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Showing respect to your mom is also respecting your principles. Lack of self control or allowing him to get between you and your mom would not be respecting your principles. You can always excuse yourself and just leave if an issue arises. |
You don't have the right to tell your mother how to live her life.
You DO have the right to tell how you're going to live YOUR OWN. You also have the right to let her know you don't approve of her letting herself be a doormat for a man. You're absolutely doing the right thing. |
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I don't agree. |
I'm not saying anything about your mom, but women who stay in abusive relationships do it because they like it. You're absolutely right to do what you're doing.
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I wouldn't take my kids anywhere near that b@stard.
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We're not talking about love, we're talking about ABUSE. There is no "choice" here. |
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Hit him with some laughing gas while hes not paying attention and pull his teeth.
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Invite her to your house instead.
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Let's do a scenario analysis. Others can chime in if I'm missing something.
Scenario 1. You go and he goes. You both want to be with your mother on the holiday. You both have equal access, and it shows that he can't control her access. It's a draw until she decides that he has to go. Scenario 2. You don't go and he goes. It shows him that he can further control your mother just by showing up. He limits her interaction with you, and he wins. I don't think it'll force a long-term breakup, so there's no direct win here other than maybe a short-term win by creating Scenario 3. Scenario 3. You go and he doesn't go. If he doesn't go at your mother's request, it may put her more at risk for abuse later, though I think it's a long-term win. However, it probably causes her some short-term resentment toward you and won't do anything to solve the long-term problem. It's a win for you, but with some damage. Scenario 4. You don't go and he doesn't go. Your mom eats a bunch of turkey and falls asleep on the couch during the Lions game. |
I mean, will your kids wonder why they're not going to grandma's house, or will it be no big thing??
I mean, if your kids don't notice or won't care, then **** it, don't go. If there will be awkwardness and tension for you kids to pick up on...the **** it, don't go. I wouldn't take my daughter to some bullcassel like that. |
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