[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by patteeu

What kind of red flag is it? What does it mean to you?

Here are a few things it could mean:

* She's ugly or otherwise unattractive and can't get laid. - You don't need to know she's a virgin to recognize this.
No disagreement here.

* She is repulsed by the thought of sex - This can be determined through open discussion.
I have a problem with this. I was in a relationship with a woman like this before, and although I respect her opinion, it was a major source of stress, which was bad for both of us. Given the pressure that society (and biological impulse) places on sex, I don't think that either she, I, or any man could be happy in that relationship unless there were some unusual circumstances involved.

* She's waiting for marriage - Again, this is something you can find out through discussion. Whether it's a religious belief or fear of unwanted pregnancy or something else, it's something you can talk about.
Again, this is an opinion that I can respect on its own. It's not one that I have had any direct relationship experience with, but I've had friends with this mindset who I noticed never had particularly deep or fulfilling relationships. I certainly won't claim that it's causal (or that there aren't any exceptions to my opinion), but I feel pretty comfortable saying that there's at least some degree of correlation between a restricted sex life and unsuccessful relationships.

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