Originally Posted by WhiteWhale
I can only speak for myself, but I never made an active decision about my sexuality.
Perhaps you or others hit 12 years old and had to sit down and weigh the pro's and con's, but for me and most people attraction is more of a base instinct than a well calculated decision.
Actions are decisions, but feelings are not.
Attraction is not a choice. IMO most women are attracted to other women as well as men. The very fact that she was in relationships with men before she decided to jump the beaver and make a relationship of it proves that out. Being with a woman is her preference at this time. Almost all people coming out gay have been in relationships with the opposite sex. I was just making fun of the whole gay gene thing. Obviously Ellen is not gay and does not have that gene. I have no idea where you got the whole 12 year old weigh things out delio based upon what I wrote.