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In regards to the OP.....I can say without question that I am way better than my parents were when I was young. For all the nice things I can say about my dad when I got older, my parents were a train wreck.
My parents divorced when I was age 9....and they were both so immature after that for a few years that all we boys were to them were pawns in their game to spite the other. Luckily my paternal grandparents were the rock we boys could hide behind when things got tough. One particular incident still sticks in my mind even though it occurred when I was 9......
When the divorce decree was drawn up my dad asked for custody of the oldest child (my older brother) and my mom asked for custody of the youngest child (my younger brother)....now imagine my mom and dad's separate attorney's arguing in the hallway about who would accept custody of the middle child (guess who) so they could submit it to the Judge to accept and confirm. My grandmother was there thankfully and whisked all 3 of us boys away, but it was hard to "un-hear" what I did.
Both parents later apologized and blamed the respective attorney's, but I heard what I heard. (Forgiving is part of the healing....and that took some time)
So yes....I am a much better parent, but part of that is also because my wife (and her parents) helped mold a bit of a broken man.
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