In my youth, I was a cheater. No longer. IF I ever make the vow...I will honor it and her. People do change....it's called growing up. But I don't expect this to be the norm. When I was young, I had a good outside and a bad inside. Now I have a good inside and bad outside!!!

You chose to build a second family and god bless you you seem to be happier than any other time I have known you. That is a decision I would never make however. IF my marriage didn't work for any reason I would never get married again as I wouldn't rebuild. I am putting everything into this one kid and that's it for me. On that note our marriage is very successful and seems to just get better with time which is more than I can say for just about any of the marriages around us. Codependency seems to be everywhere. I have no interest in living out my days in that enviroment.

So did this good inside come about with the lack of options your bad outside was providing? LMAO

ROFL Actually, my good outside is returning...coupled with a good inside...I COULD be considered quite a catch!!

I think it depends on circumstances.

If you're married....once a cheater ..always a cheater.

If you're just dating....well then I don't think that really counts.

If, say, it were my wife of 25 years, and we've had zero issues throughout the course of the ; and it happened in a drunken state etc. and she was desperately remorseful in her actions, it would be really hard for me not to forgive her.

So would you ask for your 1 time hall pass?

BTW, 25 years of marriage with zero issues is impossible. You know that right?

FYP

we've already talked; we both have a 1 time get out of jail free card if certain scenarios come up.; Hers is if David Beckham ever wants to tknock the bottom out of her, I told her have fun.

mine varies. lol. My current one is Emma Stone.

zero issue in terms of the relationship almost being derailed etc.
my wife and I lieterally have about 2 fights a year. for realz.

No, I believe that. We have what I call our annual and to tell you the truth it isn't all that. I think women just feel the need to test you once or twice a year for whatever reason.

I concur

Celebrated 20 years on wednesday...never would've happened if either on of us had cheated...we made that agreement before we tied the knot.

I'm crazy about my wife.

Depends.

I cheated on every G/F I ever had until my wife...

Congrats! You're two weeks ahead of me and Mrs. Coogs. 20 years on the 19th! Can't believe she has put up with me that long. And no, I have never strayed. Her... not so sure. My youngest son is very athletic... so I suspect the Schwan's man may be involved. :D