[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

I'm with gochiefs in that I'd have a very hard time marrying somebody that I'd never had sex with, but your stance is well-articulated here. Not that I've ever been married, but it's foolish to believe that all aspects of marriage can be understood before the fact.

Still, I found myself on gochiefs' side most of the time throughout their debate, even if his argumentative tactics weren't the kindest. Even among perfectly eligible young men and women, it's uncommon that one abstains from sex entirely before marriage.

Coming from a relatively progressive point-of-view: as a woman gets older, her virginity is undoubtedly a red flag without a good explanation (though there are exceptions for those with well-founded personal beliefs). It's just the same as it is for a man.

It's actually a ****ed up situation for the woman in this instance.

"Your 25 years old and a virgin? Either you're lying or you're ****ed up."
"Your 25 years old and have slept with over 25 dudes? Slut."

For a guy that becomes...

"Your 25 years old and a virgin? Those DnD tournaments must be fun, huh?"
"Your 25 years old have slept with over 25 chicks? Underachiever."