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I'd like to think I'm equivalent, but we'll see - objectively I may not be.
I do quite a bit of stuff different than my parents did.
And in the end it may not matter. A podcast I listen to and respect commented that parents aren't engineers, they're shepherds. We as parents can't engineer an outcome, but control the environment they develop.
Accordingly, you can't look at outcomes as a reflection of parenting.
But I'm perhaps more cognizant of their emotional needs than strict compliance to dad's view on life. I'm also not making them work on the farm as early as I did. The farm is different enough and I streamlined a lot of the lower end work out of the operation that I don't think it's prudent...yet.
However, my wife works, and my mom was stay at home, so there is an argument I'm pretty deficient there.
It's also difficult to extrapolate across kids. My mom had my brother at 17, and me at 26. They changed A LOT between us, I think. They've admitted to me that they would do things with my brother differently. I think they'd do stuff with my sister differently later on in her youth/young adulthood, but I don't think they'll talk about that. I've looked back through my life, and I really can't point to anything they did wrong. They were pretty damn good to me.
Hopefully my kids will say the same thing about me in 20 years.
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