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Originally Posted by DJ's left nut
With a little more perusing I've also seen a pretty common trend:
"My husband of (15-20 years) who I raised (2-4) beautiful children with...."
Look, I hate hate hate quoting a comedian for rationalizing real world stuff, but Ron White's words ring true to me right now. "I'm a pretty good dog, but if you don't pet me every once in awhile it's hard to keep me under the porch..."
Everybody I've known that has kids has talked about their 'girlfriend wife' becoming their 'mom-wife' at some point in the child-rearing process. It's understandable; age and responsibilities makes it a little less likely that you're wife's going to meet you at the door in a nighty and rock your world. These are probably people in their late 40s and their sex lives probably just blow. Beyond that, I'm betting the husband has become an ancillary part of the wife's day to day function - she's mom first and that has to be pretty disappointing for someone that may have put a decade or more into this thing before the kids showed up. Getting shuffled to the side is going to be frustrating.
Ultimately, I'm betting most of these women just closed the spigot altogether and became that mommish shrew that makes many of us shudder when we think about 'the shackles of marriage'. And like it or not, there's biology involved in this that is going to drive a man to do stupid shit in that instance.
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Im guessing that's a lot of it but you didn't mention the biggest stressor in marriages: Money.