Originally Posted by Prison Bitch (Post 9906627)

Every guy will tell you how great it is, because he wants to feel like he's Father of the Year. But in private, most guys that you're close friends to will be a little more frank about it. I don't let my friends smoke & mirrors me on the topic, so they speak frank around me.


The guy who said he's in month 2 and "wouldn't trade it for the world" is more full of shit than the diaper he's changing.

Originally Posted by theelusiveeightrop (Post 9906632)

All you need is .45 and a shovel

Originally Posted by Pestilence (Post 9906626)

I have a 6 year old daughter and twin 3 year old daughters.

**** my life.

Originally Posted by ndws (Post 9906636)

I grew up on a farrow to finish hog farm. Our neighbor ran a dairy, and I would help out once in a while there. My best friend grew up on a farm, and once again I helped out there. Later in life, me and my old man raised a number of horses. I've spent a good number of years of my life around livestock. In any case, baby shit has a way of burrowing deep into your nasal cavity, unlike most anything else.

You see the black sticky stuff at the hospital and its gross, but its expected, and you have that new-baby euphoria and nothing it does is bad/gross/horrible. that marconium goes away, and even then its not too bad. You've got this. And then the bacteria in the gut changes somehow. And one day, your little darling will shit its pants and all you can say is "Oh dear Lord". You'll want to blame your wife for eating a rotten corpse ass-end first, but she didn't. Good news is, your nose becomes calloused and you eventually aren't bothered by it. That's what they tell me anyway.

Originally Posted by Red Beans (Post 9906641)

The wife and I were totally against cloth diapers. They'd leak, stink, and generally be a pain in the ass. However after two months of paying out the ass for diapers, we did our research and took the plunge. A $200 investment netted us 30 diapers and inserts. We do diaper laundry every third day or so and saw a slight increase in water consumption. You can seriously tell a difference between a kid's ass that's been clothed in chemically laced material and the cloth diapers. Don't get me wrong, we use disposables in some situations, but 90% of the time we go cloth. It was well worth the investment...

Originally Posted by Prison Bitch (Post 9906627)

Every guy will tell you how great it is, because he wants to feel like he's Father of the Year. But in private, most guys that you're close friends to will be a little more frank about it. I don't let my friends smoke & mirrors me on the topic, so they speak frank around me.


The guy who said he's in month 2 and "wouldn't trade it for the world" is more full of shit than the diaper he's changing.

Originally Posted by Prison Bitch (Post 9906655)

My kids know they have an honest father, not a fluffer like you.

I enjoy my kids much better now that they're older. But I point out to expecting fathers the reality of the situation so they don't feel guilty about the feelings they are going to experience. It's really hard for men and women to become 1st time parents. Honesty is a good thing - you should try it sometime.

Originally Posted by Buehler445 (Post 9906665)

We have a friend that went that direction. It is certainly something to consider. Problem is the kid is going to be in daycare during the school year, and I doubt the provider we have lined up would be up for that, but we'll see.

Originally Posted by TrueFanDave (Post 9906682)

Congratulations!

Say goodbye to any disposable income you have.

Originally Posted by TrueFanDave (Post 9906682)

Congratulations!

Say goodbye to any disposable income you have.

Originally Posted by ndws (Post 9906705)

Not necessarily. As long as you have decent insurance, you'll have your deductible, copay, and any 80/20 if you have it. Which is a shot.

But beyond that, if you breastfeed you're not going to have a formula bill. A breastpump is actually covered I think in most insurances, so it quite possibly is a 100% payout for that if you get one.

Diapers, even disposable, haven't run as much as I thought it would. Things like desitin and whatever else...a friend will most likely arrange a baby shower and your first wave of all that stuff will most likely be bought for you.

Clothes? Just buy them as cheap as possible. They never get used enough to wear out. I think we have 3rd gen stuff for our kiddo and they still look pretty much brand new.

Craigslist can be your friend if you start shopping now and can cherry pick needed furniture, etc...

Originally Posted by ndws (Post 9906705)

Not necessarily. As long as you have decent insurance, you'll have your deductible, copay, and any 80/20 if you have it. Which is a shot.

But beyond that, if you breastfeed you're not going to have a formula bill. A breastpump is actually covered I think in most insurances, so it quite possibly is a 100% payout for that if you get one.

Diapers, even disposable, haven't run as much as I thought it would. Things like desitin and whatever else...a friend will most likely arrange a baby shower and your first wave of all that stuff will most likely be bought for you.

Clothes? Just buy them as cheap as possible. They never get used enough to wear out. I think we have 3rd gen stuff for our kiddo and they still look pretty much brand new.

Craigslist can be your friend if you start shopping now and can cherry pick needed furniture, etc...

Originally Posted by Flachief58 (Post 9906576)

You see those as bad things, I see them as memories that I would not trade for anything in the world.

Originally Posted by Prison Bitch (Post 9906655)

My kids know they have an honest father, not a fluffer like you.

I enjoy my kids much better now that they're older. But I point out to expecting fathers the reality of the situation so they don't feel guilty about the feelings they are going to experience. It's really hard for men and women to become 1st time parents. Honesty is a good thing - you should try it sometime.

Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO (Post 9906725)

JFC, I have a 16 year 12year 8 year and 9 month old. they all are the same amount of fun to do things with. you just are doing different things.

im actually very sad we wont be having any more. im going to miss them being little...