Short of kicking his ass for touching your mother, you're doing it right.
Your mother is being abused. You can't support that in any way. If you go, you go alone and you have a serious discussion outside with Capt Morgan. |
Stay away from bad people and keep your kids away from bad people. You can't control your mother, and if she continues to associate with this loser, she can do it without her children and grandchildren. Tell her that you will come a different time when he won't be around or that she can come visit you sometime without him.
This isn't about sending a message to either of them. It's about protecting yourself and your kids. |
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I think it's good that this guy knows that tooge is aware of whatever it is that his mother has told him, but I don't see what good it does for tooge to take a harder line than his mother does at this point unless his goal is to cause his mother grief. |
Either don't go, or go and kill him to death.
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Maybe slip up the night before and make sure he's eating applesauce for Thanksgiving is an option.
I can't imagine being in your shoes and not losing my mind with rage with some new guy doing that to my mother, and talking shit about about my father. You're a stand up guy. Maybe if she wants to talk about history, remind her that you weren't raised to tolerate that treatment and abuse of women and that she knows it's not right. I would guess she's just afraid of being alone. |
Support and love your Mother. Things like this tend to turn out poorly. Praying for you and your Mother.
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In situations like this, I think it's best to use the "How would the Sons of Anarchy handle the situation", then proceed from there.
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Always listen to your mom:D If you pull out on her now, she could get harmed etc. Get involved on a respectful level -- let this go her way and the minute something occurs that supports your angle, confront her with your thoughts and this way, she will be more likely to consider your lead on this. it's not easy, this thing called life and it seems most complicated between family members.
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I've never seen Sons of Anarchy, so I needed to make it something I'd understand. |
As far as I'm concerned, what this guy has done is irreparable. Don't go. Tell your mother you are there for her, but you can't help her unless she wants it. I'm sure your mom knows what this guy is doing is very, very wrong, but she may be afraid to be alone. Sad, sad situation.
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Let's look at it differently.
What would you want your children to do if you died and your wife was dating an abusive man (far enough in the future when they would be the same age that you are now)? |
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If this guy is really a serious, imminent threat to your mom or anyone who shows up at Thanksgiving, then maybe you and your siblings should be holding an intervention instead of worrying about where to have Thanksgiving. |
I'd still have her come to your house. Then you are on your turf. He could come if he wants... I suspect he wouldn't... and if he chooses to not let her come to your house, then he looks like the bad guy that he is.
EDIT: and while it may be an inconvenience for you, you could always offer to go get her, and take her back home if necessary. |
What would Jules Winnfield say and do?
Maybe if you decide to go, you can offer to lead the family meal prayer and recite Ezekiel 25:17 Offering to have dinner at your house might be a good option too. |
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