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Originally Posted by keg in kc

It's not really 'shallow'. Attraction is a necessary part of a relationship, for both people, and physical appearance is as valid a facet of that as intelligence, personality, sense of humor, goals, and all the rest of those things that make us who we are. And often I think appearance is a window into some of those other traits.

Hell, I'll use myself an as example. I'm fat. I don't think it's shallow at all if someone finds me less attractive because of it. It's not their fault they see me the way they do. It's because I've been too lazy to exercise and too weak-willed to diet, and if I ever really want people to see me another way, I'll get off my ass and do something about it.

This. Exactly this.