pick up a tell in the process.

LMAO

-"Can you pass the potatoes?"

-"What in the **** is that supposed to mean!?"

Huh? You don't make nice with people you don't like because it's easier or as a favour to someone else?

Wait until after Christmas then break it off. Immediately thereafter, find a psychiatrist because snooping into your fiance's private communications is not healthy. Neither is it normal. If you don't completely and entirely trust the person with whom you are planning to spend the rest of your freaking entire life, you are with the wrong person and your "trust issues" need some work, man.

FAX

I disagree. Not only is it healthy to check this stuff its a good way to keep people honest. If the other gets upset its because they were doing something wrong. Good luck OP, I would never get married to woman on this planet because they're all liars, but that's because I ain't met one that didn't. :)

I can't imagine what it would be like to be married (assumably in love and sharing your life) with someone I couldn't completely trust. It would make me very uncomfortable. Spending your days in some degree of paranoia would drive me crazy.

But, if that's how you want to live your life, who am I to say otherwise? Good luck.

FAX

Oh ... one more thing.

You're wrong about all women being liars. That is simply untrue.

FAX

I've yet to meet one that isn't Mr. FAX.

Wow. Are you talking about serious lying like say ... "No, I didn't screw your brother."? ... or are you talking about stuff like, "No, I didn't put salt in the soup."?

What exactly are we talking about here?

You guys are freaking me out a little.

FAX

Unfortunately in my experience its closer to brother ****er than soup ****er-upper.

Wow.

I don't know what to say ... and that is pretty unusual for me ... so I'll say this.

I can't fathom a good reason to maintain a relationship with someone who is not truthful. I can see why some guys might marry some deceitful hag, of course ... they want companionship of any sort, someone to make their sammiches, and it may make getting laid a little more convenient sometimes (all completely stupid reasons to get married, by the way).

But, to be perfectly frank, there have been times when I would have preferred the beautiful and witty Mrs. FAX had lied to me. Since I've known her, she never has and I would have found out by now, for certain. And, if she ever did, as much as it would hurt, that would be the last conversation we ever shared and the last she saw of me would be through my car exhaust. First off, it would break our solemn and mutual promise to each other and secondly, I couldn't live with somebody who thought it was acceptable to lie to me about ... well ... about anything, really. I mean, what's the point?

How could you stand to be around that person? Let alone hold affection for them?

I feel for you guys if that's what you have come to believe ... that all women lie and none can be completely open and honest. Whether it's true or not in your experience, that has to be a damn difficult way to co-exist with a person.

FAX

I hope that idiot burned it off. That dumbass should not be allowed to reproduce

Oh, hell yes! Do this now. Don't ****ing wait until you're married. Will she be pissed? Of course. And when she throws that shit in your face, make sure you let her know that you'll be happy to address her concerns right after she addresses yours. I would also drop her off at her parents house, and go over to yours on your own. What I wouldn't do is tell your family about it if you still plan on marrying her.

No, I wouldn't just eat that. I love my family, and they are awesome to my wife. Always have been. If I'd heard some shit like that before we got married, I'm not sure we'd be married now. You're not in the wrong, dude.

You could let your family in on what she had said in the txt messages. Have them be exra nice & anoying while she is there. You will likely see a lot of facial expressions from her to be entertained with. On the way home she will most likely break it off with you and your are free & clear.