There are only 2 situations in which it's not "Bros before Hoes" with me.

These things are not my business.

or peeping tom

here is the thing with that saying, if its a close friend and you are really good friends, then staying out of it means your just a shitty friend, but if the people involved are shady with relationships all the way around, then it doesn't ****ing matter.

If you have any semblence of intelligence, you stay the **** out of it.

It isn't your business and you should distance yourself from it as much as possible else become an accessory to the fact.

Unless the person is a complete moron, they'll figure out that their spouse is having an affair on their own. It's actually pretty ****ing easy to see once you get past the "She/He wouldn't do that to me!" stage.

If it's a one night stand, move on, nothing to see here. If it's more than that, still move on, it's deeper than that and you don't need to be part of a deeper problem.

Unless he's having an affair with YOUR wife, stay out of it.

I call bullshit. A real friend would sniff that shit out before the relationship became serious.

Too many variables to answer but probably no then yes. Depends on loyalty and two million other factors.

Friendship goes a long way with me but I'd probably keep out of the whole situation.

Question 1:.

No but it would probably shaken my friendship with him and I would advise him to think about the big picture damage is he doing to himself, his wife & God.

Question 2:

Yes. My loyalty is with my friend.


It might not make perfect sense given it's no for one and yes for the other but I've never claimed to be a perfect person. I just call it as I see it folks.

so what happened to the OP?
nothing back since then?

You think so?

Would I tell the spouse, probably not. But I wouldn't do anything to cover for the friend either. I might tell my wife and let her go do the dirty work.

As far as my friend's spouse having an affair, I assume he would already have some suspicion, so I might try to confirm his suspicion without spelling it out for him.

If I found out that my friend's spouse was having an affair because I woke up next to her in a cheap motel room, I would not say anything to my friend.

Are you people serious? One of your boys cheats and you get bent out of shape over it. Just keep your mouf shut and go on w your life. Telling a friends spouse or sig other they cheated on them is the lowest thing a friend can do. If you find out she's cheating on him that's a totally different story. Be loyal to your friends. FFS why are you even asking this question about what you should do. Do you not understand bro code?

Situation 1 (I consider the cheater a friend but do not consider the victim a friend) I would no longer be friends with the cheater. I would not go out of my way to tell the victim, but I wouldn't go out of my way to conceal it, either.

Situation 2 (I consider the victim a friend but I do not consider the cheater a friend) Of course I would tell the victim (my friend) what I knew.