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Originally Posted by Canofbier
I'm with gochiefs in that I'd have a very hard time marrying somebody that I'd never had sex with, but your stance is well-articulated here. Not that I've ever been married, but it's foolish to believe that all aspects of marriage can be understood before the fact.
Still, I found myself on gochiefs' side most of the time throughout their debate, even if his argumentative tactics weren't the kindest. Even among perfectly eligible young men and women, it's uncommon that one abstains from sex entirely before marriage.
Coming from a relatively progressive point-of-view: as a woman gets older, her virginity is undoubtedly a red flag without a good explanation (though there are exceptions for those with well-founded personal beliefs). It's just the same as it is for a man.
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What kind of red flag is it? What does it mean to you?
Here are a few things it could mean:
* She's ugly or otherwise unattractive and can't get laid. - You don't need to know she's a virgin to recognize this.
* She is repulsed by the thought of sex - This can be determined through open discussion.
* She's waiting for marriage - Again, this is something you can find out through discussion. Whether it's a religious belief or fear of unwanted pregnancy or something else, it's something you can talk about.