If your friend has an affair...
 

will you tell his/her spouse about it?

Why or why not?

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If you discover your friend's spouse has an affair, would you tell your friend about it?

I feel as if I should be posting every video to the 'Trapped in the Closet' series by R. Kelly.

Hilarity and stupidity coincide.

get the dirty nasty details of the sordid steamy **** hookups

or threaten to blow his cover

**** no. Their spouse isn't my problem. Now, I'm probably not going to be continue to be friends with them. Because now I know they're a sleazeball, but I'm not getting in the middle of that shit. Their spouse isn't my friend. They are.

**** yeah I tell my friend about it. They're my friend. Same as above.

Are you trying to bang your friends GF/Spouse?

Friend has affair - shut your mouth

Friends wife has an affair - tell on that bitch.

No

Yes

This. That is the only time some snake ass 'friend' tells on his boy to the guys wife. If hes really trying to bang her.

Never cheated. Never have. But its bros over hoes with me.

Would depend on numerous variables, as ridiculous as they possibly could be (i.e. she beats him)---> drastic, unrealistic example IMO.

No.

Yes.

An affair is destructive in marriage. Yet you condone one and disclose one due to friendship?

Yup/ **** them cackling hens. :D

How'd you find out about the affair in the first place? See them by accident or what?

Its not my marriage.

Yep.

So you made this thread, but didn't get the answers you wanted?

Minding your own ****ing business is a great policy. I wish more people would do it.

Obviously.

There are all kinds of reasons people have affairs. Maybe she's also cheating. Maybe it's over and this is just the natural order of things taking it's way. Maybe the other person turned into a complete robot.

Don't judge. Not your place.

But ask for nudes of that slut.

r u and ur friend vince vaughn and kevin james

Smith! I told you to keep this off the CP message board! I'll handle it in house.

so are you blackmaling your friends spouse into sexual favors because you know something?

You must know of some dirty dirty goings ons. Threads like this don't just pop up because there might be a chance of snow.

Serious question...

Your friend robs a bank. nobody got hurt and he got away with a lot of money. do you tell on him?

Unless he offers me a cut..yes.

he'd have to split the loot with me

snitch

lol

slores going to slore.

why **** around in a relationship? Someones about to get halved it sounds like

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Seriously? Then you're in on the deal. Just as liable for the robbery as he is.

#2 for sure, you might get some good advice on #1 if you are willing to give up your $8309 of Casino Cash but that aint shit around here.

I believe in most cases this falls under the category of "bros before hos".

I would think it depends on each individual person involved, some are justified (not putting out) and some are just because the person is bored or needs attention.

What if the friend owes you money..

are we useing the same logic on the slut he\s banging?

If I had a married friend that cheated, he wouldn't be my friend anymore, the moment I found out. That's a character deal-breaker for me.

But I wouldn't narc on him.

Yes, Ms. Mith.

one thing that's cool about CP is how not-misogynistic it is

Because adultery is illegal.

so which one is your situation?

do you know a cheater and wanna tell?
or have been cheated on and wanna find out why nobody told?
or just trolling to find out who on CP you can cheat with ?

it would depend on the situation i guess. I would lean towards yes, but in the past i been in that situation and i didnt say shit, because they were both cheating lol

no no, and **** no! i couldnt do it! then again i grew up in the streets and i have seen bad shit happend and never said anything. Street Justice comes through, right or wrong, it happens.

No. Id keep my mouth shut either way. Why? Because it would be none of my business.

I'd STFU. Then work on putting some distance between that bullshit and I. If you tell him/her(friend) that his/her other is a cheating piece of shit. You lose anyways because he/she gets all drug into some major bullshit. Work lots of overtime or take an extended vacation.

DaKCMan AP stays the **** out of other people's relationships.

You shouldn't have to say a damn thing. He'll find out when he reads her texts, right before he gift wraps his nuts.

There are only 2 situations in which it's not "Bros before Hoes" with me.

These things are not my business.

or peeping tom

here is the thing with that saying, if its a close friend and you are really good friends, then staying out of it means your just a shitty friend, but if the people involved are shady with relationships all the way around, then it doesn't ****ing matter.

If you have any semblence of intelligence, you stay the **** out of it.

It isn't your business and you should distance yourself from it as much as possible else become an accessory to the fact.

Unless the person is a complete moron, they'll figure out that their spouse is having an affair on their own. It's actually pretty ****ing easy to see once you get past the "She/He wouldn't do that to me!" stage.

If it's a one night stand, move on, nothing to see here. If it's more than that, still move on, it's deeper than that and you don't need to be part of a deeper problem.

Unless he's having an affair with YOUR wife, stay out of it.

I call bullshit. A real friend would sniff that shit out before the relationship became serious.

Too many variables to answer but probably no then yes. Depends on loyalty and two million other factors.

Friendship goes a long way with me but I'd probably keep out of the whole situation.

Question 1:.

No but it would probably shaken my friendship with him and I would advise him to think about the big picture damage is he doing to himself, his wife & God.

Question 2:

Yes. My loyalty is with my friend.


It might not make perfect sense given it's no for one and yes for the other but I've never claimed to be a perfect person. I just call it as I see it folks.

so what happened to the OP?
nothing back since then?

You think so?

Would I tell the spouse, probably not. But I wouldn't do anything to cover for the friend either. I might tell my wife and let her go do the dirty work.

As far as my friend's spouse having an affair, I assume he would already have some suspicion, so I might try to confirm his suspicion without spelling it out for him.

If I found out that my friend's spouse was having an affair because I woke up next to her in a cheap motel room, I would not say anything to my friend.

Are you people serious? One of your boys cheats and you get bent out of shape over it. Just keep your mouf shut and go on w your life. Telling a friends spouse or sig other they cheated on them is the lowest thing a friend can do. If you find out she's cheating on him that's a totally different story. Be loyal to your friends. FFS why are you even asking this question about what you should do. Do you not understand bro code?

Situation 1 (I consider the cheater a friend but do not consider the victim a friend) I would no longer be friends with the cheater. I would not go out of my way to tell the victim, but I wouldn't go out of my way to conceal it, either.

Situation 2 (I consider the victim a friend but I do not consider the cheater a friend) Of course I would tell the victim (my friend) what I knew.

By the way, "bro code" is a very juvenile notion and holds no meaning to ethical adults.

That's why we use the "ho code" now, if she's one person's ho she's everyone's ho. Fair is fair.

I think I'd stay the heck out of it.

Although, I'm pretty sure situations like these are why Benjamin Franklin invented the anonymous letter.

FAX

It's all affair in love and war.

I'm not a rat.

I'd simply lay a series of traps for them to get themselves caught.

No and no. Never get involved in anyone else's personal business.

You tell a dude his bitch is cheating the next thing you know they are going to work it out and she makes sure that this was all YOUR fault. So you lose your friend anyways.

This...

And don't forget, right or wrong, you get labeled yourself when "people" find out it was you who "told." You become a little less able to be confided in and people must then protect themselves from you. And I'm not talking about the one cheating, I'm talking about those who are part of the priesthood - sooner or later most people need a friend to be a friend...

All I can recommend is you just stay out of it..

Is this Peeholi?

No. But I'll give them my opinion on what they're doing. Especially if there are kids involved and they're gonna put themselves in child support hell.

Yes. My loyalty lies with my friends first.

If my best friend of 20 years was having an affair and he told me about it, would I tell his spouse? **** heavens no I would not.

Bros before Hoes....that's his problem not mine, but he would deserve everything that comes to him if she found out. Now I wouldn't like go out with him and his mistress or anything like that..because then I'd be wrapped up in it as an accomplice and I wouldn't encourage it, but it's ultimately whatever he wants to do and it's none of my business.

This happened to me once. I vowed to never stick my nose in that kind of shit again.

Don't tell on your friend but bitch his ass out and kick his ass.

Yes, absolutely yes.

No and no...unless personally asked by the friend.

I would tell on her unless she gives me a piece.